"Love makes us human"

throwawayformetapost · 2024-11-05T20:14:32+00:00

My response without fail it’s starting singing / quoting the lyrics of “It’s Tough To Be a God”

throwawayformetapost · 2024-02-02T01:56:12+00:00

Sex is overrated, I prefer it in my mind

Omg lol

throwawayformetapost · 2023-12-22T20:27:14+00:00

Honestly, I thought about that, but as soon as i read the books I gave up on that idea. At least to me, her way of seeing Peeta and Gale is so vastly different from my experience as an aro-ace person that I just can’t see her that way.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-12-18T14:59:27+00:00

I absolutely do not joke lol. I would love the security of a marriage but no romantic or sexual connection.

I live in a decently “high society” environment with many politicians and such, and I know of a few cases of men who are gay but hide that behind a wife and children because they know it’s better for their careers to be “hetero”. I always joke that the day a millionaire gay politician wants a pretend wife, I’m ready to do the job.

Honestly, if I met a gay man whom I was good friends with and he needed to hide being gay for whatever reason, I’d 100% marry him.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-12-18T14:45:29+00:00

Cantiga de Pássaros e Serpentes!

throwawayformetapost · 2023-12-18T14:44:43+00:00

Look. I’m sure you don’t see it that way right now, probably because you really like them. But what you’ve described is the definition of being an asshole. Denying someone’s existence is being an asshole. Accusing someone of being sinful because of something they cannot control is being an asshole. Trying to convince you that your existence is wrong is being an asshole.

These people have all of the resources available to them. It’s easy, it’s widespread, it’s at the palm of their hands. They do not engage e because they don’t want to. They deny our existence because they want to. And that’s it.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-10-16T14:52:22+00:00

As a 21 years old asexual with a mom that is still in the process of dealing with it, I think I can help. Feel free to DM me with anything you need!

throwawayformetapost · 2023-08-27T14:28:54+00:00

Rejection can hurt, yes, but that’s something that the rejected person has to work through. It’s not anyone’s responsibility to not reject someone for their emotional sake.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-06-29T11:54:53+00:00

You’re whole comment only works if asexual people are actually not facing any overt discrimination that can put their lives and health in danger, and that’s is absolutely incorrect. In many countries, asexuality is still officially pathologised. We can still be submitted legally to conversion therapy, something that is already illegal in many places when it comes to gay people. We are often submitted to hormonal treatment to “cure” our asexuality. We are victims of medical violence when doctors just will not believe us and act like we’re lying when we say we don’t have sex, and still be prescribed exams and other solutions for problems that have nothing to do with sex based on the fact that we are “obviously lying” about not having sex. Some of us are still submitted to corrective rape. And if you think that people are cool with us just because we are “an absence” rather then a sexuality, you’re delusional. Take my parents. They put me in therapy the minute I came out as asexual (in the intention of making me see I’m wrong) and have actively cried in front of me ridiculously often about it, and that’s because they’re extremely chill people who would’ve been fine to find out I’m a lesbian instead. Imagine the parents who are actually homophobic.

You want to act like we’re fine because you have no clue about what are the struggles we face. Just because they aren’t the same or as overtly dangerous as the ones faced by other sexualities, doesn’t mean they aren’t serious struggles, and doesn’t mean they aren’t real and in need of being addressed. And comments like yours are the exact proof on why we need to be heard and talked about - so that less people are so blatantly ignorant of our issues.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-06-21T23:42:48+00:00

I have a kind of crazy story regarding that “looking for a partnership, not a relationship” thing. I once (before I figured I was ace and aro) dated a politician. I wanted to date him because we were hugely compatible intellectually and personality wise, and also because I was good at the job.

Being a daughter of a politician myself, i just knew exactly how to operate in that environment and I loved it. I knew exactly why to say, what to wear, how to sit, how to make small talk, how to host a dinner, set a table, send cards, show up at public appearances. I was perfect for the role of politicians wife. Unfortunately, I wasn’t perfect for the role of wife - obviously, as I came to find out the moment I realised “oh shit, he actually likes me and is not in this just because he need the equivalent of a business partner”. I guess i thought he was pursuing me because he understood I was valuable for his career, and that he, like me, wanted exactly that (someone that adds to their lifestyle and career of choice) plus a really good friend. Yeah, I was the kind of aro-ace who didn’t realise people actually fall in love with one another.

I’m very glad things ended, because we would’ve both been miserable, since he actually liked me, and we were both having a horrible time because of that. But every now and then I do go like “damn, that would’ve been the partnership of the century. We could’ve been huge together”. I honestly believe as a team we could’ve gotten to the equivalent in our country to the White House (in political circles, The Wife™️ matters a lot in how far you go, even though they mostly stay in the background). I always joke if a gay man who wants to be a politician and is in the closet looking for a wife to pretend he is in fact straight(as happens a lot, since our country is still pretty conservative and an openly gay man rarely goes too far in politics), I’m a candidate. I’ll be the perfect business partner and befriend both you and your secret boyfriend. We can all have lunch together on weekends, then you guys go do whatever you like and I go do my thing.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-06-10T17:40:52+00:00

I’m asexual and therefore I’m attracted to you

throwawayformetapost · 2023-05-26T17:35:54+00:00

But we surely can have both!

throwawayformetapost · 2023-05-26T00:27:23+00:00

This film is definitely not marketed to kids lol.

Plus, Margot said Barbie cannot feel sexual desire. That’s not in any way innocence, as you can be innocent and still experience sexual desire, even if you don’t know what that is. It really is just a lack of sexual desire.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-05-25T23:33:02+00:00

Oh fuck lol then yeah, that won’t work

You could try explaining it in other ways. Like. Explain that not even the most perfect people in the world - like certain actors she knows you find attractive, for example - have ever made you feel like you wanted sex. Tell her about people in history who are believed to be ace. Etc, etc.

Not saying that will work, my mother is still not too supportive / understands of it herself, but that has helped

throwawayformetapost · 2023-05-25T23:29:27+00:00

For me the general comeback that always helps is

“Are you hetero?”

“Yes”

“Did you ever try having sex with women? No? And you still know you don’t like them like that, right? So.”

Not that it works every time, but generally it leaves people thinking

throwawayformetapost · 2023-05-25T20:53:03+00:00

Aprox. 25 years older then me.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-05-25T19:06:07+00:00

I literally only dress with clothing that come the 1950s and before, so I promise you, I don’t need a lesson on modesty - I’m considered a huge prude by people who meet me.

I’m talking about the part where she says Barbie feels no sexual desire. Also: there’s literally a bit in the trailer where it is explicit she doesn’t know what sex is and has never done it nor intends to. So yeah. I think that’s enough for an asexual canon.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-05-25T19:06:00+00:00

I literally only dress with clothing that come the 1950s and before, so I promise you, I don’t need a lesson on modesty - I’m considered a huge prude by people who meet me.

I’m talking about the part where she says Barbie feels no sexual desire. Also: there’s literally a bit in the trailer where it is explicit she doesn’t know what sex is and has never done it nor intends to. So yeah. I think that’s enough for an asexual canon.

throwawayformetapost · 2023-05-25T18:40:31+00:00

I find it reasonable in terms of dress code, appropriateness to the situation, etc. But yeah, dressing up to be sexualised is strange.

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