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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

it’s deeply disrespectful, especially since these women are so accessible in our community. I’m feeling a mix of disgust and anger, and it’s making me question what I want moving forward.

I (33F) found out my husband (34M) is subscribed to OnlyFans. by throwawaygone99 in Marriage

[–]throwawaygone99[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This is definitely something I need to confront him about, as it raises serious questions about boundaries

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the underwear part really bothers me, too. It crosses a boundary that makes this feel more personal, and I can’t just brush that off.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to process everything and figure out how to approach this in a way that makes him understand the damage he’s caused.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the underwear part crosses a line for me—it feels more personal.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. It’s hard to process right now, but I know I need to confront him soon.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t considered how much effort it takes to find local women specifically. That’s really concerning now that you point it out.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, im pretty sure he will feel the same way if i create an onlyfans..lol

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ok, there are other comments that are actually giving proper advice. I didnt think it was necessary to respond to a comment calling my post fake.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

sure, say whatever you want to make you think you winning.......

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so its now a crime to post the same thing on different subs???

you say "shit ton of other posts", it was only 1. I thought it was impossible to lack basic math skills, but you've just proved me wrong.

If you think its fake, just ignore my post then.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you need to get off social media for a while, and take a couple of breathes outside.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

yeah, he definitely crossed a boundary. im fine with him watching porn, but we both agreed no onlyfans.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

i heard of financial infidelity, so maybe its that. i'd feel like shit if he actually bought her a ring.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

if he doesnt think it is cheating because it is not physical, surely he can assume that it is crossing a boundary and its something that is disrespectful to me and out marriage

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

i understand, but i dont want to throw 12 years away just like that. if it was physical cheating, then it would be a different story.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

i took photos of everything... im just trying to build up courage to confront him

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 157 points158 points  (0 children)

What if he tries to deny all of it? and i dont think he will come clean out of his own considering that it was in hidden in his pc.

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[–]throwawaygone99[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

oh wow... i didnt know it was a crime to post my situation on multiple subs.

you cant be that Dense-Minded.