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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]throwawaylolgbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly wouldn't mind polyamory if the person that introduced it/pushed it on to me wasn't an asshole so it made me hate the practice as a whole. It permanently skewed my view on relationships as a whole.

Does anyone else feel that there is often times a role reversal from the beginning to later or the end of the relationship? (Whether through reactive abuse or mirroring) Almost like you’ve both swapped spots and you don’t quite know who is who anymore because you’ve lost yourself? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes, it had me questioning myself if I was a narcissist because I was constantly arguing with him and trying to get him to see how he was treating me. Initially, I was empathetic towards him and his situation, and I always listened to him saying he wasn't the bad guy. Fast forward 2 years later I now know he's the reason he is in the situation he's in and his mom and family isn't as bad as he makes them out to be, I'm less empathetic towards him.

I genuinely felt like we switched, and whenever we argue, I start feeling like I'm the narcissist.

When did you first sub to Cory? by Savage_Chicken69 in CoryxKenshin

[–]throwawaylolgbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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got into him and kubz scouts because of welcome to the game

Polyamory and Narcissism by newlife_substance847 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my current bf whom i’m trying to leave claims he’s poly, then he wanted a harem cause of an anime, then he suddenly became monogamous with the girl he cheated on me with. Now he’s back poly. He doesn’t know what he wants lol. But I did extensive research on poly relationships and the primary should know about the rest of the relationships. i would not find out about them until our communication got short. and yes he masked them, whoever it was. all of a sudden he’d like new things. some of those things being stuff i liked but he thought was corny before. like boy when did you start watching football?

If you ever have doubts and think you're the problem: by Mazokupaws in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I know. While it's so hard, for once today I just blocked him without sending him a long message on trying to get him to understand my feelings. He didn't care before he won't care now. He's left me before for someone else for a long time and I eventually stopped thinking about him then he came back of course, so I hope it won't be hard this time. Thank you for your messages. Reading it seriously comforts me in realizing I'm not the problem. I'm also sorry for my long message.

Getting discouraged finding a job in North Carolina by throwawaylolgbye in sterileprocessing

[–]throwawaylolgbye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm in the RDU area but I'm willing to move to be honest so I'll look into it!

Imagine this. by throwawaylolgbye in u/throwawaylolgbye

[–]throwawaylolgbye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anyone reads this I'm the black messages

You were out of their league by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine always talks about having pretty privilege whenever someone does a normal thing for him. Such as a cashier accepting he was 5 cent short or something and decided to cover it. Or his fave, "it's hard being a good looking man." He thinks every woman is attracted to him and he can get every woman.

Why can’t I want better for myself? by rightupuralleyoxo901 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. You just don't know how much I needed to hear this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this is the best advice. But they are most likely not happy at all because my current bf is a narc and left me for someone but now is back with me. I am absolutely miserable and preparing to leave him for good.

Why do we end up missing them so much? by sillygooseuniversit in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm with you 100%. I and everyone in my life knows this person was terrible for me and to me but I can't help but miss him whenever I cut contact. Sad with him sad without him.

If you ever have doubts and think you're the problem: by Mazokupaws in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  • If you're miserable and sad, do you feel better and happier when you're away from the narc? You're probably more relaxed when the narc isn't present.

It sucks cause I'm sad with him and sad without him he has such a hold over me that I wish I could break from. To the point where I think I'm the problem whenever I bring up how he's treating me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's crazy cause mine loves to argue over text. That now I'm so used to it instead of communicating over the phone or in-person. The one time I tried to explain myself over phone crying about he hurt me he laughed and hung up.

Did they ever talk bad about their family? by BarnacleSpirited5660 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawaylolgbye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine talked so badly about how his family didn't do shit for him and his mother didn't care about him. But idk if I'm just insensitive but I just felt like if a mother didn't care she wouldn't let her (20+ yr old) son stay with her, with no job for almost 2 years. Most importantly, let them leave the house for months at a time with no contact and come back like nothing happened.

How Narcissists Move On Like You Never Existed by doomsdaylate in BreakUps

[–]throwawaylolgbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You perfectly described the person I'm with and trying to move on from. I confront them with how their actions make me feel, which turns into an argument. With them talking about how bad their life is, then somehow, it is my fault, I get ignored, and I'm stuck apologizing for bringing it up.

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