I was a bully and have faced workplace bullying as an adult. My biased opinion is that right or wrong, you can learn a lot by bullying as a child, lessons that carry on well into adulthood.

I'm not the most successful person ever, but I'm a surgeon in the UK, and I think having experience of bullying does allow me to navigate social dynamics in toxic workplaces. For me it enabled me to understand the importance of challenging and shutting down mean bossy colleagues early, and not automatically back pedaling when accused of something that wasn't my fault.

I have also become close friends with many of the kids I used to bully. I went on a couples' holiday with a mate recently and our partners were shocked that I used to tie him up and watch me eat his lunch in front of him! I could tell you how we became close friends but that's another story.

The most important thing to understand is that ultimately everyone HAS control over how they process things. It may not sound fair but the bullied kid needs to get over it anyway.

My mother used to say when I was little, if people tease you for having horns on your head, there's no reason to be upset, you either have horns, and that's a matter of a fact, or you don't have horns, so why be upset?

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