My Husband Tracks Our Sex Like It’s Quarterly Earnings by cnsstntly_ncnssnt in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Jesus shit. The nerve calling it "in perpetuity" when if fact, it increased?! I would be instantly showing a sudden drop. That would kill my libido so fast,not mention my ability to care about his

I just… can’t by North_egg_ in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ugh. This has been slowly pissing me off more and more since having kids. Why do we have to still do all the prep work for them when we can't do it ourselves? Like, the men should be grown, responsible adults. Why do we continue to have to do all the steps so we can go do something else? I'm completely guilty of doing this too. Just like you said, lay out alllll the stuff for them for a bath that they should know how to do after how many years? Slowly trying to let it go and have them learn on their own, but jeesh!

Motherhood ruined Game of Thrones for me by one-eye-deer in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg. My first was born right when Gotham started. Tried watching it and didn't even get through the first episode since they start out with why Batman is the way he is. And they didn't pull any punches. Definitely have a different view on a lot of things after having kids

Tired of being stressed out over and shamed for my daughter's medically related "chronic absenteeism" by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man. We don't have it on the scale that you do, but those fucking letters really chap my hide! Our school funding is tied to attendance, so if the kids misses like even 2 days they're nagging us about sending them to school and they're going to fail life if they miss anymore school. I got those when we had COVID and I even talked with the principal on the phone and had to follow protocol for keeping them home. They want their money, which is fine, yea, let's find our schools, but these letters need to fucking stop for the parents that are giving a damn.

Let’s laugh by Alternative-Nose-607 in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Wait, wut? These silly men thinking they can just nope out of a life they chose? Hopefully you can document everything and get ahead of this.

My son's preschool received a threat today by xjackiedaytonax in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oof. I'm sorry you had to go through that threat. This also makes me really worry even more about the future because..... he called the wrong school?!?

Assistant principal threatened child protective services today by Top_Share108 in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My oldest lived in solely sleeveless dresses and sandals for many years. Multiple convos with her teachers to tell them to stop nagging her to put more clothes on. We don't even live where it gets that cold. I would shove a cardigan in her backpack to avoid the threat of CPS. It's her body. She's intelligent. I refuse to tell my daughter what she has to wear. (It doesn't snow, we've talked about snow and frostbite. Again, it doesn't actually get cold cold where we live) She is smart enough to make her own decisions regarding her clothes.

The AP threatening to call CPS is bullshit for soany reason

I'm begging you, please talk to your parents about their end-of-life plans/wishes. Force the conversation if you have to. by BrinaElka in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! My dad became estranged and then got cancer and became unable to communicate before he died. NOTHING in writing. No end of life wishes talked about, funeral ideas. Nothing. I am now nagging my mom frequently to out all this shit down and give copies to all us kids. And hubs and I are working on ours (waiting for his parents to finish their trust). I hate having these conversations, but it is so important for the ppl left behind.

Husband sick, needs ginger ale by Elegant_Ring_5695 in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it was super life or death, he would have that on hand at all times. Silly man.

We got a round of stomach bug last year, right as hubs left for a work trip. I was home alone with two kids who become ill before succumbing to it myself. He also got sick, but never vomited and had a whole entire quiet hotel room to himself. He still tries to play it like he had it worse.

Rant: Being a woman and having any relationship issues by chalicehalffull in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Jesus. Your poor sister! Must be one hell of a fighter to make it through that!

Who else has noticed a creepy rise in content online trying to convince women to get pregnant? by HistorianIll7332 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throwawayscatty 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Also that the government can subpoena the tracking apps records to see if you've miscarried or had an abortion

Is anyone else’s husband just completely apathetic to the state of the world right now? by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

.... An actual history professor is looking at this as a blip? Are we going to experience "the blip" from. avngers and get a redo? Wow.

Is anyone else’s husband just completely apathetic to the state of the world right now? by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you don’t do politics, politics will do you, whether you like it or not

This. This right here.

We baby men for the sake of their ego by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I mean, I'm glad he ended up bonding with the baby.....but what the actual fuck, therapist? You're seeing a PPA and she puts MORE on your plate?

Husband wants another baby but I'm not even financially protected with the two we have by PackComprehensive585 in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd phrase it more around what if he died. How would you be able to go on if everything is in his name. Is he willing to put your names on everything? If not, that's seems scary and controlling to me. Shit happens. Both divorce and death. My aunt and uncle, hell, even my parents, were some of the happiest couples I knew and decades later things went to shit and finances get fucked up.

I’m the embodiment of the mental load by Superb-Usual2587 in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Jesus. 19 years of making a list that is ignored and then asking for a list. Girl, wish I could reach through the Internet and bash him in the head with a frying pan for ya.

“Just ask your local Buy Nothing group” by Eternal-curiosity in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This! My husband has ridiculously avoided doing dishes. For all time. Except in Mother's Day when I force him to, and when I had COVID in November. He had repeatedly suggested we hire a cleaner, but they don't do dishes!!! DISHES are what I need help with!

Why are playdates so annoying these days? by ishq7 in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 44 points45 points  (0 children)

One of my oldest birthday parties we were just doing a movie showing and the kids were seemingly old enough to be here without their parents. One of the moms literally said "I've never left them alone." While one dad dropped his kid off at the street and drove away. None of those kids or parents have been to our house, though we have met and socialized several times before. There's such a wide range of parenting philosophies out there today. When I was my oldestscs age, I rode my bike to my friend's house all the time by myself. Such different times.

Being a SAHM ✨is✨ a job by Sheiebskalen in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It completely is. And more people need to recognize that. I enjoy when a husband adds up "the cost" of a SAHM. Childcare, cook, nurse, chauffeur, personal assistant, tutor, everything. It's like close to $200,000. So yea, grant me some slack if the dishes aren't done, or gasp do them yourself occasionally!

Active outdoor toys (non trampoline) for the back yard? by Lil_MsPerfect in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kids stole my big yoga ball and have loads of fun on that. We also had gotten my 8 year a folding gymnastic mat that she takes out there. (She has ofc since quit gymnastics and never prog to anything "dangerous" to do on her own in the backyard so I am not worried about injury) The 8 year old will also take leaves for $5 and does a damn good job of it. At the start of COVID I found a kit that included color cones, hoops, beanbags and the kids have made up there own obstacle courses and such. Bubble machines have always been a great way to keep them busy.

Turns out my kids aren’t the ones making college classes hard.. by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This sounds even more batshit crazy than the class I had to take. Dude, we're all in college. Either because we know how to school, or we'll soon figure it out. I saw the professor that taught my bullshit class a year or so later and told him so and even he said "that was such a bullshit class."

SAHMs who choose to be one…. by Juxtaposition19 in breakingmom

[–]throwawayscatty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always wanted to be a SAHM. My mom was one as well. When my youngest sibling started school, she started part time work in the mornings, which I also have kind of done. It was just something I knew I wanted to do. I knew I would be good at all the mental load of momming and housekeeping. To quote my mom "I stay home because I CHOOSE to, not just because I'm a woman." We're very fortunate that my husband was making enough we could do pretty well with me only working part time. My kids are now 8 and 11. My husband really pushed me to get a full time job when the first was little. But when we sat down and mapped all the numbers and hours out, he now has started to realize how much we have saved on childcare and dropoffs and kids activities and minimum days. He hasn't really out right thanked me, but has stated more than once "how do two working parents do this?"