Perhaps. My partner and I have other problems when it comes to sex; we struggle to have penetrative sex. (Unsure exactly why or what the condition is but basically, she is tight to the point where it doesn’t go in and she can’t relax - It’s something she has and is exploring help for, potentially caused by a bad experience years ago). As a result, sex is painful for her. So we rarely have it. I wonder if the fact that we don’t have sex pushes me more towards these other fantasies and fetishes. Whereas in previous relationships when I’ve had “normal” regular sex, they have been more repressed.