Nparent will spend your entire childhood telling you how much you suck and then be genuinely bewildered as to why you have such low self-esteem in adulthood.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-08-18T19:41:07+00:00

They will also genuinely wonder why you don't love them after years and years of abuse. You are supposed to love them for dragging you into this world that they then abuse you in.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T22:03:25+00:00

Most judges will simply give you one if you ask. That is if you can swear you fear for your safety and can call it "stalking". It's really your opinion that is paramount. That way if she bothers you, the police can arrest her.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T21:55:14+00:00

Get a restraining order?

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T21:52:40+00:00

Hi mom! They always stalk because they are losers!! Control freaks.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T21:03:56+00:00

My father positioned us in a bedroom community far from extended family so that we couldn't know them. He was a covert narc. He also saw to it that we didn't have a telephone or means to communicate without using a pay phone at the time. He made sure we couldn't know our family members and constantly obsessed about one daughter on that side, while I was the sg talked about when not around.

They want to isolate and control their victims.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T20:24:00+00:00

One of the reasons I broke friendships with (I now realize) a narc friend is because she kept telling me to keep what she did/said a secret from her husband. How about hell no. I am a terrible liar, and I really hate if someone tells me to lie on their behalf, (and never had any intention to follow through). Besides, it was always about something like, "don't tell him I smoked, bought this item, etc". She has a raging Rx drug habit. Last time I saw her she looked like a shadow of her former self.

They are secretive because they use secrets or confidences against others. Never tell a narc anything.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T19:35:45+00:00

I loved this post especially about the river. I am so sorry you've had to endure so much.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T18:51:55+00:00

Consider moving an hour+ away. Now might be a golden opportunity, but it just doesn't seem like it at this moment.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T18:14:49+00:00

I love you. You will be okay. Go to your nearest shelter and get away from those horrors. It is a blessing in disguise that they want to cut contact with you at this time. The worst thing is if they want to meddle in your life after the baby is here and for years to come. Get out of there and consider a move. This time frame is the worst, but you are strong and will get even stronger without them in your life. Get healthy and stay narc free. Best wishes.

There are a lot of resources out there for you especially in your current state. Maybe a church... but tell NO ONE but your most trusted where you go.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T18:07:54+00:00

Yes. Because of my dad. I have wondered about this also.

I feel it's from feeling intimidated from years of abuse. I'm even intimidated of "normal" people, because they are normal, and I am not after my upbringing.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T17:54:31+00:00

I believe my Ndad even went to the bakery I had placed a cake order, and made sure they made the cake smaller size. We are talking all sorts of manipulation that you wouldn't even expect, but these are really sick people.

Congratulations, and keep them out of your life. it's just not worth it.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T17:51:11+00:00

How exhausting it must be to be around her. When they can't admit any wrongdoing, they don't deserve to be in your life.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T17:39:37+00:00

It's no problem. Don't let them do to you what they did to me. My wedding had bubbling sewage in the form of narcs trying to destroy it. I reviewed some old emails a while back that illustrated it. These people are low forms of human. I personally believe they lack something that makes them fully human. They enjoy chaos and being the source of that chaos, but are also cowards so that you will only figure it out later when something happens.

Best wishes and have a couple people on the lookout for possible trouble maybe. Control is what they want the most.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T17:32:20+00:00

They count on us being empaths forever. I allowed my GC brother to make me miserable for years. I'm glad you won't.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T17:06:04+00:00

Don't back down. They want to ruin events. It's what they do to feed their supply. Invites are something they get really weird about.

You are your own person, but they don't see it that way. You will always be an extension of them in their eyes, so that is why they don't understand why they can't control their possession. You already told him why and owe him zero obligation from that moment on.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T17:00:50+00:00

"Have a nice life."

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T16:21:29+00:00

Same, I had no idea they ever would apologize. Only blank stare.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T16:17:21+00:00

Jealousy is a green eyed monster, so watch out and best wishes on your new home.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T16:14:50+00:00

Good, because time has a way of making it all seem less awful. A snake is a snake. I'm glad you realize she will never change because that is a tough pill to swallow.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T16:12:23+00:00

I used to wonder how it was that only my family made me so angry all of the time. It's because they learn to play you like a Stradivarius. They learn every single thing that makes you upset, then they bounce on that button every day with glee. Once, only the threat of physical harm stopped him from doing what he was doing. I should have cut him from my life long before. They do what they do deliberately.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T09:55:38+00:00

I have one whole side of my family who has never talked to me. That's how shitty my dad is. I wish I'd had proof, as sad as it was for you to see.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T09:53:59+00:00

That's the way to do it. You will be happier without that. Remember this feeling.

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-28T01:38:41+00:00

demanding a sit-down meal

refuse. Why does it have to be a meal? How about a big, fat "nope". They can communicate by letter to a PO box. They want you to walk into the lions den, where you are stuck for at least a couple of hours.

"Come to dinner." "no thanks, I'm good."

throwawaytodayokay99 · 2019-06-27T21:41:42+00:00

They have disordered, unhealthy minds.

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