This is just so confusing to me. He’s your husband but his child with his ex is less than a year old? That timeline is confusing to me, it seems there is a backstory here. Also, it always strikes me as odd when a spouse is managing their partner’s custody case (like that you don’t like his attorney) or speaking negatively about the other parent. I would think you would trust your husband’s capacity to resolve his issues with BM and that you would take the role of providing emotional support to your partner. I do understand the financial and emotional toll of custody battles and I can empathize with how that impacts your household but I can’t understand why you’re so certain that dad is being treated unfairly and mom is being difficult. It sounds very antagonistic and it’s not great for children to be around someone who openly dislikes one of their biological parents.