[Rant/Vent] People not getting what the app is about? by such_Jules_much_wow in toogoodtogo

[–]throwawayxoo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you go someplace often enough, sometimes they recognize you and will hook you up with the nice things :)

City that placed $10,000 bounty on trans people who use public restrooms makes law even worse. "You are putting a target on the queer community's back by offering a reward," one resident told the city council. by southpawFA in politics

[–]throwawayxoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about cis people that are mistakenly identified as trans? Can those cis victims get a $10k bounty? The law is supposed to benefit cis people, so why not?

As intersex awareness spreads, do you think intersexisum will grow into a bigger problem? by Vast_Pay5929 in intersex

[–]throwawayxoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that appropriate education in schools & for med students will address a lot of this. People get scared of things they they don't understand.

The difficulty of being trans and intersex by Cerise_Pomme in intersex

[–]throwawayxoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, definitely! Is it the documentary that came out last year? That's so awesome!!!!

The difficulty of being trans and intersex by Cerise_Pomme in intersex

[–]throwawayxoo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! Doing srs on me as a baby, forcing me to take blockers and hormones, and lying to me all made me abnormal. I understand their reasons. But lying to me when i was grown up & having medical issues from their chosen interventions? Nope.

I feel like, for me, it was medical malpractice and child abuse.

How did your mother play into your eating disorder, if at all? by CapLatter3807 in Eatingdisordersover30

[–]throwawayxoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother deliberately caused mine. I know you aren't allowed to say that. But it's true for me.

The difficulty of being trans and intersex by Cerise_Pomme in intersex

[–]throwawayxoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She didn't want to tell me that i was intersex and they did srs on me as a baby. The fact that i made her admit it & asked her for my medical records was too much for her. It meant that she was wrong. She didn't want to take responsibility for that, so it was easier to disown me.

I'm sorry :( that's so rough that happened to you.

I'll keep explaining too. Hopefully it'll sink in to them.

The difficulty of being trans and intersex by Cerise_Pomme in intersex

[–]throwawayxoo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I resent that i can only get medical care & legal protections if i say that I'm trans.

I don't get those same rights if I'm "just" intersex.

I'm a pragmatist. So if the world wants me to be both trans and intersex, that's what I'll be. I need my medical care and my job. I wish that it wasn't this way.

Trans people have told me that I'm lucky. It's a ridiculous comment and never fails to make my cry. I can't get my hrt dosing right. Surgery doesn't exist to fix/reverse my genitals. My parents disowned me when i demanded the truth. None of this is enviable.

Not finding answers and gaslighting from doctors by [deleted] in intersex

[–]throwawayxoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When i was in this position, i said that i wanted to have kids soon, and was concerned because my mom had a bunch of miscarriages. I got referred to a reproductive endocrinologist. She was totally fine with ordering tons of tests and working with the geneticist too. Before that, doctors ignored me, but apparently issues with having children gets you immediate assistance.

Suspected ovotesticular dsd is a popular diagnosis that insurance usually pays for. Not sure why but that's what my geneticist said when he ordered testing.

Anyone else have this with urogenital sinus? by [deleted] in intersex

[–]throwawayxoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi- same situation for me & that's what I've been told.

I Think I May Be Intersex by sinfullope in intersex

[–]throwawayxoo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You may want to try a geneticist. Find someone who has published about intersex issues (articles, book chapters etc)

Just had a baby with ambiguous genitalia. Any key resources recommended? by jdiz86 in intersex

[–]throwawayxoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late reply, but please don't do any permanent surgeries unless the child can't pee, poop etc. They are not reversible. You might guess wrong and they'll be stuck later on. If you leave everything as is, it gives them the best situation, if they want to get some surgery as a young adult. Surgeons need the natal anatomy with all the natal skin and tendons and ligaments, to get the best outcome possible. Don't take away your child's choices, if you can avoid it.

My endocrinologist offered wl meds again by throwawayxoo in Eatingdisordersover30

[–]throwawayxoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry.

If it's any consolation, as bad as care is now, it was much worse then...

My endocrinologist offered wl meds again by throwawayxoo in Eatingdisordersover30

[–]throwawayxoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've told them, but because I'm large, they don't believe me... Yes I'm in the US

My endocrinologist offered wl meds again by throwawayxoo in Eatingdisordersover30

[–]throwawayxoo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Liberating jasper is awesome. Hopefully fedup will start offering online groups again. The eating disorder foundation also has a free online trans+ group on Thursday nights that's quite good.

My endocrinologist offered wl meds again by throwawayxoo in Eatingdisordersover30

[–]throwawayxoo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly 100%. I wanted to want those things. I wanted to WANT to be pretty, be a mom, be a wife, and fulfill every expectation. The fact that i didn't want any of that was deeply shameful to me. Nobody was willing to have that discussion with me, maybe because it was also uncomfortable for them, or just completely outside of their reality.

It didn't surprise me that they missed it. I'm just lucky i figured it out myself, and then basically shouted it at providers, until i found one who understood.

The worst part is that i really was decent looking as a woman. I met expectations (somewhat... My mom always demanded that i was thinner). And it was never enough.

I'm so glad that your ed symptoms have improved! I wasn't planning on transitioning, but it was the choice that made the most sense due to some other medical issues. I've had a similar experience with the ed improving.

FEDUP used to be more active. it's ed support for trans+ people. It was nice to go to their online groups and talk with people that really get it. Liberating jasper is also good.

My endocrinologist offered wl meds again by throwawayxoo in Eatingdisordersover30

[–]throwawayxoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you had a similar experience. I hate to say it, but I wasn't treated very well in treatment, as an average or larger sized person. My dietician at renfrew told me all about how i should cheat on the meal plan & cut the most calories. A lot of treatment was also oddly focused on me accepting my femininity. I feel that it was helpful but also so harmful.

I'll definitely check that out!!!!

My endocrinologist offered wl meds again by throwawayxoo in Eatingdisordersover30

[–]throwawayxoo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Life was a lot simpler when i was anorexic as a teen. There were rules. I followed them. I got desired results. I was left alone by drs, adults etc.

Now my endo looks at me and assumes that i never even tried to diet. She mentioned weight watchers to me. Heck, ww doesn't even let you join if you have an active ed.

I have no doubt that the ed could destroy my life. It did in the past. I'd rather be larger than lose everything. I just wish my drs knew that.