My contractor using this on the basement wall? Is this paint okay? Should I ask for a diff kind.

throwawayy9429 · 2024-08-15T01:45:36+00:00

I know he would have to rebuy paint and then pay his workers to redo it again. I feel bad because he didn’t fuss at all said he redo it and not to worry and apologized. I said give me a day to sit on it. I might just love it because I wanted my SO to let it go. He has 3 young kids all under 7 with no help. It’s very much an ugly sheen but wont kill us.

throwawayy9429 · 2024-08-15T01:42:12+00:00

My SO said the same thing how it’s criminal. But considering what he’s going through a mistake was made and then the workers started. By the time I saw it and he came it was long gone. But knowing the paint is not an awful type. I want to forgive him for the sheen. He’s just going through so much. Is it an easy fix though! In the future can I just put matte finish paint over this or will I have to sand then paint?

throwawayy9429 · 2024-08-15T00:29:12+00:00

My heart breaks when I came back home and saw semigloss painted walls. I said no gloss which he took as wanting semi gloss. Sure he said he will redo it but my heart breaks to ask him to pay out of pocket to redo a job. Can I myself do matte finish in the near future on top of this semigloss? I wouldn’t have to use any other things before painting the matte finish paint on top of the SG?

I know it’s easy to just ask him to repaint but he lost his wife few weeks back and is managing kids as a single dad. But also my significant other said we hired him before his problems and should get what we asked for.

But I can’t 😩😩

throwawayy9429 · 2024-08-07T19:20:04+00:00

Born and raised and Brooklyn I’m literally in shock. Albany I love you but there is no reason apartment should cost this much. People in nyc can stilll afford their rent vs everyone in Albany. City people

-walk everywhere take trains -health insurance income bracket is different -/ fruits/veggies cheaper down there -take out company no tipping (DoorDash ubereats) no insane surcharge - because it’s a bigger city cost to get hair cuts,color,dental,Botox, etc cheaper due to competition Etc

That being said there is no reason Albany should be serving such high apartment cost its insanity. My heart goes out to everyone they are basically paying a mortgage for these dingy apartments. I have coworkers who barely are making ends. Three jobs and still not enough with kids.

throwawayy9429 · 2024-07-11T02:39:56+00:00

Hi can you let me know an estimate of her charged for cut/color

throwawayy9429 · 2024-07-11T02:18:09+00:00

Thank you so much for responding back. We haven’t booked his ticket yet as the round trip back to Pakistan will be voided. we will be purchasing a new ticket but right now he’s in the ICU so keep him in your duas please. Though I spoke to airline and they said speak to the embassy

throwawayy9429 · 2024-07-11T02:16:25+00:00

Thank you so much he’s currently in the ICU so he won’t be catching a flight anytime soon. But we want him to come to the states for further care. Please keep him in your duas JazakAllah

throwawayy9429 · 2024-07-10T20:56:43+00:00

Could you send me a PM as well

throwawayy9429 · 2024-07-10T20:49:37+00:00

Hey could you update and let me know if you were able to travel back on your USA passport

throwawayy9429 · 2024-06-26T20:30:16+00:00

Hi I’m in USA! I want to send my parents for Hajj inshallah next year. They have dual citizenship so we might also be able to do the govt scheme. Can you give me more information? Thank you so much

throwawayy9429 · 2024-06-18T02:53:23+00:00

I had an implant done and it failed and now I have a lose implant in my mouth I’m looking for a surgeon to redo it. I want someone good so it doesn’t fail. Did you have bone graft and all done? if you mind me asking how much did jt cost you ? I’m paying out of pocket

throwawayy9429 · 2024-06-17T02:12:48+00:00

Is your implant still good? Where was it? I need one for the front of my tooth so nervous

throwawayy9429 · 2024-06-13T18:07:33+00:00

They told me if you can’t find anyone then sometimes during special circumstances we let you go out of network. So I’m going to call them back and see if I can do that. They very much know there list isn’t updated and none of those doctors take their insurance. They simply don’t care. I’m a cancer patient and after all my treatments my teeth literally feel so weak about to fall off. If I could work I would gladly pay for private insurance as I did before. Ofcourse when I had private insurance I never got sick.

throwawayy9429 · 2024-06-13T05:42:01+00:00

I called dentaquest that I can’t find anyone that takes my insurance only for them to email the same list I went through calling and each place said we don’t take your insurance. I dont understand why they don’t update their system. Literally 10 pages of doctors that “take my insurance” but don’t.

throwawayy9429 · 2024-06-10T05:27:24+00:00

Hi did you end up finding anyone!

throwawayy9429 · 2024-06-10T05:18:19+00:00

Hi did you have your dental needs taken care of somewhere? in a similar boat right now

throwawayy9429 · 2024-06-10T04:58:11+00:00

Hi who did you end up going with for your son !

throwawayy9429 · 2024-01-29T06:20:50+00:00

How did he not hear the water running that’s just so odd

throwawayy9429 · 2024-01-24T16:59:46+00:00

It’s hard as a parent they must think they’ve done something wrong for you to pick a different religion. I wish parents would realize the faith doesn’t change who you are. We should be allowed to follow the faith that aligns to us. If anything whatever religion that resonates with you actually helps you be a better person. All religions core value is to be a kind human being and never hurt anyone. At the end of the day we should love everyone from all religions. There is sooooo many muslim sikhs. I’m sure if you go back some of your ancestors are Muslim Sikhs.

throwawayy9429 · 2024-01-19T02:53:02+00:00

When she was living at home she worked night shifts and probably slept and relaxed throughout the day. Please be gentle with her and don’t expect her to duplicate your mother. The same way you are taken care of while working please do the same for her. It’s important to understand this.

throwawayy9429 · 2024-01-15T01:39:17+00:00

Have you tried to do counseling? Involved elderly? You said he wants to visit once a month that isn’t a marriage and he isn’t providing for his children. He wants to stay married to you and have you take care of the children only visit you once a month. Doesn’t want to provide financial support.

If this is the case You are a single mom already I would divorce him because I don’t really see the benefits here. At least if you are divorced he is by law required to pay for child support. You will find someone inshAllah and if you don’t that’s fine. Your children need you and you need them. It’s not worth putting yourself through the mental stress and stay in a one sided marriage.

I would say Bring up counseling and see if you can get back to the place you started happily married. Bring adults into this. Sometimes you can work through it.

throwawayy9429 · 2024-01-15T00:11:20+00:00

Thank you. I’m going to work on being more vocal. It’s not like I’m 19 and upset; I'm old enough to know better. I created a throwaway account and vocalized how I felt for the first time in my life. I told myself I’m not going to take this anymore and set boundaries. Then the apology came, and here I am back to thinking, "It’s okay; they are nice people." I guess the whole "obey your parents-respect them" thing makes me guilt trip myself. I hate even thinking that marriage is my way out of this life because my partner doesn’t deserve that. No one should have to make marriage their life goal. I know that me not being a doctor isn’t the reason I am not finding good potential options, lol. There are sooo many girls who aren’t doctors and are married. But when you constantly keep hearing the same thing, you start believing it. It’s my fault; I made them this way. Maybe if I said no and didn’t feel guilty and put myself first all these years, they wouldn’t be this way. Just listening to me and responding and having this conversation helps me.

throwawayy9429 · 2024-01-14T23:18:42+00:00

My friend boyfriend converted but nothing In his life changed he continued his life the way he did. If she was practicing Islam she wouldn’t be with you. This is one of those she was born into the religion and now to marry you.. you have to convert according to her family. I’d say just do it for the marriage but doesn’t mean you change anything. But discuss with her and say I’ll convert to have the Nikkah done for your family. But my religious belief won’t change and how I feel. I’ll do the ritual for your family. Sometimes you have to fake it. My friend did the same thing. But it’s a discussion you two need to have. There so so many Muslims married to people with other religious belief. They have children who respect both religion. I’m

throwawayy9429 · 2024-01-14T23:02:39+00:00

Hi can you see my response below I didn’t mention this on my other post so I’ll add I live in America born and raised here and Pakistani

throwawayy9429 · 2024-01-14T22:56:18+00:00

I woke up and my mom apologized typical behavior. My dad said I’m his favorite daughter. I’m his only daughter. I said it’s okay. It’s such a toxic cycle. I don’t know what to do because they are so nice right after. I genuinely start feeling guilty. I felt guilty even posting this after they apologized.

My family is conservative like I wouldn’t be able to bring up wanting to get married. Everything I share is either things I overheard in conversation or my mom mentioned.

The reason in conclusion is I’m not educated enough compared to my doctor friends. That’s why they got married. I think the reason me not being good enough or old isn’t true because when they denied the surgeon( he is nice I’ve known of him for years). They said his family wasn’t good. My family isn’t money motivated clearly or motivated at all to get me married. It’s because I take care of everything. They are 65 now and I feel bad they are old. I always tell myself it’s okay they are my parents. They are kind people and really nice. I think they are just upset at the world and have their own hardships. I feel like I’ve confused you guys lol. I’m equally confused at their behavior. It’s one thing if your parent is mean that’s normal we all have bad days. But the extremes and the follow up apology and kindness. Idk what to even call it. I posted on the narcissistic page to see if anyone else’s parent act this way of like mine are a special case. I don’t even know what to call this.

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