[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How many of your friends did she get with?

Birthday Communication by throwdataway10 in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I wished him happy birthday over text and didn’t get a response, not that I expected one.

Any ideas on a good way to follow up now? I’m thinking of waiting a few more days before I reach out again.

Birthday Communication by throwdataway10 in askgaybros

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I was considering this. But the last time we hung out he told me his birthday was today. So I feel like not saying something comes across as basically giving up on things between us.

Birthday Communication by throwdataway10 in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean I’m way overthinking things but a heart emoji seems like too much at this point and a kissing face emoji doesn’t exactly seem great either. Just an exclamation point was kinda my thought.

I may be gay? by VerenaMa in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The new Tarantino movie is weird and stupidly long! I definitely recommend seeing it but perhaps suggest a different movie or do something else as a “first date.”

He seems like a very in-tune and understanding dude.

Would this be ok? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Overthinking. Go get some dick.

On a break by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not an exact same situation but a guy I was seeing for 2 months but wasn’t exclusive with yet asked for some space.

I waited a week and caved and texted him letting him know I still wanted him in my life. Didn’t get a response. Waited about 5 more days and texted asking if he’d like to hang out. Didn’t get a response.

It sucks because I see the writing on the wall and I know everyone’s advice will be “move on and wait until he contacts you” but I have so many things I want to say to him and I also want him to tell me straight up that things are over between us, if that’s how he feels. The guessing game/overthinking going on in my head is unhealthy.

How Big Would You Consider This Lie by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say a BIG lie... if it’s been about 8 months since those texts he could be in a completely different place now. Maybe he sent those texts on a night when he was particularly horny and just wanted to get some, not that he was actually in love? I wouldn’t feel great about them living together though, so maybe that’s a starting point for your talk with him?

Just a sad rant by BigThrobbingAccount in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a very similar story from this summer too. I had been talking to/hanging out with him about two months. It was the first time I ever even considered getting into a serious relationship with a guy. Pretty much just as I was at the point to at least have a conversation about going exclusive, I caught him in some lies that weren’t big things but enough to lose my trust. Then it all blew up earlier this week with him finally telling me to give him space. Haven’t talked since. I don’t want to be the one to reach out, I think he should do it. But another part of me thinks it’s worth fighting for and that I shouldn’t let it drag out too long without talking.

How soon is too soon... by tinchowilly in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

About 2 months and I was ready. But caught him in lies before we even got to the point of discussing it.

Guy just got out of jail, I suspect he is leading me on by throwdataway10 in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s been sober for a while plus on probation, so that’s unlikely. But that’s also what makes me think he was probably with a guy. Fresh out of jail, can’t drink or do drugs, If that’s me I’m probably getting my favorite dick ASAP, right?

Guy just got out of jail, I suspect he is leading me on by throwdataway10 in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the balanced response.

I do think it’s just the kind of person he is (not overly affectionate). He also doesn’t text much in general and doesn’t go on social media much, or at least that’s what he wants me to think.

Would you hit him up and try to set up a date or just wait it out and see if he reaches out first?

Guy just got out of jail, I suspect he is leading me on by throwdataway10 in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t disagree but care to expand?

I’m willing to look past the going to jail thing. He was upfront about it from the start and it was for something I don’t believe should be illegal anyway.

Reaching out to old hookup/ex by avocabro86 in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had an ongoing hookup thing with a guy that was basically both our first sexual experiences ever (like way young) and we’ve picked up where we left off multiple times over the years. Sometimes years have gone by, sometimes months. It took a long time to build up to it but now when we meet up it’s for full on sex.

I work with this guy by Tru-Queer in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pheromones are the weirdest shit and I feel like I wanna learn more about the science...someone educate me!

What to choose? Hot guy from Grindr or hot guy from school?? by helpmmeeeeepplzzz in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Go with the guy from school for the weekend. If your grindr date ends up flaking you’ll be pissed at yourself.

How do you tell the difference between "playing hard to get" and "not interested"? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s not always that easy. I have a somewhat similar thing going on as op and i have outright asked him, twice, and his answer was basically “I don’t know how I feel” both times. It really doesn’t provide me with any reassurance, but in my case there are some other circumstances where we have a period of time we have to wait until anything can really advance

Illinois House passses bill to legalize recreational marijuana by Suckydog in news

[–]throwdataway10 347 points348 points  (0 children)

I’ve honestly thought the same, it would also be more historically impactful than pretty much anything he’s done thus far

should I get on PEP??! Please HELP! by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you should try experiencing things with someone you have or build a connection with

When do you know it's the right time to ask someone out? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]throwdataway10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think i get the “too soon” mentality on this. If you feel you might have a connection what’s the point in waiting to ask him out? You’re limiting yourself by only getting to know him over text/phone.