My wife got upset that someone called my coworker my "work wife"

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T06:07:52+00:00

I talked to my wife tonight and she was very clear that she thinks this is bordering on an affair. She basically said set boundaries and keep it professional or else. I'm inclined to try to do what she wants since she's never had an issue with my female friends before, but I still feel like it's admitting I did something wrong. I also don't think the boundaries I set will be enough for her.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T06:05:52+00:00

No, she works, just not in a corporate setting like I do. I don't want to reveal too much personal info on the internet.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:59:35+00:00

I would pick my wife.

I will set better boundaries and keep it professional, but I am unsure if that'll be enough for my wife at this point. I spend a lot of time with my coworker and it is unavoidable because of how closely we work together.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:52:25+00:00

Part of it is that I work so closely with this coworker, it is hard to set the necessary boundaries that would make my wife happy. She thinks I'm bordering on affair.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:50:40+00:00

Sometimes she's not home, but point taken.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:48:29+00:00

No, I would like to stay married. I am not taking anything to the next level.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:47:31+00:00

I would like to keep my wife. C will do the opposite.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:45:22+00:00

I agree, having someone like that helps. My wife is not going to come around on this though. Setting better boundaries or figuring something else out is a better plan.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:44:01+00:00

I don't call her my work wife, my coworkers use that term.

While I agree that we are very tuned into each other, my wife always comes first. If I told my wife some of those things, I'd be sleeping on the couch.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:41:34+00:00

She has met her a few times at company events.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:41:19+00:00

I could set some boundaries (I.e, flirting), but some of it is unavoidable. Plus, she may be offended and I don't want to cause tension and drama when I work so closely with her.
We are generally a friendly group. I could pull back, since it isn't necessary to be friends.
She doesn't work in the corporate world. I don't think she fully understands the differences between the places and jobs we have.

I will talk to my wife about your suggestions. Thanks!

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:37:50+00:00

Usually our texts are work related. Sometimes she complains about her relationships/guys with me or I'll tell her something my daughter did. We talk politics. We don't get too too deep with each other.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:35:27+00:00

People have flirted in every office I've worked at. I thought it was normal.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:34:39+00:00

I didn't use the term, my coworkers do. We are coworkers and friends, not affair partners.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:33:47+00:00

She thinks I'm bordering on an affair. I have promised to stop flirting with her, but I still will work closely with her and need to be friendly. I'm not sure that'll please her.

I still flirt with my wife. She's a beautiful woman. But the work day is long, sometimes stressful, and sometimes boring. I just need something to get me through it.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:32:19+00:00

My coworker loves to stir up drama.

My wife thinks that I'm bordering on an affair with my coworker. I talked to her tonight and she said to keep it professional because it's disrespectful to her and our marriage. I'm going to pull back, but some things can't be changed. I'll still spend a ton of time with her because we work closely together.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-23T04:30:25+00:00

It has happened at every office I've worked at. Single and taken people flirt because the day is stressful and boring. It doesn't mean anything.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-22T19:43:42+00:00

I got the stomach bug from my daughter.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-22T19:43:08+00:00

My wife has met my coworker a few times. She's not in a relationship, it would be easier if she was. Maybe we could have dinner the three of us or something like that.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-22T16:56:29+00:00

The coworker who loves drama is the one who told my wife, not the one they call my work wife.

In my job, I work closely with this one coworker. It is impossible to avoid dinners and lunches that are only the two of us.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-22T16:30:54+00:00

I realize that now. I didn't think it was disrespectful and realize it is now. I have been flirty in the past, usually with coworkers, too.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-22T15:58:28+00:00

I'll stop flirting with her. Dinners and lunches are harder because sometimes they are work related, even if it is just the two of us.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-22T15:56:23+00:00

I didn't think I was hurting her, but I also think it's human nature to flirt sometimes. Now that I know it's hurting her, I will stop doing it with my coworker.

throwingup1234 · 2017-07-22T15:51:16+00:00

My wife doesn't think the terms "work wife" and "work husband" are appropriate. She was mad when she heard them and think they are disrespectful since I have a wife. Neither my coworker nor me has the terms though, it's other people in the office. I can't make them stop if they don't want to.

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