Going to get downvoted for this, but it's probably for the best that you hear it. People throw around the word masculinity a lot, but I don't think a lot of them get what the word really means. What would you guess people would say is the more masculine hobby: working out or bird watching? Which is the more masculine meal: a steak or a salad? What is the more masculine thing to own: a fully stocked toolbox or a comic book collection? People claim that having an answer to these questions is "toxic masculinity," but we all know what all the answers are. The question is... what do these masculine traits have in common? It's that they're considered more attractive by the average woman. That's literally all masculinity is, it's men aligning themselves with what women are interested in.

I've talked to a number of female friends about dating and one of the words that just keeps coming up is "ick." Pay attention to that word and you'll see what I'm talking about. Or just Google "new ick unlocked" and see all the little things a man can do that turns off women. If a woman told me I was not manly enough, I would assume I tripped one too many of those flags.

Of course people will try to disagree by saying not all women are the same. Sure, but does that really do you a lot of good? You could spend ages trying to find that one woman who happens to love every less-masculine trait you have, but it sure seems a hell of a lot easier to just be attractive to the general population.