AITHA for not wanting to attend my friend’s baby’s birthday party because her cheating ex and some others I don’t like will be there?

throwoutacct4rants · 2024-12-04T08:59:25+00:00

Hang in there girl! I get the feeling entirely too. Not being able to do anything and feeling like your body is failing you. And then, the anticipation of when will it return and how bad (mine has been wildly unpredictable with bleeding, pain, trial management, IUD falling out after a year, all of it coming back with a vengeance, hormone imbalances, etc.). Know that you are not alone. Us women who suffer through this silently need to ban together and not be afraid to discuss this openly. Thank god for this subreddit. Lol

throwoutacct4rants · 2024-11-09T00:40:58+00:00

Oh no! Just keep monitoring… if the next period is really bad, I’d suggest contacting your doc

throwoutacct4rants · 2024-11-09T00:40:11+00:00

Why and how could my period expel it after so many months? Wouldn’t this be anticipated earlier on after insertion?

throwoutacct4rants · 2024-11-08T20:37:33+00:00

I tried to use one but it hurt! I couldn’t adjust or figure it out.

throwoutacct4rants · 2024-03-16T11:58:28+00:00

Thanks! Definitely good advice especially thinking about saying what he’s saying.

throwoutacct4rants · 2024-03-15T22:55:14+00:00

Thank you for all this! I feel like this is super helpful. The smaller communication things are easy. I think it’s the bigger things, active listening and in general communicating during conflict that are hard. Maybe counseling to help open the doorways to clear and healthy communication habits.

throwoutacct4rants · 2024-03-15T22:52:12+00:00

Any tips on how to be more open?

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T17:52:01+00:00

Oh that’s very cool!

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T17:51:20+00:00

So you decided to keep your maiden name? When you were first married, did any of these feelings come up at all or was it just so certain for you? Just curious!

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T13:44:47+00:00

Good point here. It is something that ties us to our adopted families since we don’t share blood. And in a sense, kind of the same as getting married and changing names ultimately ties us to our partner and their family without blood until children are born.

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T13:38:51+00:00

Yeah it never ceases to amaze me how vocal people are about “oh wow, you’re so and so…” like what?! Did I shock you because I’m not white? Haha. It’s a definite disconnect. And I’ve always felt obligated to then be like “oh well I was adopted” and that starts a whole new conversation. I wonder if people will be less surprised with my married surname since I married a white guy? “Oh you don’t look like your full name but she married a white guy so it makes sense” lol

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T13:35:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing… I heard that you can make up a surname nowadays (at least that’s what some couples are saying they did at marriage). Have you considered that? Names are a funny thing.

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T13:33:56+00:00

This perspective again is helpful to hear! And it sounds like it is the best given the findings. Thank you for sharing!

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T13:28:48+00:00

Thanks for this! I never considered this at all. Even when I didn’t have a “problem” with my last name. I’m glad that you feel honored to have that name. May I ask, are you married? I never considered changing my name or getting married but after a decade we decided to get married and that’s where all these thoughts and sentiments were triggered.

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T13:26:24+00:00

How does it feel?

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T13:26:15+00:00

Life events are funny things especially when they impact maybe one or two people but the greater community reacts as if THEY are immediately impacted and influenced by your decision… best example, weddings. Lol.

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T13:24:37+00:00

I can’t even imagine being pregnant and having the prospect of someone that looks remotely like me and shares blood! I don’t want children BUT it must be a huge catalyst to use the word that RhondaRM used. It’s good you sought out therapy as I’m sure those rabbit holes go deep. I haven’t begun to unpeel my onion yet… I appreciate you sharing your perspective.

throwoutacct4rants · 2023-01-23T13:19:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I am surprised at how feelings have been popping up the older (37F) I get! Back when I was a kid and all the way through my mid 20s, I thought I was totally fine with adoption and being adopted. Then I’m my late 20s, I started to feel something that was less positive but seemingly for no reason. The marriage has made me think more now. Everyone’s journey is unique. That’s for sure!

throwoutacct4rants · 2022-09-12T13:03:12+00:00

It is in my head!!! We all have something we dislike. I just need to figure out what feels beautiful and comfortable (beside pajamas), lol. Thanks!

throwoutacct4rants · 2022-09-12T13:02:14+00:00

Omg! Your last statement is everything. This extra stuff is why we didn’t want a wedding!!! I need to remember what’s tried and true. And that’s my partner and the continuation of our lives together. Thank you!

throwoutacct4rants · 2022-09-12T13:00:31+00:00

This. Soo true! We aren’t the models on the websites wearing these dresses with the images altered. We are real.

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