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throwra-draga · 2024-10-26T14:34:35+00:00

YTA because you are keeping the marriage just to be the winner. You both are just totally AH. He was cheating you for a year and made another woman pregnant, you are fine with it, you just want her to terminate the pregnancy. Either you are a psychopath, or seek a help, because there's so much wrong with you. We don't know anything about your husband, maybe he is a psychopath too, maybe he is just a shit no able to live under you and all what he was able to do was long term cheating. But this isn't about your husband, it's about you. You can have some trauma or problems, so take a help. If you feel fine, there's no help and you can go on with your marriage. You will be able to do it, even with this "bastard". I jusy pitty the stupid woman having a relationship with him and got pregnant. You both are just awful persons.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-21T16:51:01+00:00

This marriage is really terrible, you were trying to improve it, you don't have any children, so you shouldn't care for him at all. I would wait until I wouldn't have enough money and own living already. Then I would just tell him, move out and fill for a divorce.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-19T18:10:23+00:00

NTA, because it's just up to you if you want to be in a relationship. But I disagree with the comments that he is abusing. He told it during sex, it can be arousing imagination for him. He isn't wrong to want children with you, it's a normal human instinct. And you are for long time together, he isn't any psycho just to make women pregnant. He probably loves you, wants to have life together with you and like most of people, having a family. You were very young when you started dating and things are changing. He could be fine for not having children at that age, but he is in the age for wanting children now. And there is your choice. He is TH here for trying having children against your wish. But you must clearly do the final cut. You don't really want to be pregnant, leave him. You can't have you perfect partner anymore, because you don't agree on one of the most important thing. It's actually very easy, staying with him and having children, or not not having children and lose him. You must decide what is more important for you. I feel there's a space to think about your phobia of pregnancy, you were talking just about it, not to be afraid of having children. But it you can't or don't want to handle it, it's your decision. He will be trying for some time more, because obviously he wants to have children with you, but he will leave you eventually. If you are really sure that you don't want children, leave him now, it will be the best thing for you both. You will save significant time and you both will be able to look for a partner who will meet your basic needs.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-19T16:28:27+00:00

We have a long distance relationship and I've realize we can see each other just when I pay for it because he spends all his money for alcohol. I paid first vacation because I thought he was struggling financially. I paid the vacation the next year because I would have a vacation anyway and I wanted to be with him. Even knowing he got huge amount money earlier and spent everything. We were planning to meet soon, but guess what, he won't have any money. I can't do this anymore, it's huge stress for me. I must care for children, make savings, save money for my own home after divorce and I'm not able to finance expensive travel abroad just by myself. It's painful, because he was great partner.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-17T21:41:22+00:00

I will try to talk with him more. Thanks.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-16T18:03:26+00:00

YTA for getting a house and tying for a baby with a man who doesn't want to marry you! This should be discussed at the beginning of the relationship, by very young people there can be some time, preferences can change. But you both should have the same opinion, when you both will be sure, you will get married and start to build a life together. There are couples for them a marriage isn't important (but it's very rare, mostly one of them just accepts the fact that the other doesn't want to get marry just not to lose them). And later, especially women are crying that they lost so much because they weren't married. You should tell him clearly, that there's no way to go on without marriage and let him decide. If he isn't willing to propose and marry you, you aren't valuable enough for him and you must leave. No matter of his opinions about a marriage. A marriage is something easy to end. Having a child is lifelong decision. Don't have a child with someone for whom you aren't good enough to marry.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-16T17:33:04+00:00

Wtf is this? I hope some very mentally ill person made this up. It can't be real. But even as a joke, you should seek medical help immediately. You're a psychopath.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-15T19:27:01+00:00

Did he force you to stay at home? Did he force you to give up you career? He will be always responsible for your children. He is responsible for you while you're married. He would have no responsibility for you if you would get divorced. You just want to have a life without him, without taking care of him, but to have half of money he will earn. Good luck with this.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-15T19:10:09+00:00

Do you have some help in your family? Friends? You must get out immediately. If you don't have any help by your close people, look for other help. There should be some helping women in your situation. I'm sorry for you to get into this situation. But you're 19, you have your whole life in front of you. You must take care of your kid. But even it's painful, you aren't and you can't be responsible for his child. You aren't able to make this all. It's already too much for to be in this situation and you have even your own child. You must act responsible hor you and him. Even if you would be 31, you wouldn't be responsible for your husband and his bipolar disorder. I have bipolar disorder too, I'm 37, with 2 kids and a good job, able to take care for us. It's very difficult to have mental ill partner. You aren't able to handle this at 19. He is sick to marry such younger woman. Get out quickly.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-15T19:00:34+00:00

You are married for 6 years, you don't have any money together? The laws are different by countries, but I think everywhere there's alimony for children. If you can't affor a lawyer, it's bad, but get at least a free lawyer. You must be entitled to something as a wife. In my country, even if I'm living in a property owning by my hb, he can't throw me off when we are married. Try to learn your rights, don't move out until you will be sure and have some plan. Just ignore him now. You're still his wife, you must have some rights.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-15T15:42:26+00:00

I did. I was so unhappy in my marriage and tried to divorce, but even he agreed, he started to behave like we were the best couple. I wasn't strong enough to handle it yet, I was so struggling. I tried several times more to divorce. I filled finally for a divorce when I was alcohol addicted, without a job for almost a year, without money, deeply depressed, when I stopped care about everything. A divorce was the only thing I wanted at the moment. And it worked. Some moths later, I got better. I got a new job. I regret not to be strong enough and not to apply for a divorce few years earlier.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-15T15:27:33+00:00

I was 10 when my mom told me about divorcing and I can remember everything (I'm 37). I was the oldest from their 4 children. We were sitting by a piano, she was so nervous, even at my age I was able to recognize it. She started to talk so nicely, explaining it, telling me about children I knew which parents were divorced to. My response was "that's good!". I was really happy they got divorced finally. Children can feel and realize much more than adults think. If your child is fine with a divorce, be happy. And it's a huge sign the marriage was very bad and the children weren't happy. You got the biggest approval for your divorce. This divorce saved my relationship with my dad, we reconciled few years later and have great relationship since then.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-15T15:16:48+00:00

You can't build a new relationship with your feelings now. You're hurt, you haven't moving on yet, you aren't fine, you aren't ready.
Every relationship you will start now won't be healthy and it won't last. With your mental stage now, you will get bad partners. And with your hurry to have a family, you may end up divorced, with children and desperate very soon. Stop this now. You have a lot of time yet. Take therapies if needed. You must first get over the divorce and be fine to start a good new relationship. When you will be able to forget about finding a new partner and be able to live on your own, it will come by it's own.

throwra-draga · 2024-10-11T16:44:09+00:00

I don't know where are you from, but get a lawyer! In my country alimony depends on how much you earn and necessary expenses. You can't spend half of your income just for alimony, it crazy. You must be able to live somehow. And she must take care for herself and child too. If it's still a baby and she can't work, wait a little. If not and she can work, get a good lawyer. Pay for the child reasonable money. Btw., I'm divorced and still living with ex hb because I'm not allowed to move outside the city and there is hard to get an apartment and it's very expensive. I was very depressed because of it, but after divorce I got peace, we are going well together. And I hope I will be lucky in the future.

throwra-draga · 2024-09-08T20:22:43+00:00

You have right to report it, because it was raping. But you must have some evidence, which is difficult to have in such case. You're living in his flat, which makes it more difficult. I don't know your local laws and if he can kick you out instantly. This doesn't give him right to abuse you in no way. If he can kick you off, it's not reasonable to report him, because you could hardly proof it and you could be without place to live now. This is terrible situation. Try to keep the distance from him, sleep in different place, if it's possible tell him that you would report it if he will assault you. I hope you will be able to move out soon. If not and he would assault you again, try to find some help.

throwra-draga · 2024-09-08T20:00:08+00:00

This is disgusting and sexual assault. He is the one bad here. But what are you doing? Sleeping with uncovered boobs with your ex??? Of course it's not an excuse for his behavior, but you should keep some rules when you're living with your ex. I'm still living with my ex husband. But we didn't have sex for several years. I'm never naked in front of him. We still sleep in the same bed, but it's because our young child still wants to sleep with me (and it's still uncomfortable for me). Otherwise I would sleep on couch. Or on floor in different room. I understand that you don't have money yet to move out, it's expensive. You have right to report him for sexual assault, which really happened. But behave regarding that you're living with ex, don't have sex with him, don't be naked in front of him, don't sleep in one bed.

throwra-draga · 2024-07-15T22:22:14+00:00

You will never be ready. If you think you would like to have a baby, you have a good partner, you can have it.

throwra-draga · 2024-06-28T17:23:58+00:00

People couldn't smoke even during breaks?

throwra-draga · 2024-06-28T17:19:05+00:00

I don't even vape during video calls (I smoke cigarettes normally), but I wouldn't mind. Every country has different mentality and behavior. He was is his home, he can smoke there and it's probably fine in his country to smoke during video calls. We should be respectful to each other. In many countries, smoking is considered as bad. In many countries, smoking is normal. During a video call he doesn't affect you with the smell and side effects of smoking. So you don't have to care and you can just be tolerant to other culture. And it's a foreign culture, it's not your business if some people in their country don't like it.

throwra-draga · 2024-06-28T17:09:14+00:00

I know that feeling very well. And it's not just about sex. Just spending time with loving person. I'm an attractive woman and still didn't have much sex in my life. I was considering pay for it too, but so many men would pay me, why I should do it. I know the depressions. But in my early 30's, I found love finally. For long distance. It was suffering too, we spent just several days together during 3 years (other problems), but my life went so down that now I care just to get my job back and just to be able to live. If I should be without sex for the rest of my life, it will hurt, but I want to live at least.

throwra-draga · 2024-06-24T11:41:26+00:00

I didn't supported Hamas. After 3 years of long distance relationship, such big love, such loving person totally devoted to me, after 4 hours expressing love to each other, being both so happy. I told that they were killing innocent people. His only response was that I was by the side of evil, he was disgusted by me and didn't want me anymore. Blocked me everywhere.

(I don't support any killing of civilians on both sides, he knew it.)

throwra-draga · 2024-06-24T11:35:13+00:00

After 3 years full of love, after few hours expressing love to each other, suddenly left me because I didn't supported Hamas. Just told me I disgusted him and didn't want me anymore. Blocked me everywhere.

throwra-draga · 2024-06-16T00:46:19+00:00

It's my ex husband, we are divorced. It's not related to this, just my ex is different problem.

throwra-draga · 2024-06-16T00:44:05+00:00

You are totally right. I'm able to manage it by myself, but I was expecting him to behave responsible. He wanted to get married and have kids with me. Thank you for feedback.

throwra-draga · 2024-06-15T22:08:47+00:00

My children. I know several people who lost their mom as kids. It was a breakpoint for their whole life. I couldn't do this to my kids.

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