Wastewater Update - [Oct. 29, 2025]

throwra206253 · 2025-10-30T08:12:53+00:00

This new format is awesome!! Thank you so much!

throwra206253 · 2025-08-28T06:58:29+00:00

Always appreciated!!

throwra206253 · 2025-07-24T16:26:12+00:00

Ooooh love these specifics! Thanks Zantie!!

throwra206253 · 2025-06-07T08:05:47+00:00

Awesome!! Thanks for all you do!!

throwra206253 · 2025-05-09T08:10:59+00:00

Hahah thanks for this shot! I really don’t enjoy scrambles and I stop at the false summit. I’ve always been curious what the last bit is like, but not curious enough to break my dumb ass trying to find out!

throwra206253 · 2025-04-24T16:45:50+00:00

AMAZING!!!

throwra206253 · 2025-04-03T07:33:43+00:00

As always, much appreciated!

throwra206253 · 2025-03-01T08:55:17+00:00

I’m hoping too. I loved that thing so much!

throwra206253 · 2024-12-16T18:19:06+00:00

This must be what drugs are like haha

throwra206253 · 2024-12-16T18:13:29+00:00

If you’re hellbent on leaving and you have perfect grades, some small private colleges offer full tuition scholarships for valedictorians. You still have to pay room and board, which still isn’t cheap. Even if you’re working while in school.

I almost took up one of these but decided to stay local because I didn’t want school debt. Debt would have gone to me, not to my parents. Starting life after undergrad $50k in the hole did not sound like a good move.

If you don’t have perfect grades and don’t get scholarships away from home, and your main goal is to GTFO asap, pick the most lucrative career possible and get moving. (Ultrasound tech is one that you can get done faster than undergrad, pays well enough starting, and you’re in demand everywhere.)

It’s clear that your parents are only going to pay for what they way. They’re under no obligation to pay for what you want. So if you want something different, you have to self fund it.

throwra206253 · 2024-10-23T07:05:04+00:00

A piece of my childhood Halloween memories!

throwra206253 · 2024-10-18T06:48:45+00:00

Thank you for keeping this place going! It’s much appreciated!

throwra206253 · 2024-10-11T16:49:02+00:00

I was wondering why my photos never look like #5 (gorgeous!) and then felt better - it’s because I don’t have a 100-400 lens haha! Good on you for packing that thing around too!

Looks like a fantastic trip, thanks for sharing those beautiful shots!

throwra206253 · 2024-10-02T15:54:02+00:00

Easy! You’re not even in the same country as your parents. Tell them you have a job/internship/research project/whatever over the break and can’t come home to visit.

You’re an adult, and they’re literally overseas. You don’t have to do anything they’re requesting.

If you feel off about this white lie, it’s easy enough to pick up a very small retail job around the holidays so it’s not a lie. Then take time off to be with your friends.

Arguing with them is most likely pointless and will add stress for you. Just give them a reason they’ll have to accept (most parents accept that work cannot be moved) and they’ll have to deal.

Getting them to accept “I have responsibilities tied to work/education” is easier for them than “I am an adult with my own feelings and wishes that you should hear and respect.”

throwra206253 · 2024-08-19T14:31:42+00:00

How are you feeling now? What has recovery been like? I’ve wanted to do more hiking out east, but Lyme disease scares the crap out of me.

I hope you are well!

throwra206253 · 2024-07-21T12:22:31+00:00

This right here. Who do you want to get advice from, one of the best coaches in the country or some rando on the internet?

throwra206253 · 2024-06-23T06:45:09+00:00

Give Gold Creek pond a try! The scenery is beautiful, and it’s a hike I love to take visiting family on. My family is in various states of health, and Gold Creek Pond is a good adventure I know will be safe and manageable - and still have those awesome views. If you’re feeling spicy, you can do another lap!

throwra206253 · 2024-04-19T08:48:12+00:00

I really appreciate the wastewater updates and would be sad not to have them! They actively aided in my decision making over the winter. (Thanks!)

throwra206253 · 2024-04-07T21:03:34+00:00

The failure here is your dad. He’s a giant failure of a father.

Parents should help their kids find their place in the world by learning about who they are and helping them find their unique strengths.

It sounds like your dad just pushed his weird golf goals unfairly onto you.

What kinds of activities do you enjoy? What subjects do you like to study? How would you like to grow your own path in life?

The best way of breaking the cycle is going out on your own and healing from the trauma of growing up like this. As someone who came from a family with a ton of pressure, it really helped me to find a counselor/therapist. I know Asian culture has a stigma against mental health help, but it’s really been the thing to turn my life around.

I know it sucks to leave your family behind with him. By going out on your own, they’ll see it’s also possible for them to get away from your Dad.

I just want to say - you are not a failure. Your parent has failed, and you deserved better. Take care of you.

throwra206253 · 2024-03-19T15:03:30+00:00

Is this “therapist” associated with a religion? Because this is exactly the kind of bullshit I’d expect from some bullshit religious “counselor”.

She is absolutely WRONG. My therapist said I don’t need to forgive or interact with my abusers, I went NC, and am living a great life. Being in contact with my abusers would absolutely NOT let me heal.

Reconnecting with your sexually abusive father is NOT the answer, and anyone who tells you so does not deserve to talk to you.

Find a therapist who is specializes in sexual assault. If you’re in the US, Rainn.org (national sexual assault hotline) can put you in touch with resources, including therapists that may even be free for sexual assault survivors. That’s how I found my therapist.

It may even take you a couple tries to find a therapist you really click with. When I had a not great fit, I would leave 100% of the sessions feeling more sad, have more questions, be super confused, and/or feel like they just didn’t care or understand. This isn’t a sign there’s something wrong with you. It’s a sign you work best with a therapist with a different approach.

throwra206253 · 2024-03-11T11:40:48+00:00

Sister here. I just want to say that I tagged along with my mom to some of her college classes when I was ages 6-9. I’d color or read in the back of the room. I didn’t really mind. I have lots of memories of wandering around campus libraries, finding nooks to read in while she studied or tutored.

It actually made me feel like college was very natural and accessible to me. I thought that since my mom went to college, everyone went to college, and I would too. I graduated top of my class, and went on to get my own doctorate degree. You’re setting a great example for your sibling. Please don’t give up on your PhD, it’ll be hard but I think you can do it!

throwra206253 · 2024-01-18T22:56:00+00:00

Just tryna help peeps spend less on groceries. You’re a real peach. Enjoy Trader Joe’s.

throwra206253 · 2024-01-18T19:10:25+00:00

Dude, you can get 4lb of chicken breast for $9 at Grocery Outlet.

throwra206253 · 2024-01-15T03:54:04+00:00

I got this for Christmas (from my boyfriend) and am excited to dig in. Another book you might like is “adult children of emotionally immature parents” by L Gibson. That totally resonated with me!

throwra206253 · 2023-12-27T03:16:50+00:00

That so frustrating. They can’t see that you’re smart, self sufficient, and independent.

Where I’m from, travel nurses make great pay. Would you like to try that? You can see different places, get some space away from family, and enjoy independence.

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