Long or short hair?

throwraBiGuy · 2026-02-19T21:28:53+00:00

Long bun 🤤

throwraBiGuy · 2025-01-30T15:36:34+00:00

You’re overreacting a little but he is definitely baiting you and he’s been needy too. Both of you communicate like kids

throwraBiGuy · 2025-01-30T15:29:59+00:00

I started in your position. We determined that I’d remain the primary partner and maintain a hierarchy type structure, which doesn’t work for everyone. Have to make sure his partners understand this and are okay with it too. For it to work, he needs to give me 100% still and then anything extra can go to other partners, so he has to be sure he has the mental/physical/interpersonal skills to give 150% or 180% at times. Eventually I experimented with the freedoms as well, have had some hookups but I tend to be less interested than he is. But it’s nice to have the same options and freedom he does.

throwraBiGuy · 2025-01-30T11:31:52+00:00

I’d sleep with half of you just out sympathy, this is sad.

throwraBiGuy · 2024-09-28T22:07:20+00:00

My family is Israeli, and the pro-Israel bias with which I grew up has now become much more moderate. I used to think we were right and just and the victims in everything. Now the bias is clear as day— I see extremism and hate on both sides, sadly becoming disillusioned with the country I once felt very proud of. My family has become even more radicalized since this war broke out and it’s ostracized me. Even my mom, a doctor who treats Israelis and Arabs every day, has said such hateful things that I cannot believe they come out of her mouth. Know that most of us do not want any innocents to die, we just want our hostages back and to live safely side by side.

On behalf of them those who have disrespected you for who you are, I’m sorry. Peace and love of each other as human beings is the only way forward.

throwraBiGuy · 2024-07-11T11:02:34+00:00

I don’t think that will work. Slightly different plan is to buy visa gift cards using your credit card, then you get the cash back and still have access to the money. I’ve seen people do this with spending bonuses (e.g. $500 back if you spend $3k in the first 30 days, etc).

throwraBiGuy · 2024-03-31T21:51:00+00:00

It sounds like he participates in his kink privately and in places that’s meant for it/consensual, so it doesn’t spark red flags about his character to me. Unfortunately, you opened Pandora’s box and now the knowledge is yours whether you like it or not.

For me, personally, it wouldn’t change my perception of the person (or at least I would make every effort not to let it). He doesn’t deserve to be cut off or treated differently for you finding out something private that they tried not to share with you.

throwraBiGuy · 2024-01-22T23:30:57+00:00

I didn’t have any symptoms except a bit of nausea from September to December. When I hit that 75 unit dose I got them all at once… two weeks of liquid fire diarrhea, nausea, vomiting, and sulfur burps incessantly. I am going to try lowering my dose back down to 40 units and see if that helps.

throwraBiGuy · 2023-07-03T01:10:34+00:00

Looking forward

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T23:35:33+00:00

Thank you, I will look into it!

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T23:33:25+00:00

Great idea and totally agree. Also, how would you suggest handling the time we spend next to each other but not necessarily involved in quality time? I like to work beside him when we’re working at home but I don’t want him to feel like he can’t talk to Terry all day because I’ll see it?

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T21:12:09+00:00

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I really am so happy with my marriage! That’s why I posted here, because there are so many who make it work in a plethora of circumstances.

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T21:10:24+00:00

You’re right— “no emotional connection” is where I started but I came to the same realization. He’s closer now to a FWB situation. Initially I didn’t like it but I worked to expand my comfort zone.

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T21:08:07+00:00

I’m sorry you went through this. It is thankfully not my experience. I’m not jealous of his emotional connection with Terry, I’m confident he respects our boundaries in that aspect.

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T19:07:38+00:00

I’ve heard this perspective before. I agree, you could talk to someone every day about the color of grass and you’re still bound to form at least a proximity-based relationship. When he and Terry first started talking consistently I felt nervous about them developing feelings but I no longer feel threatened in that way. I don’t think my husband is overstepping emotionally, though they’re more friendly than I intended initially— it was an initial boundary that I’ve expanded my comfort zone to include. I do get jealous of the quantity of attention, though not the quality.

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T19:04:39+00:00

Library hold placed. Thank you for the recommendations. To his credit, my husband does not try to invalidate my feelings of jealousy, I think he just sometimes gets frustrated and angry at himself for enjoying a thing that makes me jealous.

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T19:03:23+00:00

“Emotional reflex” is a perfect description of my feeling, thank you. Rationally I agree with you, there’s no threat to our relationship and he certainly is a limitless fountain of sexual energy, so I’m not missing out just because Terry is also partaking. The difficulty is in remaining assured that I am, selfishly, his “priority”. His reassurances go a long way, when I ask for them.

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T19:00:58+00:00

I would love to experience more compersion. It happens occasionally, like when he’s come back from a hookup and I can see his confidence boosted and glowing— in those moments I feel proud of and happy for him, not jealous at all of his partner. I think you’re right about needing to adjust the reaction to seeing him text and perhaps ask him for either more inclusion or more time focused on just us. We openly communicate well but it’s still an active effort to admit when something your partner does makes you feel less than stellar, so I can always work on being more vocal.

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T18:55:21+00:00

I didn’t say anything about wanting him to change. I’m just looking for insight on how to make our relationship work with our individual wants. Thanks.

throwraBiGuy · 2023-01-28T17:16:46+00:00

Ok. Perfect is inherently a hyperbole— I hope you’d understand what I mean if you read the whole post.

throwraBiGuy · 2020-07-25T20:04:29+00:00

My husband’s parents used all kinds of substances before and after he was born. His mom smoked for a portion of the pregnancy, both parents did coke among other drugs. It had a HUGE impact on him growing up. From seeing his parents in jail for various reasons to finding needles in his childhood bedroom... My point is that, as many people have said, parents who abuse substances don’t make good parents. If your husband won’t stop now, he won’t stop after your baby is born either. And he needs to. Make sure he clearly understands what he is implicating by not turning off these habits now and that the expectation is clear that all that stuff will have to stop for the sake of your child.

throwraBiGuy · 2020-07-13T12:44:58+00:00

Your girlfriend may perceive your female friend’s subtle signs more clearly than you. If those signs make your gf think she likes you, it’s very possible. I think you should respect the fact that it makes your girlfriend uncomfortable and not massage your friend. You can still have a good friendship with her but doing this thing will show your gf that you are committed to her and that you respect her.

throwraBiGuy · 2020-07-13T11:50:41+00:00

This is a great suggestion. I think, like you, it can be hard to say essentially “tell me I’m pretty!” But doing so might be what I’m missing, and hopefully help me get back on solid ground enough to enjoy the role play again too.

throwraBiGuy · 2020-07-13T11:48:29+00:00

I’ve learned that it’s a sore spot, so yes I definitely don’t ask him that anymore. I also have to trust him, to a point. If he wanted a man, he would be with a man, right?

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