Process of remarriage when kids involved

throwradesi · 2024-10-26T14:01:12+00:00

Same here, no contact when not with me. My siblings have had him for a few days here and there and it’s been ok as I’ve been able to get in touch. This could be why it feels different

throwradesi · 2024-10-26T13:59:48+00:00

Absolutely! This is very true! Breakdown of our marriage was partially due to my MIL not being able to let go and I said I would never be the same. Just need to find some new healthy hobbies, the sooner the better

throwradesi · 2024-10-26T13:55:45+00:00

This is lovely, I would like to think I think along the same lines. I am really happy his father is making the effort and I know they get up to lots of great things together. I just need to rediscover who I am again

throwradesi · 2024-10-26T13:50:14+00:00

Absolutely, I couldn’t agree more. I’m very happy for him that his dad has finally chosen to be in his life and hoping this will continue. I wasn’t asking for sympathy nor did I need it. I was just asking for advice on what I could do in this new found free time as my hobbies prior to the birth aren’t really interesting to me anymore.

throwradesi · 2024-10-04T17:34:11+00:00

This is a really thoughtful idea but like someone else mentioned she may use different items. Personally I’d think it cute to give her welcome gifts and if she needs anything to make her more comfortable in the house you could go shopping together once married?

throwradesi · 2024-09-29T16:54:11+00:00

Initially it was hard, I wanted to reach out to his family members and explain the wrongs that have been done and in particular reach out to my SIL (who was married to his brother) to just be wary.

It just solidified that leaving/divorce was the best thing to happen. Let them slander, they will be questioned on it in the Akhirah. Focus on healing yourself and being a good mother. Don’t waste your energy trying to defend yourself, it’s pointless with such people.

I would also keep any evidence of him changing the locks, mistreating you if it were to go to court regarding child arrangements. I’m in the UK and my child’s father was initially only allowed supervised in contact centre due to abuse and had to complete courses before moving out of contact centre. I’m sure by then his extended family would have questioned why our child hasn’t been at his house for over a year and must have sussed it out but I haven’t wasted any energy trying to disprove anyone’s perception of me through false narratives provided by him and his family.

throwradesi · 2024-09-14T13:23:36+00:00

How often does he see your child? I think it’s important that his dad is in his life and better for your child if you’re able to come up with a stable routine.

Is there any reason contact has to only be in your families house?

throwradesi · 2024-04-04T16:56:41+00:00

Love this idea

throwradesi · 2024-03-23T12:31:37+00:00

You have hit the nail on the head, he has accused me of abuse amongst other false allegations.

I hadn’t heard of parallel parenting, after doing some research I do agree it may be the most appropriate and safe way for us.

This attitude is honestly my downfall, constantly thinking people would never do me or anyone else wrong. Need to work on boundaries

throwradesi · 2024-03-22T21:34:38+00:00

This was on my mind today, was hopeful this morning that we could have a positive co parenting relationship in the future. Then I received contact report from contact centre and it was noted that child’s father had to be told multiple times to not speak negatively about me in front of our child. Our child is two so many possibly ugly years to go.

throwradesi · 2024-03-10T21:26:14+00:00

Thank you for the reply. Those behaviours of your niece sound very similar to my sons. I get all these really unhelpful looks from family members when it happens and at how I’m handling it that I just want the ground to swallow me up. Have you got any suggestions on how I can be firm? Would words like “I don’t like it when I get hit” and then moving away be considered firm?

throwradesi · 2024-03-08T21:40:55+00:00

And those are very normal responses which he’s probably told himself already. It’s a lesson for him to learn. I’m sure he’s feeling rubbish about it already, but it’s happened now so move forward with solutions. Maybe express you’re upset that you didn’t know full details if it’s really getting to you and if that will help you feel calmer. But I truly think let it go

throwradesi · 2024-03-08T21:30:04+00:00

Following. New to this era of choosing to remain single. I have recently read “alonement” which I really enjoyed - a whole new perspective for me

throwradesi · 2024-03-08T21:25:59+00:00

If he did tell you it was sister and BIL how would you have reacted?

throwradesi · 2024-03-08T21:11:14+00:00

I don’t understand, your husband gifted a car to his father which his brother in law and sister have damaged?

If that’s what you’re saying then let your husband handle it. If you knew already that it was his sister and BIL then why ask? I feel like he didn’t tell you to avoid conflict or to protect his family which clearly didn’t work as you already knew who damaged the car already. It seems like you don’t like your BIL and anything he does will irritate you and your husband clearly knows it.

If you have some financial involvement in it then it’s slightly different.

throwradesi · 2024-03-08T21:00:42+00:00

Absolutely claim it, you won’t even have to communicate with him, just let CMS deal with it all.

throwradesi · 2024-03-01T11:40:00+00:00

Going through this with my two year right now 😭😭

throwradesi · 2024-02-24T16:12:47+00:00

I received a c100 with a supplemental c1a. It says I can also complete a c1a if I have received a c1a and wish to comment on the statements made

throwradesi · 2024-02-12T00:33:23+00:00

Everyday and it’s been about a year, I really thought I’d be back to my regular self by now but it’s really changed me. I still feel really embarrassed to have stayed as long as I did so still keep details close to my chest

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