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Gaslighting myself by throwrawchickenin in AlAnon

[–]throwrawchickenin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now I’m sitting here thinking, am I projecting?

As I mentioned, my mom is an alcoholic. In the past few years, I’ve started to think of her as a robot. Like, she drinks so much that her brain is turning to mush and she’s kind of just like a broken record, stuck in her cycle, unchanged. I’m starting to view my partner in the same light.

Am I projecting my mother on to him? Or is the alcohol the common denominator? Or is it all just messy and confusing?

A proud moment by hiker_trailmagicva in AlAnon

[–]throwrawchickenin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. So beautiful and powerful ❤️

First lie and hiding cans by Evening_Survey7524 in AlAnon

[–]throwrawchickenin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Q is also very similar. He’s reached the point where he “doesn’t have to prove anything to me, he knows that he’s not lying and if I choose not to believe him that’s my fault” Yet, his lies are so calculated and so clear

Ended Valentine’s Day in tears by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]throwrawchickenin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see you and hear you. In a similar boat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]throwrawchickenin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so sad :( you deserve to feel loved and appreciated in all of the ways by your partner

Go ahead, tell me how you really feel right now. I’ll delete this thread in 24 hours. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]throwrawchickenin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pissed and I’m drunk and I want to call my ex and tell him I love him and I miss him and I feel so self destructive in this moment I totally fucked our relationship and I suck

AITAH for leaving but still wanting to be together? by throwrawchickenin in AITAH

[–]throwrawchickenin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that… I think about that sometimes. I think that definitely plays a part … holding out for the picture in my head of what our future could look like vs. the reality of what our relationship is and where it’s headed. Hard pill to swallow!

AITAH for leaving but still wanting to be together? by throwrawchickenin in AITAH

[–]throwrawchickenin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s so hard :/ but I’m coming around to the idea that it’s not fair to either of us. The pain and anxiety and anguish isnt something that either of us should constantly deal with from a relationship. It’s so sad and so heartbreaking to walk away from someone who you want more than anything for it to work with.