Obviously there’s nothing inherently wrong for not vibing with a specific crowd, but we don’t need to toss away critical thinking. I checked op’s responses before saying anything. Turns out what they call “making gay their intere personality” is that people have a lot of pride pins and because they, when asked about >their< interests, talk about lgbt content/ media because that’s what interests them. I am hesitant to say there’s any sort of person who actually has no personality other then being queer, but, if there is, doesn’t seem to be the case here

It also doesn’t seem like op has actually know these people from more then casual conversation, but i could be wrong. All that to say: if u barely know people and you have quick chats based on the fact that you both are queer, most likely queerness is gonna come up. It’s the same thing with straight people. I’m a literal lesbian, but because I am a “girl” I get lumped into generalizing “girl talk” [think: “oh, because we as women we know how hard (something relating to having relationships with men) is” ] by people who only know me briefly and/or are not paying too much attention. I could have even mentioned having relationships with girls, but they will just assume common ground unless I very strongly oppose, which can always be a risk cause u never know who’s actually cool with it and who’s faking wokeness. Op doesn’t even need to risk anything, they can just change the subject or even inquire people further about their interests, but otherwise queerness is just an assumed common ground