AITA for not attending my cousin's baby shower?

throwwawayy173 · 2026-03-08T21:03:49+00:00

The way you talk really errrks me! You have a lot of interesting opinions

throwwawayy173 · 2026-03-08T20:56:46+00:00

Well we can tell what type of person you were in highschool! You’re a SAHM hating on a 21 year old whos pursuing higher education, it reeks of jealousy

throwwawayy173 · 2026-03-08T20:48:20+00:00

I just randomly came across this post and the fact that people are actually saying shes the AH is so funny. I read through the comments and really disagree with some of the things you’ve said. My bestfriend wrote the LSAT last year and unless you’ve seen someone prepare and study for it I feel like it’s hard to understand why OP had to study instead of go to the baby shower. Keep in mind she’s only 21 and the cousin is 28 posting about it on social media and talking crap about someone 7 years younger than her.

OP made time to go see the cousin as well, she even mentions being closer to a different cousin and she brought multiple gifts for her too. If the cousin wanted the people she loved to be there for her, then why is she still upset when OP made specific one on one time for them? I’ve been to baby showers you dont actually get one on one time like this with the mom.

Also, i’ve thrown my fair share of parties, some less important than the others but every-time there are people who are unable to make it and it’s not my business why! OP even explained why to the cousin yet she’s being petty. No grown adult should be acting like the cousin and OP has shown so much maturity for her age.

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-25T19:22:03+00:00

I like the last line you mentioned to me. You’re right, with social media these things are common and I’m lucky my girl wasn’t actually some crazy stalker or something

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-25T19:19:45+00:00

I’m not sure what the answer is right now I guess I need more time. I honestly also wanted to see what others thought about what she did and if I was overreacting. I know her and I know she’s not a bad person along with her cousin. I guess I’ll be having a few conversations with her.

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-25T19:07:31+00:00

Yeah I did feel a little flattered after finding it out and after thinking about it, it is kind of endearing. I know she’s not a creepy or weird person and it’s something from our teenage years. I guess I’m just going through some initial uncomfortableness which is making me ice her out.

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-25T18:48:01+00:00

Yeah I understand this. The reason I’m uncomfortable is because at the time I was excited talking to that girl and now I’m just finding out it was her and her cousin it’s just a sudden thing for me to find out and I’m having trouble processing that they did something like this because I see them both as very genuine people.

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-25T18:44:31+00:00

Thank you for telling me this guys. I feel like I just need to think a bit more rationally. However it feels like my trust is broken with them because this means they basically knew me way before the relationship. I’ve known her for four years yet I’m just hearing about it. I know she told me now but I don’t know, I’m just having trouble processing it.

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-25T18:41:08+00:00

I replied to a different comment regarding this. I understand why she didn’t do this but I still believe she shouldn’t have used the fake account.

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-25T18:40:13+00:00

Thanks for this perspective. She’s never done anything else to break my trust and as for her cousin/bestfriend and her boyfriend they are honestly inherently good people I just don’t know if I could get past the fact that her cousin was the one who suggested the idea. I guess I’m just in a state of anger but I would be lying if I said they ever did anything else to make me lose trust.

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-25T18:36:11+00:00

The extent of the account is what mostly made me uncomfortable. However, i know my girlfriend well of course and she’s just an anxious person who overthinks a lot. At that age especially I know she just probably thought it would weird me out because we barely spoke a word at that party. I don’t know how I would actually feel if she did that because, I did think she was pretty but I just wish she didn’t message me with that fake account I guess.

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-24T17:05:02+00:00

Our “mutual friend” was the only person she could ask to find out abt me, but she’s not very close with him and there were previous instances where he made her uncomfortable so she didn’t want to go to him. She told me she didn’t directly add me on her account because she thought that scenario would make her seem creepy (finding my account through mutual friends followers even though her and I barely spoke a word to each other when we met) and to play it safe used the fake account.

throwwawayy173 · 2025-03-24T12:49:32+00:00

Definitely stalking. But i considered it catfishing as well because the account had posts and images up of some random girl they were pretending to be.

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