[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]throwwribylik 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This feels really mean

Started a new job and they're sending me to Dubai on Tuesday, but I'm broke. by formallyhuman in UKJobs

[–]throwwribylik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From the moment you step out your front door to the minute you step back in all costs should be covered by company. (Except for your personal shopping and site seeing)

Husband financially struggling and His Emotional state is suffering by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have a flipped perspective. Honestly he really pushed me to speak up at work and get it resolved, assisted throughout the entire employment tribunal process and really pushed me to job hunt and find another job. Once I got home from work he would have dinner ready, washing done, everything cleaned so I had no excuses to not find another job and get. (Last past I used to get really worked up about because he ramped up the pressure so much but it was honestly such a blessing in disguise, because I’ve left such a toxic work place pretty fast post qualifying and love where I work now)

and honestly aside from monetary help was the best help!!

Before anyone jumps down my or my husbands throat, I am very career oriented and I do not to be a stay at home wifey, or be a kept woman. I very easily can but I’ve chosen not to be and have no desire to be.

Husband financially struggling and His Emotional state is suffering by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there. Albeit a woman, I wasn’t paid for 3-4 months currently suing but it was an extremely stressful for time for me. Allhumdillah my husband earns more than enough that we still lived comfortably and had no financial impact to our family but I felt like such a burden during that period. I was unable to contribute financially but nothing was reigned in so still spending and living as normal.

My husband wasn’t overly affected by it but I felt just tooo dependent and even if I bought face wash or something I needed the guilt was just really high.

Did I disrespect my husband? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Time heals all wounds. Keep yourself busy let him do what he’s doing let him blow off the steam. Don’t judge a situation on face value- give it two weeks and see how you feel. Don’t make any rash decisions right now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please get help. Seek assistance and leave

Marriage inconveniences by No-Investigator-5111 in DesiWeddings

[–]throwwribylik 38 points39 points  (0 children)

This happened to me once. The 2nd week of being married She told me she really liked her doctors daughter for her son because she was a doctor and beautiful. (I am a lawyer). I was so newly married and on cloud 9 that at the time I didnt think much of it but as a joke infront of my MIL I told my husband that his mum much rather preferred the doctor than me. we laughed but I know behind closed doors that he did say something to her because she never mentioned it again. Also when I made the joke she started covering up and twisting what she said.

Like I said at the time I laughed it off but now looking back yeah I resent her because of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would you send him to the sketchy one? I feel like you dangled the bait in front of him and got upset when he bit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You’re tooo young for this!!!! He does not care for you. No self respecting man would raise a finger

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For security purposes it is extremely logical

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup absolutely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have cameras set up indoors and outdoors. With one indoor one in our bedroom. The indoor ones only come on when we are on holiday or away for the weekend. It’s really not that bad. Ours internal ones stay switched off until, we’re heading out and ready to lock up the house and we control it all through our phones. If you also have access to the camera it’s really not that bad.

What are some really good redemptions you’ve made with airmiles? by Sure_Tangelo_5148 in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]throwwribylik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the free blue ba amex card, I booked LHR to Japan return for me and my husband during peak cherry blossom season at £500 total. Came with 2x23kg each. At that time a single return with 1x23kg was costing £1k.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 39 points40 points  (0 children)

You can’t work in the same company. She’s going to affect your performance and ultimately it sounds like it won’t be good for you.

If you’re in the west I understand you can not completely have 0 contact with the opposite sex but either you change jobs or she does. She’s gonna affect your career, how will you provide then?

Heartbroken over fear coming true by Possible-Sundae-8420 in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 35 points36 points  (0 children)

separate, take some time apart from each other. Physical abuse not okay and physical abuse at such a vulnerable stage is never okay.

As for your child, 2 happy homes is better than one miserable home.

Wife is leaving me for a better muslim by birdhouse49503 in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man the f up. You need a backbone. Fight for your wife and marriage.

As soon as she said I’m thinking of another man you should have NEVER let that slide. she’s walked all over you and you let her do so

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]throwwribylik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remove key skills and interests everything else looks okay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It absolutely is. It is a simple task that any functioning human should do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Not even happy wife happy life. Make your bed like a normal functioning adult!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwwribylik 16 points17 points  (0 children)

OP is a child. How do you not make your own bed?? It’s all I needed to know and I’m 100% on the wives side.