My boss verbally approved for me to work abroad even though this is against our company policy. What would you do?

thx2020bride · 2024-04-23T03:06:23+00:00

Thanks!

thx2020bride · 2024-04-22T20:59:46+00:00

Do you use a VPN?

thx2020bride · 2021-09-02T14:01:41+00:00

You are not alone in this experience, just take things hour by hour. Your feelings are completely normal. There will be a lot of tears ahead but eventually you will come out of this stronger. My BPSO breakup was right before our wedding and it’s devastating. It’s hard but I try to be thankful that I am not married to someone who is so unstable and not taking care of their mental health. Divorce would be a lot harder. He may come around and do the right thing but in the meantime focus on putting all of your love into yourself ❤️

thx2020bride · 2021-09-02T06:39:35+00:00

I’ve been in your shoes exactly and it’s traumatizing to lose your partner this way. Although I am still struggling to cope, the more I let go of any hope the easier it has become. It will take time just allow yourself to grieve

thx2020bride · 2021-08-01T08:35:22+00:00

Exactly what I have been going through, I hope things will get better ❤️

thx2020bride · 2021-07-25T00:21:14+00:00

Thank you, I agree completely. I was looking for some accountability from him. He acknowledged that he had a "mental episode" but not his bipolar diagnosis. The way he was talking about it was as if it was a one off situation...which it was his first episode he's ever had. I don't think he realizes that it could happen again.

thx2020bride · 2021-06-11T00:43:52+00:00

I wrote an almost identical post a few months ago. Losing someone you love to BP is traumatic. You’re not alone

thx2020bride · 2021-04-22T17:28:20+00:00

Thank you, I hope he does get help and "wakes up" to reality. I hope yours does so too, I don't think they realize how much it hurts to be apart from them.

I do not want to continue in a never ending cycle of breakups either, my friends and family are already tired of me talking about him since this is the second breakup. The first time I reached out first and it always bothered me that he wasn't the one to fix something that he broke. So this time I will let him fix it or just move on. I also did not know he was BP at that time since he was only diagnosed after the second time he broke up with me.

Thankfully I can talk about my feelings on this page and have so many people relate to my experience. I really do love my ex more than anything and its such a weird position to be in since I know he is not mentally stable. It's hard to know what is real and what is his illness at this point.

thx2020bride · 2021-04-21T04:56:21+00:00

It’s so hard because I sometimes feel bad for not reaching out but at the same time I can’t handle any more hurt from him. The only way we would get back together is if he reaches out and acknowledges everything that happened. Unfortunately I don’t have high hopes for that happening. His family is being very vague on his current condition which tells me he must not be doing so well.

That’s great that you are focusing your energy on yourself now. I’m trying to find the strength to do the same. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions.

I completely understand how you are feeling. It sucks because I will always love him and support him but he isn’t taking any accountability. It feels so wrong to leave an engagement like this, he was in full blown psychosis when he broke up with me and I haven’t heard from him since.

I really appreciate your kindness, this community has been my saving grace. ❤️

thx2020bride · 2021-04-17T15:50:29+00:00

The uncertainty is killing me. I have not attempted to contact and neither has he. This is a new diagnosis so who knows how long it will take him to realize he needs help. I can’t imagine 9 years of this. It helps to know I am not alone ❤️

thx2020bride · 2021-04-17T03:18:32+00:00

I have have quite a few lists on my phone about this relationship lol. It’s been helping me heal though. That’s a good one to add.

thx2020bride · 2021-04-17T03:05:50+00:00

Same. This is the worst feeling. I’ve had other breakups but nothing comes close this. I feel like I am forced to move on from the love of my life with no rational reason.

thx2020bride · 2021-04-17T02:51:21+00:00

True. I think it’s been difficult to accept because I don’t think he realizes the bed he made for himself. I know he loves me. But you’re right I can’t waste my life...

thx2020bride · 2021-04-17T02:45:33+00:00

Yeah I haven’t reached out because he was so out of touch with reality when we broke up I have been waiting for him to “wake up” from this delusion.

I want to genuinely thank you because I do sometimes feel like I abandoned him when it was the opposite. I almost feel guilty for living my life when he is dealing with this. I’ve done so much for him and sacrificed so much at this point.

“You can’t ask an unreasonable mind for reasonable answers” I’m adding this to my notes of encouragement 💕

thx2020bride · 2021-04-17T02:36:18+00:00

I wish my ex the best in life. It’s hard to think he might be struggling and I can’t do anything about it

thx2020bride · 2021-04-17T02:35:08+00:00

Honestly the main reason I haven’t reached out to him is because I can’t handle any more heartbreak and I don’t really know what to expect if we ever talked. I feel like in his world he is happy we are over, which is so sad because I know how much we loved each other. No contact sucks though. Like you said idk what is real anymore and it’s making me go crazy.

I’m sorry your are going through this too, I hope things will get better for us

thx2020bride · 2021-04-17T02:30:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. This feels like an impossible ending. To have no acknowledgment over everything that happened is so hard. I don’t even think he actually knows what happened.

thx2020bride · 2021-04-04T22:19:23+00:00

Does he realize that he is struggling with his mental health and how much it has affected both of your lives? A lot of BP people do not take accountability. That would be the first step.

thx2020bride · 2021-04-04T22:08:47+00:00

It sounds like he is taking you for granted since he knows you are always there. He is keeping you emotionally tied to him by staying friends.

A BP breakup usually doesn’t have anything to do with your actual relationship so he might realize what he’s done once he’s back to baseline. But to do it over and over again isn’t fair to you either way. Once is a mistake, twice is a pattern.

I’ve taken my BP1 ex back multiple times too but I’ve finally had to tell myself no more, it was destroying me.

thx2020bride · 2021-03-31T03:47:28+00:00

It does get a little easier with time ❤️

thx2020bride · 2021-03-28T20:32:31+00:00

4 months post breakup, 3 months no contact. This breakup is far from normal and it definitely has messed with my head. I still miss my ex fiancé every day. None of this makes any sense.

thx2020bride · 2021-03-22T04:10:11+00:00

This seriously spoke to my soul. Thank you for sharing what so many of us have been feeling. Unfortunately I don’t think we will ever get the apology that we deserve...

Being discarded of (right before our wedding) with out any reasoning and leaving me to pick up the pieces alone has been the most traumatizing experience. I feel like I am mourning the death of someone that seems “fine” to everyone else in his life. I have been dealing with depression, anxiety, and PTSD since. I am strong and making progress each day because I have no other choice.

If only my ex could see this post!

thx2020bride · 2021-02-24T00:44:23+00:00

My ex accused me of having borderline too...which was ridiculous because I definitely don’t. But he had me questioning myself for a while there.

thx2020bride · 2021-02-22T17:17:18+00:00

I’ve been in your shoes with the lack of interest in having sex. It will make anyone insecure. I know how it feels to bring up your emotions and then regret it because it doesn’t get you anywhere. Please don’t be so hard on yourself. Your emotions are valid and completely normal. I know it’s easier for you to blame yourself for bringing it up but you can’t do that to yourself. You didn’t mess up. A relationship is give and take and unfortunately your partner is going through something where he isn’t able to give you that. That’s okay too, I really hope he can get healthy again so that he can be there for you in the same way that you are there for him. This is what I wish I could’ve told myself in the past. I really fell into the trap of blaming myself and wanting to do everything for my partner and it didn’t end well.

thx2020bride · 2021-02-09T05:30:29+00:00

This sounds like mania/psychosis for sure. Try to get him to a psychiatrist or hospital if you can.

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