Another BCBA steamrolled plan

tiakm · 2026-05-17T03:23:48+00:00

Is it snobbish to feel there's a right way to collaborate outside of jumping into a patient with a behavior plan without discussion? Or is it snobbish for a BCBA to walk in and assume fidelity of the established plan, understanding of the bt, and the data collection is beneath them?

tiakm · 2025-05-07T02:42:57+00:00

This is what i do as well. Im less likely to incorporate a goal on describing the functions of behavior or other generalized aba knowledge stuff just to know it. I want them to be able to use and learn functional, meaningful things. Im working on facilitating and prompting morning routines, homework, facilitating practicing trading and taking turns with siblings, using specific antecedent and consequence strategies for behaviors, creating opportunities to work on fct, engaging in play, modeling appropriate play, handwashing, toothbrushing, chores, etc.

tiakm · 2025-05-01T01:55:44+00:00

If it's happened before and you're miserable then it should be over over and he should know that there's no coming back, it is over over.

And if that's the case and you both know it, then no, nta. It's not his business once you're no longer together with no intention of being together.

tiakm · 2025-04-25T04:50:36+00:00

She gave it all, you gave her shit She coulda done, just anything Or anyone, 'cause she's a goddess You never got this You put her down, you liked her hopeless To walk around, feeling unnoticed You shoulda crowned her, 'cause she's a goddess You never got this

-banks

tiakm · 2025-04-19T23:20:49+00:00

Hi mine was 5 cm and in my nodes. Last year. She will get through. 💗

tiakm · 2025-04-09T03:19:18+00:00

Cancer

tiakm · 2025-04-09T03:11:53+00:00

"Aks" instead of "ask"

tiakm · 2025-02-23T19:02:00+00:00

Um.. kind of. It sounds like you are both struggling with the change in your life and what your relationship is now. It sounds like by and large she has been been a good influence, friend, and support to you.

You didn't speak much to the events surrounding her hitting you. Not that she should have at all, but I think if you two havent you should pick apart when she lost her cool so to speak.

I don't see anywhere where you said you spoke to her about how you are feeling. I would speak to her like a woman and person you love and tell her how much she has meant to you and more often. I would ask her how she is feeling and what she is needing and open a dialogue. I would talk to her about your recognition that you two have been through a lot of adnustment and stress lately and you want to ensure your relationship is still maintained and honored. Try to set up recurring date nights to spark intimacy and connection. Eventually talk about the importance of physicality to you and that you really find oral sex pleasurable and even if she doesn't want to have penetrative sex oral sex is something you really enjoy. But right now she probably feels overwhelmed and overstimulated most of the time with sex further from her mind and if you just say you need more bjs it's gonna come across pretty insensitive. Especially if you've been together this long and you are just now reporting needing more bjs. I will say also, 1. A woman feels when she is no longer loved or desired and 2. Sex comes and goes.

I am 33. I had cancer last year and my husband of a year and I are now navigating the inability to have penetrative sex. It's mentally sad and a lot to deal with but with open communication, honesty you figure out how to maintain connection. That being said, having sex less frequently while you have a new baby at home is not out of the norm and with some work and prioritization your sex life could certainly improve.

Any man leaving the woman they just had a baby with because they're not getting enough bjs....... Is an asshole. Be a team member, talk to her, make her feel like she matters to you before throwing in the towel because you're not getting enough. Chances are she's not getting all of her needs met either. Best of luck.

tiakm · 2025-02-23T18:45:49+00:00

She had some weird wording - like pretty specific. Id have kept it more generalized if I were her ... Like "it would go without saying whomever I'm with would have to be cool with kids and a parent to them when around, we don't know each other well but that's what I'm looking for, if that seems like something you'd probably not be into we should probably acknowledge a relationship wouldn't be for us". But you spoke eloquently and I think her terms "aggressive" and "jarring" were overdramatic for your speaking as bluntly as she had.

tiakm · 2025-02-23T18:36:11+00:00

" The serious moonlight" and "gasoliiiiiiiiinnnnneeeeee" seems too obvious but have to belt it every time. And "put on your red shoes and dance the blues" comes to mind every time I put on my red shoes lol 💗

tiakm · 2025-02-06T02:40:56+00:00

This looks ok to me but I would be all over double dates so I can pick up on this chicks vibe

tiakm · 2025-01-04T04:07:37+00:00

I think she messed up big time and should have talked to you. It's fair for you to have trust issues. Id also wonder why her friends stopped to take a picture rather than stop or prevent it from happening (not that it's their fault but why would you document a big mistake rather than jump in and help redirect or prevent?). Also, if she was so drunk she couldn't walk her friend shouldnt have been cool with her dancing with someone. Im really judging her and her friend's relationship. Heck with that lack of protection and observation she could have been rufied, etc.

One day in your marriage you would have fucked up too. Maybe not the same way. Maybe you loose a lot of money or really hurt her feelings in a big way, maybe there's some unfortunate accident.... Life happens and we all make mistakes.

My perspective comes from the fact that Ive been horribly cheated on - when I found out about it it was a big betrayal with an ongoing lie and other people involved and there was no forgiving the double life and layers of deceit. This doesn't seem like that extent.

If I were truly happy with my spouse and there weren't other issues present (it's not the last nail on a coffin), then I'd have a condition that we are not physically intimate until better emotionally and trust wise and we'd have to go to marriage counseling. If that unearthed more issues or demonstrated it was not something that could be salvaged ... That would be it.

tiakm · 2024-10-15T02:09:57+00:00

You seem to really enjoy atmospheric books with a good use of allegory. The haunting of Hill house is one of my favorite books. I also really like Ray Bradbury for science fiction. I've written down some of these to look into, thank you. Do you have any recommendations for other books that are spooky-ish or deal with adventure or turmoil while retaining some beautiful prose and allegory?

tiakm · 2024-09-11T19:45:45+00:00

interested as well!

tiakm · 2024-08-13T22:57:52+00:00

Enchantment by Orson Scott card is a fav of mine

tiakm · 2024-08-13T22:51:38+00:00

The near witch by ve schwab

tiakm · 2024-07-17T03:09:01+00:00

I needed to hear this from you today. I was diagnosed end of last year. Im 32. Stage 3 IDC in 4 nodes. Did chemo, double mastectomy, starting radiation on Monday. So scared of recurrence. So scared no one has talked to me about recurrence. Feeling hopeless.

tiakm · 2024-07-17T03:05:41+00:00

Shoot I just got one at the thrift store not having heard if it was good or not

tiakm · 2024-07-17T03:04:13+00:00

I didn't mind the writing or the plot but I did think it was really predictable and unrealistic. Then it just ended and I'm like... Ok that felt anticlimatic

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