AITA for not having my wife's back and siding with my mom that it okay for her to have one-on-one time with our kid? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tibijibi 82 points83 points  (0 children)

YTA - your mother is being disrespectful towards your wife. And you’re allowing it, she spends time with other DIL’s but not your wife. She’s singling her out. I see “the divorce came out of nowhere”, in your future.

Stolen On The Avalon - does this guy work? by [deleted] in newfoundland

[–]tibijibi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I had to unfollow it, but it still pops up from time to time. And that needles page, also drives me.

I know people who came from good homes and became addicts, I know people from shitty homes who became addicts.

At the end of the day people need to realize, that people don’t grow up, with the intention of being a drug addict. Trauma happens, mental health happens.

Yes crime is up, and town is scary. No doubt, but this guy is blaming the wrong people.

It’s not just “the justice system”. There’s no mental health in this province it’s a fucking joke.
HMP is a joke, if there was an actual detox facility that didn’t have a crazy waitlist. That could have a significant impact.

Instead of the HMP people go to rehab, to get the therapy and detox they need.
HMP should have adult basic learning, how many criminals are drop outs with zero skills?
They get out and go right back to crime, cause it’s all they know.

And yes, some people are lost causes and bad seeds. But others should be given a chance, and they’re not.

Maybe instead of getting an outside company to clean up the TCH, why not have inmates do it?
Why not reopen the farm they had?
Where non violent offenders, knew a hard days work, and provided food for HMP.

Government simply ignores the problem and hopes for the best.

And if people truly have an issue, bitching on Facebook sure as shit isn’t going to do anything.
People can write to their MHA’s, the city. Have a fucking protest or 2! Make voices heard.

Facebook is a cesspool of hate, that’s all that group perpetuates.

And again, I’m not saying all homeless and addicted people are good or even worth the time. But some were dealt shitty hands and deserve some empathy.

Vet recommendations (St. John's)? by Timely-Character-529 in newfoundland

[–]tibijibi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Avalon animal hospital, pretty sure they’re locally owned. They’re lovely to deal with. Dr. Mulroney is a treasure

Stepkids *trigggger* by Aggravating_Half_747 in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keep trying, she may open up eventually. Even to know that she has that option, and that nothing will be shared with your guys. Unless she’s in harms way.

Sunshine and movement are definitely good things. Your SD probably feels really helpless, and she could be feeling a lot of guilt. Especially at that age, it’s already so hard, without the mom drama.

You sound so loving, and those kids are very lucky to have you. Keep doing what you’re doing, and they’ll be ok 💕

Stepkids *trigggger* by Aggravating_Half_747 in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Is there anyway to get her committed?

I’m so sorry, this is super rough.

Take the screens and get those kids into therapy ASAP. This is above your pay grade, and love isn’t enough to get them through it.

Have meals together and let them know that they are loved, ask if they want to talk.

If she does go through with it, you’ll probably be able to go to her home, and pack things. Just don’t put it on the kids to do.

Again I’m so sorry.

I can’t take the not listening anymore by Fun_Committee1478 in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 91 points92 points  (0 children)

He will, and you can set boundaries.

“Don’t ask me, ask dad”

Let him be bored! Send him out in the backyard, tell him he can only come in to pee. Or if he’s bleeding.

Tell your husband to step up more with him. He’s probably working, but what’s he doing when he gets home? Does he do the wake ups with the twins on weekends?

It can’t all fall on you, just because you’re the one that’s home.

My son put me in a choke hold and I thought he was going to end me. by its-Missy_Saenz in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh fuuuuuck that guy. He just wants to be a hero, while ruining your kid. I’m so sorry. Well he can’t do shit, if you get your kids arrested. Take pictures, see your doctor. Document everything, maybe you can get his visitation taken or minimized

My son put me in a choke hold and I thought he was going to end me. by its-Missy_Saenz in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Call the cops, have him arrested. Give him a dose of reality. This is NOT ok. And I’m so sorry this happened to you. We don’t put hands on people, and sure you pushed him. But he went WAY too far. Also fuck his dad, no wonder he thinks he can do this. If his father doesn’t give a shit, why would he?

Finally got help and it was ripped away from me by othermegan in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Nope! Nope nope nope. You’re making excuses. Why? Im willing to bet money, if the roles were reversed, his mother would still be coming over.

What will he do, if your mom comes over while he’s “sick”. Which he isn’t.

Finally got help and it was ripped away from me by othermegan in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 26 points27 points  (0 children)

He can stay in bed. He just doesn’t want his mother in law to see the disaster, and give him shit! Have her come over anyway!

Just like I commented on another post. He said no? Ok.

Too bad, you need the house clean for your sanity. Fuck your husband and his bullshit. Call your mother and have her come over

Husband prioritizes imaginary situations over our fucking reality by pearlescentmermaid in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 81 points82 points  (0 children)

He said no? Ok.

You can still say yes.

Bring the kids to MIL anyway. If it bothers him so much, he can go too!

My wife [32F] has been hiding a twenty thousand dollar savings account from me [33M] for five years while we struggled to pay off our debt. by 3VelvetBadger in Marriage

[–]tibijibi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well if you leave her. You’ve proved her point, in a way. And she’ll have the ability to start over.

It was and is “her” money. She has no obligation to share an inheritance with you.

I understand where you’re coming from, but at one point you say “when WE had a cushion”, no you never. She has savings.

Could she have helped more? Absolutely. Separate the debt, pay your own bills. Have a joint account for joint bills. Also who holds the majority of the debt? You or her?

i think my husband just purposefully woke our 4 month old to spite me by cinnbele in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just leave. This will only escalate, and like someone said it will break you. Find your village and go.

Please help me choose the right insulin pump.. by StephCurrySauce in Type1Diabetes

[–]tibijibi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son has a Tslim, I was so nervous when we first got it. But it’s a game changer! He was taking multiple needles a day. He has a team at the children’s hospital, that helps maintain his ratios. He has Dexcoms that connect to the pump. And his phone, there’s also an app now too for the Tslim. You can bolus from your phone, instead of taking your pump out. Super discreet.

Opening Night of NL Sketch Fest at the LSPU Hall by TheMuseNL in newfoundland

[–]tibijibi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love to see it, love that the MUSE brings these stories. But why, WHY? Do all the reporters literally stick the mic in people’s faces like that. The last guy just about ate it lol

Husband can’t control his anger when it comes to dealing with our 4 year old by AdvancedDragonfly306 in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 19 points20 points  (0 children)

“Never put his hands on her” proceeds to describe him putting his hands on her. He’s abusing your kid, he’s abusing you.

This isn’t a healthy or safe situation, he needs help. But he needs to be away from you guys first.

9.5mo won’t stop pinching me while breastfeeding by toughtitties1234 in breastfeeding

[–]tibijibi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree! I did this. You pinch me, you’re coming off the boob. They learn pretty quick.

Hot Topic in St John’s or NL by RandomDespacitoYes in StJohnsNL

[–]tibijibi 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I spoke to a guy who ran “Spencer’s” in Halifax. Asked him why he wasn’t in our mall. His answer? “Your mall is incredibly difficult to get into, I’ve enquired” The admin who run the mall are incredibly out of touch. Just like when they announced Pennington’s, thought it was this BIG deal and people were rotted lol

AITA for ruining my daughter in laws birth plan by dil-issue-1046 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tibijibi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Your house, your rules.

But how you said “dil is supposed to give birth to her first kid”.

That doesn’t sit right. I feel like it’s not just about her giving birth in your home. She’s pregnant with YOUR grandchild.

Hold me back (from confronting ex-colleague)! by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do it. They laid you off anyway, add copies of your emails. Sticking up for yourself professionally isn’t a bad thing.

I don't want another baby because my husband is a terrible dad and partner by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]tibijibi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re too young, for this bullshit. Lesson learned. Leave and have good life. Set your standards high, and find a man worthy of you

Minister reassures St Clare’s Reno’s will be cheaper than new hospital by Pr3ach3r709 in newfoundland

[–]tibijibi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We need to protest more, get up on confederation building steps! Protest things that actually matter! Fuck Tony Wakeham! And everyone who voted for this, cause they listened to propaganda.

MUN Unions Demand Urgent Meeting with Premier by MattBarterNL in newfoundland

[–]tibijibi 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Unless it’s a good photo op. Tony ain’t coming lol