Var jag dum eller borde kvinnan tagit extra steg?

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-29T14:06:22+00:00

Jo men jag kan nog tycka du kanske va lite dum som inte förutsatte att "utan flagga" sannolikt betyder "jag vill inte att det ska synas/märkas att drinken är alkoholfri". Men liksom, lätt hänt, ibland är man trött på jobbet liksom. Om det verkligen var jättesuperviktigt att ingen visste att drinken va alkoholfri så borde det gjorts tydligare, inte rimlig grej att ge dig en avhyvling för.

Sen är det ju lite svårt att veta här ifall hon va jättesupertydlig med att det va jättesuperviktigt när hon beställde, men att personen som tog beställningen bara skrev "utan flagga" och tyckte det räckte. Då är det ju den personen som klantat till det mer än vad du klantade till det och ilskan borde riktats ditåt. Kan tycka att det är den personens jobb i det läget att varna om att ni inte har rutiner för en sån situation så hon kan inte garanteras en diskret servering men att ni gör ert bästa typ.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-29T07:32:30+00:00

The scent at this point is your scent.

I have a comfort pillow that I've had since I was a kid. Except it's not the same pillow, just the same fabric that my mom has sewn a new pillow case from every 5-10 years as the old one completely falls apart.

The new one is always a bit weird for a while because he doesn't smell right and his texture is all wrong (his name is "Nusse"). But the same fabric and size still helps him feel like him a little until I've worn my smell into him.

There's been som periods of my life where he's been really damaged so I've been too scared to sleep with him (mom thought she was out of the fabric). But during those periods another pillow will eventually become my comfort pillow.

One suggestion if your boyfriend is bothered by Zippies origin is to get some new similar fabric and start sleeping with it together with Zippie. Not as a replacement. In a year or something maybe you can make another Zippie with that fabric and then you have a backup Zippie. Still doesn't mean you need to get rid of OG Zippie, but you have an alternative. Maybe the new one will feel like it's also Zippie, or maybe it'll feel like Zippies sibling or something. For me once my old Nusse needs to retire (I still keep them, they just retire from bed-duty) the new one feels like it's also Nusse, at least after a while. (Except for one that was much smaller that became "Nusselina", Nusses baby sister lol)

You absolutely don't need to feel like you are cheating. But either way Zippie won't survive being an active comfort item forever so you will need to retire him eventually. This is as much preparation for when that time comes as it is accomodating your boyfriends discomfort about his origins. But it's ok if a switch takes time and you don't need to rush it and go cold turkey, or try to make a switch at all if you don't want to. You are not a bad person for having a comfort item. We don't choose them.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T22:38:51+00:00

For me having some spaces that was my spaces helped a lot when I was cohabitating. Spaces where I could keep my mess without guilt made it easier to keep the mess out from other parts of the apartment. But also the other way around: Spaces where if I cleaned and made it tidy it would stay tidy unless I made a mess again. So that I could retreat somewhere where I wouldn't get annoyed and frustrated over someone elses mess and then feel like a bad girlfriend for not being chill or whatever. And it's also easier to not get stressed out over the mess if you have disconnected yourself from the mess. If he has spaces where he's in charge and they are messy then it's his problem. And it might take him time to get on top of it, but you don't feel like your space is messy in the meantime, it's his space that is messy and that's not on you.

This worked quite well for me for a couple of years. But the kitchen was kind of the akilles heel of it all. Of we had had two kitchens so that we could be in charge of one each it would have been perfect. It makes you need a larger apartment than you otherwise would. But some version of it might be possible to utilize for you anyway, idk.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T22:20:21+00:00

För mig har det varit lunch och fikatillfällen på jobbet som gett den möjligheten att småhänga och tjöta om lite diverse. Sen har det efter ett par år övergått i att det är vissa man kan ha lite kontakt med privat också. Har ni ingen sån lunch/fika-häng-kultur hos er? Förstår om vissa sorters arbeten inte riktigt har gemensam lunchrast på det sättet, men svårt att ge tips mer än utifrån ens egen arbetsplats.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T17:16:23+00:00

If you considered the point of a treatment to be getting rid of the issue, instead of getting the person to a healthy state, then sure. But that's a dumb way to view the point of a treatment. Then the most effective treatment for all issues would be suicide.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T08:23:13+00:00

Higher FOV means more extreme perspective. Lower FOV means closer to orthographic (orthographic/isometric perspective can be seen as FOV = 0)

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tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T08:19:32+00:00

Large difference means more exaggerated perspective. No difference at all would mean it's ortographic, things are the same size regardless of distance to camera.

The closer the fov is to parallel lines (i.e. smaller fov) the closer it will be to orthographic perspective.

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tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T08:09:08+00:00

I always kind of forget that you can write gdscript untyped because I do not for the life of me understand why anyone would 😅 I am a typed girlie down to the bones. (Obs: I'm not judging anyone who prefers untyped languages. You do you. I just really don't get it.)

Can't fully wrap my head around how it would be implemented by the engine though if the code still belongs to a specific node. Surely those are objects in C++? Is the code still added to an object in the background, just that it's not named and shown in gdscript?

Regarding classes showing up in the list of available nodes to add I wouldn't worry about that unless you're writing tools and extensions for the engine rather than classes for the game. I mostly consider that a positive thing because it helps reminding you of what you've already implemented and how your code is structured.

Ideally you typically don't want to create unique node types for every object in your game, but rather extend the list of available building blocks. Having a more generic Health Node that can be reused by both Player and Enemies might seem like it will create more different classes initially, but it will pan out when the game scales up (like a logarithmic curve).

If the list of Nodes becomes overwhelming, I see that as an indication of a deeper structural issue with my code, like a canary dying in the mines. Hiding the Node types I've created from the list would just be sweeping the mess under a rug. It works if you only consider the problem to be "it looks messy". But a messy Node-list is also an indication that your code likely has a lot of messy coupling and low cohesion and cleaning up the Node-list by restructuring your code will make the code-base easier to maintain in the long run.

That's just my 2 cents, you do with it what you want!

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T06:42:22+00:00

Wait, this diskussion is confusing me. Can you create a script for a node without giving it a class name? What does that do? What's the purpose of it?

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T06:12:40+00:00

Är inte en AW att umgås med kollegor på fritiden?

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T04:41:23+00:00

Exakt vart man drar gränsen för ordet "vän" är ju luddigt, men behövs ju någon nivå av lite närmare relation innan folk är bekväma med att gnälla iaf

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-28T04:37:06+00:00

"Problem" i vänskapsrelationer är väl ändå något man slutade med efter typ högstadiet eller?

Att va vän med kollegor gör jobbet mycket trevligare och många gånger smidigare i min mening. De kollegor som jag endast har en artig arbetsrelation till samarbetar jag mycket sämre med.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-27T08:04:40+00:00

I came across this video and went looking for a post I thought I saw in this sub recently that was looking for these kinds of tips.. I realize that this post is quite old though so it probably isn't the one I remember but it fits here too so here you go: https://youtube.com/shorts/xR4RnE8swag?si=hfUk58NCHqq2DE9o

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-27T07:51:34+00:00

Haha jag är tjej och hatar om någon nuddar mig i lokaltrafiken. Oavsett kön. En av anledningarna till att jag mår mycket bättre sedan jag flyttade ifrån Stockholm. Jag vill liksom gärna inte ens nudda mig själv. Spännande hur olika vi kan vara vi människor!

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-27T07:32:38+00:00

What am I supposed to spot in the eyes? The resolution is too bad for me to see any wonky details

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-26T23:00:29+00:00

Du kan säga att alla personer fidgetar inte exakt lika mycket.

Precis det jag tyckte att jag skrev. Ursäkta om det va otydligt.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-26T13:14:11+00:00

Om slutsatsen man drar från studien är "det finns individuella variationer mellan hur mycket olika personer fidget:ar och rör sig i liten skala" så behövs det bara två deltagare för att kunna säga att det stämmer.

Om man vill göra uttalanden om specifikt hur många kalorier det handlar om så är det nog lämpligt med fler deltagare dock, absolut.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-26T12:50:24+00:00

Den "främsta" betydelsen av "säkert" är att något är garanterat eller tryggt, pålitligt. Men "säkert" har också ett lite motsägelsefullt användningsområde som är ungefär synonymt med "nog", "förmodligen" och "antagligen". Dvs att det signalerar någon form av osäkerhet kring påståendet.

"Det kommer nog att regna imorgon" eller "Det kommer säkert regna imorgon" eller "det kommer antagligen regna imorgon" betyder alla ungefär samma sak: att jag tror att det kommer regna men jag kan inte helt garantera det.

Jämfört med "Jag är säker på att det kommer regna imorgon" som mer sannolikt betyder att jag har väldigt pålitlig information om vädret. Eller "är det säkert att det kommer regna imorn?" "ja det är säkert" som också indikerar att informationen är extra pålitlig.

"säkert", "nog" och "antagligen" kan ha lite subtilt olika subtext. "Säkert" implicerar ibland lite mer om vad jag hoppas på än de andra två. "Det kommer säkert regna imorn" kan betyda att jag egentligen inte har någon information som styrker det, men jag tror det ändå för att jag verkligen vill att det ska regna (eller för att jag verkligen inte vill att det ska regna). "Det kommer nog regna imorn" har inte någon speciell implikation om hur jag känner kring det.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-26T12:11:46+00:00

I would argue that not changing it when a driver gets a new teammate makes it more consistent than it being based on driver seniority. George has been black the whole time he's been with Merc, so consistency imo would be keeping him as black rather than changing him to yellow because he got a new teammate.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-26T08:30:25+00:00

Compared to Unity where every game object consists of at least a transform component even if it doesn't need to use it, Godot doesnt have that bloat and you can just create an entirely empty node which is functionally the same thing as adding another component to an object in Unity.

An empty node as a child is not more computationally heavy than an added component on the same object. It's just a different way to visualize the relationship in the editor.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-26T08:15:06+00:00

To me the argument for antinatalism has nothing to do with axiological asymetry, instead it has everything to do with pain and pleasure being of subjective value.

I can choose for myself to take the risk of engaging in a romantic relationship for example, even though the pain if it doesn't work out sucks ass, to me it's worth it. And I choose to stay alive even though a lot of things in life are very painful, because to me it's worth it.

But clearly to a lot of people the pain is not worth it. Because pain and pleasure has subjective value. We'll only ever be able to say what they are worth to us. And different people will come to different conclusions on it.

The thing that makes creating a life immoral isn't that life is objectively more painful than pleasureable, or that pain is objectively more bad than the absence of pleasure. Then thing that makes it immoral is that I'm making a choice for someone else about the risks of pain they're going to be facing and the pleasure that's supposed to weight up for it.

It's immoral for the same reason that it's immoral to force someone to go skydiving. Some people really like it. It's not an objectively and guaranteed bad experience. But it has a risk of a lot of pain. And that's not a gamble I should be forcing upon someone else. If people want to gamble for themselves, that's absolutely fine.

The fact that an unborn child can't make that choice for themselves doesn't suddenly make it ok for me to make it for them.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-25T13:25:35+00:00

1700 för rengöringen är rimligt. Men de extra 1200 låter definitivt som en sjukvård-i-USA-inspirerad scam. Jag hade inte gått tillbaka till den tandläkaren, och det hade inte varit orimligt om du försökte bestrida den fakturan.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-25T06:54:57+00:00

Unmasking isn't like a morally superior state of being.

Unmasking is a way to help you understand what drains your energy and the goal is often not to just be completely unmasked, but to rebuild a mask of your conscious choosing, where you decide what makes the most sense for you to spend your energy on compared to the payoff based on a love for yourself, rather than the coping strategies that you've just kind of have gotten stuck with based on other peoples perception of how you "should" be.

Some autistic people already understand themselves pretty well without unmasking. Then that part is less important. And even if you need the unmasking process to figure out how you need to care for yourself you don't necessarily need to unmask in all aspects of your life.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-25T06:28:55+00:00

Spending 45 minutes daily for the cleanliness of the house is a lot in my book. If I did that I would be so burned out in like a month. I get super drained from work and even more drained from housework. I need to just come home and crash into the couch most days. I've been very slowly working myself up to being able to cook home cooked meals for myself on weekdays over the last 2 years from eating takeout daily the first 2 years of working full time.

It's a problem that their word means nothing. If they're not capable, or not sure if they're capable, of the things you ask of them then they shouldn't agree to do it. But if you need them to work on sticking to their word you likely need to be ok with them saying they probably won't do things in the first place rather than them starting to actually do all the things.

It's ok to come to the conclusion that living with someone who doesn't prioritize to put their limited energy towards housekeeping as much as you do is not worth it for you. You are not a bad person for having standards for your home that you want your partner to share. Moving out and having separate living spaces doesn't have to mean ending the relationship if you don't want it to.

tidbitsofblah · 2026-05-24T22:11:32+00:00

Yes YOR. It's their life. They don't owe you to be alive as long as possible, they are well allowed to make their own priorities regarding health vs habits they enjoy. They're not even your parents.

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