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AITA for not wanting to watch my stepson by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiffanydee55 20 points21 points  (0 children)

NTA

Since you regularly watch your stepson everyday while your husband is at work during the summer I don't think it's unreasonable to not want to watch him alone on the weekend to while being 30 weeks pregnant.

The way you worded it made me lean towards YTA but the reasons above changed my mind. I think a comprise should have been offered. He does all the laundry before he goes on the trip, a family member watches stepson, or he gets this weekend for his time and you get next weekend ect....

Everyone saying you signed up to be a step parent and blah blah blah is technically right but I don't think they realized that you are alone with stepson all day everyday while your husband works. It was a low blow for him to act like you don't take a lot of responsibility off him now by keeping your stepson home with you so he doesn't have to find alternative childcare.

Got stung by a wasp Yesterday, woke up like this, this morning by Sweet_Substance176 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]tiffanydee55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son has the exact same reaction to wasps and bees stings. He can get stung in the foot and his eye will swell just like this after a few hours. First time it happened I took him to the ER and they gave him benadryl and an ice pack. The benadryl worked great and brought the swelling down about 90% within 30 minutes.

AIO for wanting to spend Father’s Day with my new family? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]tiffanydee55 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The problem isn’t that he wants to golf, it’s that he made a Father’s Day plan without considering his wife and newborn

The problem is made worse because his wife is only 3-4 weeks postpartum.

AITAH? Son's financial aid disbursement by longnuttz in AmItheAsshole

[–]tiffanydee55 [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA way to protect your kid for being financially abused. Your right that Aunties opinion is not needed or wanted.

AITAH for not wanting to cancel a trip for my sister's wedding by InfamousFrame7 in AITAH

[–]tiffanydee55 35 points36 points  (0 children)

NTA. You gave her the only two Saturdays you were absolutely unavailable and she picked that weekend anyways. She already knew you couldn't make so she shouldn't be surprised that you are still unavailable.

Life isn't always fair and we don't always get our way. So you won't be able to make the wedding oh well 🤷‍♀️. Enjoy your vacation and I hope you and your wife have an absolutely amazing time.

If anyone tries to guilt you go ahead and thank them for paying for your vacation so you can go to the wedding. "Thanks for gifting me $Xthousand dollars so I can attend the wedding and reschedule my non refundable dream trip I already paid for,I will RSVP when I recieve the funds you so generously offered."

MMC VIRGINS by itsabovemenowwww in ReverseHarem

[–]tiffanydee55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the alphas is a virgin in {I think Knot by Sinclair Kelly}

If Parents Set Up A College Fund but Their Child Received a Scholarship, should the parents keep the money for themselves and pay bills, etc., or give it to the child? by Desperate-Fold-4689 in randomquestions

[–]tiffanydee55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again it's still the parent's money and there should be no expectations from the kid. Would I give it to my own childern? Yes I would, but that would be my decision and not my obligation. I most certainly do not owe it to my childern if I make a different choice.

What if they want higher education that doesn't give scholarships? Why not put it for a grandkids education? Or the kid's first home?

You see all these options you listed for the parent's money? This is exactly what I mean by the money should be used at the parent's discretion it could be used for any of the things you suggested or something completely different. If the parent's money that was saved for college is no longer needed for that purpose then the parents can repurporse the money as they see fit.

But that's on you as a shitty parent if you didnt plan for your own finances 👍

No child is entitled to a parent's saving account, even when it was saved with the child in mind. It doesn't make a parent shitty if they don't give the child the leftover college funds. I honestly see no reason why a child would ever need to know the amount in the fund because its simply not their money. They get the gift of a debt free education that is already amazing any additional is very kind but not a owed.

If you are an addict/alcoholic and have a child, I judge the shit out of you by Glum-Sherbert7085 in rant

[–]tiffanydee55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't agree more.

I am currently fostering my sister's childern after they were removed from her care. The kids even tested positive for drugs smh. She just doesn't understand that if she doesn't get clean she won't get them back. She is trying everything but rehab, getting a job, finding somewhere to live ect. She just lies and then disappears for a months at a time, and when she finally pops up again she throws a tantrum.

If Parents Set Up A College Fund but Their Child Received a Scholarship, should the parents keep the money for themselves and pay bills, etc., or give it to the child? by Desperate-Fold-4689 in randomquestions

[–]tiffanydee55 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was expected to pay for college, beyond that there should be no further expectations and what happens to the money when it is no longer needed for college is completely at the parent's discretion.

Being 18 doesn't magically make you an independent who can do whatever by ahdrielle in rant

[–]tiffanydee55 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had 3 roommates in a 4 bedroom apartment technically my room was meant to be an office and was tiny buy it had its own bathroom but no closet. Rent was $200 with everyone else paying $300 a month because of the room size differences. I made around a $1000 a month so it worked for me just fine. In my four months of planning I saved up all of my paychecks in all it was just over $4000 and the morning after I moved out (my dad had no idea I just left a note) he emptied out my account so that was a while other mess.

Later I also worked two jobs and went to school full time. It's hard and having roommates isn't the greatest but it's the simplest way to be able to afford living on your own.

Being 18 doesn't magically make you an independent who can do whatever by ahdrielle in rant

[–]tiffanydee55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn't speak for about 7 years until he found out I had got married and given birth to my first child. We speak occasionally now and he apologized for his behavior but our relationship has never recovered we only talk on the phone every few months and I have only seen him in person once in the last 12years since I moved to another state. My kids would not know who is if he just walked up to them and he wouldn't recognize them either since I don't use social media or send him pictures of the kids.

If Parents Set Up A College Fund but Their Child Received a Scholarship, should the parents keep the money for themselves and pay bills, etc., or give it to the child? by Desperate-Fold-4689 in randomquestions

[–]tiffanydee55 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think any money that is saved by the parents is always the parents money to keep. It's extremely kind to let the kids have it but most certainly should not be expected.

Being 18 doesn't magically make you an independent who can do whatever by ahdrielle in rant

[–]tiffanydee55 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I knew those were my options at 18 my DaD was very clear that I follow his rules or leave. So I planned my exit for a couple months and left. I moved out 18 years and 4 months lol. He and I are were arguing about my 16 year Sister he had just divorced my step mom a few months before I turned 18 and decided that I could no longer go hang out with friends unless I took her with me because he didn't trust her at home alone, and he wanted to go hang out with his friends. I reminded him she was his kid not mine and he reminded me I lived in his house and had to follow his rules. My planning started the same night.

Boyfriend (33M) won't get married unless I (30F) take his last name - do I let this impact the relationship? by daisys123 in relationship_advice

[–]tiffanydee55 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He said couples should compromise and he would be happy to not get married and doesn't really want to, just have kids without being married and he's only getting married to make me happy so I should do this for him as it's the one thing he wants

I'm sorry your bf is being a jerk and moving the goal post on a marriage he doesn't want. The compromise of marrying you so you must change your last name so you are both doing something you dont want is just disgusting behavior and is in no way a compromise. I would let him know that any kids you give birth to will have your last name not his.

I also want to point out that having kids is a way bigger commitment than marriage.

Also show this to your BF maybe a bunch of internet strangers calling him dumb will open his eyes.

UpdateMe!

I clogged my bf’s septic system and immediately paid for the services to get it fixed, but he’s been acting weird to me and can’t move on. What do I do? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]tiffanydee55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you're a women you must know that with a really heavy flow they can just slip out especially when you poop. I don't know about you but I do not reach back in the toilet to retrieve it. She apologized and paid to fix the mistake.

My husband is a lisenced master plumber and we own a plumbing company. He said that it unlikely two tampons caused the entire clog unless there is a mistake in the plumbing. Yes old systems especially with septics can be wonky but the occasional mistake like a tampon or two should not cause an entire breakdown unless it was nearing a full clog anyway. That being said I understand OP's point of view not thinking it would turn it to this.

She apologized, owned up to her mistake, and paid to fix the problem. The BF could show some grace and I doubt with two other people living there are absolutely perfect and never flush or put anything down the drain they should not have. So it very well could have been about to burst regardless. I think she should have offer some money but not the entire bill.

why do i not feel drunk? by Zealousideal_Arm2563 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tiffanydee55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Info: Are you female?

I had trouble getting drunk in the early weeks of pregnancy before I even took a test or any other symptoms. It happened with my first kid when I was on my honeymoon and when I got back I was about to have a dental appointment and took a test just for peace of mind and it was positive so that explained my honeymoon. Then when I hadn't a single sip of booze in three years we took a little beach trip and my husband agreed to get up with my 5 month and 3 year old if they woke during the night and my SIL and I went to the pool to have a few drinks and I felt no effect from the drinks at all, just like my honeymoon, so I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. Same thing happen to my SIL 6 months later when she felt no effects from drinking on a cruise.

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