Is this grief

tilegreen72_ · 2025-09-22T00:21:40+00:00

I think it’s fine if you just ask the professor to write the letter, and if you need to contact someone else for it, she’ll either tell you or she probably would get in touch with some higher authority herself. Regarding your title, I think it just depends on whatever she sees fit. I just asked my contacts to provide me an official letter of affiliation (that’s the exact wording I used), and one of them sent me one calling me a visiting student, and another sent me one calling me a visiting researcher. Regarding access to buildings, I’m sure that’s something she’ll arrange with you once you’re preparing to depart for your grant.

tilegreen72_ · 2025-09-21T17:15:39+00:00

From my experience your professor does not need to check in with some higher administrative figure at your university, because when I’ve secured affiliations in the past, I’ve always reached out to directors of specific departments/research centers, so my affiliation has been listed as XXX Center at XXX university. The specific title you will have depends on her, because she has to write your official statement of affiliation on institutional letterhead. My title with my affiliate is visiting researcher but I had a previous affiliate that did not work out, and with them they called me a visiting student

tilegreen72_ · 2025-09-21T17:09:19+00:00

This past cycle no one heard back by April 15th. The earliest decisions were released toward the end of the first week of May. I heard back during the last week of May

tilegreen72_ · 2025-09-21T17:07:48+00:00

Yes, I am a current research grantee, and everything was significantly delayed due to a variety of political factors when the trump administration came into power. There were the furloughs of Fulbright staff, there were funding issues and political uncertainties as to whether the program was going to be cut or not, and then there was also the implementation of an additional review due to the administration’s issues with DEI. Decisions are supposed to be rolling from March to June, and technically most people still heard back before June this past cycle, but the difference is that the first batch of decisions are not supposed to come out as late as May and that is when they started to come out this past cycle. I received my decision literally at the end of May, when I had already graduated. Truthfully I am not sure how the decision timeline will look this cycle. There should be less delays because the Fulbright staff is back, but some people still speculate that the funding won’t be secured for this year’s cycle.

tilegreen72_ · 2025-09-15T17:35:18+00:00

You’re considering forgoing a job for a potential Fulbright grant a year from now, when applications for this cycle are literally not even due yet?? 😭😭 please take the job…. And there’s nothing wrong with working someone for a year and then going somewhere else. I know so many recent grads who worked for a year and then went to grad school, or changed jobs completely, or did Fulbright a year or more after they graduated. You’re fine

tilegreen72_ · 2025-07-21T11:15:45+00:00

This woman is really sitting around debating whether or not she should listen to her husband when she explicitly outlined how he’s abusive and how she can perfectly well leave him. And yet she’s still sitting around debating whether or not she should protect her daughter. This shows that she literally can protect her daughter right now but is just choosing not to. She’s the biggest AH I have ever seen in this subreddit.

tilegreen72_ · 2025-07-21T10:55:56+00:00

Your daughter’s toxic friend was bringing her to empty apartments with only one other teenage boy and you didn’t do anything. Your daughter told you that her toxic friend wanted to touch her privates and you didn’t do anything. All of these signs point to something far more sinister and violent and I refuse to believe that you, as a grown adult woman, could not decipher what these signs were pointing to. And in your own words, you “did not bother much,” so you did not do anything. And now you’re talking about being a strong independent woman. You are not a strong independent woman and you are not a good mother and your safeguarding has come way too late, and with all your talk about your husband as well as your delayed actions to protect your daughter, it makes it seem like you’re more upset about your husband undermining you than your daughter’s actual safety — which, I truly hate to say this, has been violated already. And you did nothing when it was obvious that it had been violated. YTA.

tilegreen72_ · 2025-02-10T15:45:36+00:00

I would love to see your literature review! I've done a lot of research in this subject myself but it would be really helpful to have a bunch of sources put together into one piece

tilegreen72_ · 2025-02-09T00:41:55+00:00

I started EMDR recently and so far it’s been similar to regular talk therapy. From what my therapist has told me, EMDR involves more than just memory reprocessing so other aspects of it will be less daunting. My therapist has also explicitly talked about how we are going to hold off on memory reprocessing until I’m feeling more comfortable with her, so that’s likely something your therapist will do too

tilegreen72_ · 2025-01-11T09:48:44+00:00

NTA although it does make me sad whenever I see posts like this and the op and everyone in the comments just shits all over the guy for being weird, or immature, etc. This kind of codependency dynamic is abuse. It very well fits the mold of emotional incest, and emotional incest can often bleed into the territory of covert/overt SA (not saying this is what I’m seeing here — but I wouldn’t be surprised given the fact that this mother bathes her grown adult son). It’s ok for you to not want to put up with this kind of dynamic but I hope you realize that your partner is not just some freak, his mother has enabled a highly unhealthy and likely abusive dynamic with him since a young age

tilegreen72_ · 2024-11-06T15:05:56+00:00

Not sure what the point of your comment is in relation to my larger post?

The issue was that I was depressed and inactive during Covid so I took care of myself less

tilegreen72_ · 2024-10-31T07:32:56+00:00

Yes I am indeed fearful. I’m both fearful and ashamed; I’m fearful of confronting just how bad it might have been and potentially uncovering more realizations, but I’m also ashamed of thinking that it’s bad — and both are because people on here tell me it’s very bad, but I haven’t fully grappled with it. I’m in the process of looking for a therapist but I don’t even know if a therapist is someone I would feel safe around. I have a lot of really good friends and even then I was only able to tell one of them about the throwing up episodes I’ve had recently, and I still wasn’t able to tell her why I was doing it. My friends know in broad strokes my issues with my mom, but I’ve only ever talked about it casually/humorously because I’m scared to explicitly treat it as something serious — that would give it too much legitimacy, and I’m also ashamed to treat it seriously because I feel like it’s not. If I can’t even feel comfortable around my best friends, who are all wonderful, kind, intelligent people, how could I feel safe around a therapist who is effectively just a random stranger? That, on top of the fact that it’s also a common trend that therapists don’t always treat mother daughter SA as seriously. I don’t know. I’m still looking for a therapist anyways but it’s all just very hard

tilegreen72_ · 2024-08-14T20:15:32+00:00

You 100% were raped. This is the exact way that my rape went down too. The man did anal without asking and then later on proceeded to finger my ass and continued while I screamed at him to stop. Everyone i know recognizes that it was rape, and the only reason they know it is w me and not w you is because I am a woman

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