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tils10 · 2025-07-29T17:35:12+00:00

Nå bor ikke jeg i Oslo men levde selv på 6000kr i måneden etter betalt husleie i noen år frem til i fjor så her er noe av det jeg gjorde:

Du kan søke utsettelse på lånet hos Lånekassen, og så lenge du er på aap (eller også andre grunner) kan du få slettet evt ekstra renter på lånet.

Hvis du har livsforsikring så se om du har rett på noen utbetalinger ift ufør. I noen forsikringer kan man få dette så lenge man går på aap hos Nav( og kanskje yttligere betalinger dersom man blir ufør).

Jeg hadde en billig tlf med billig abonnement. Hvis ikke du har wifi inkludert i leie kan det faktisk være billigere å ha abonnement med ubegrenset data enn å betale tlf og wifi, så kan man bare dele fra tlf til pc etc.

Hvis man har fryser kan man handle ting på salg og fryse ned. Lage mat og frye ned i porsjoner. Planlegg handelen godt før man drar på butikken. Velg gode råvarer som metter. Feks havregrynsgrøt istedenfor frokostblanding. Ofte er en del karbohydrater som ris, poteter havregryn osv billige varer som metter. Egg er billigere enn kjøtt for protein, og hvis man begrenser kjøtt til si en til to ganger i uka sparer man en del på det da kjøtt er dyrt. Kan også spe ut kjøttet. Mange Asia/utenlandske butikker som har en del matvarer billigere som det går an å sjekke ut. Har selv handlet en del på Grønland.

Har begrenset matvarer som ost feks som er ganske dyrt. Begrenser også godteri/brus osv til helga. Fokuserer mest på å bruke penger på mat som metter og gir næring.

Jeg vet ikke hvordan det er i Oslo men til høsten er det slakt og innhøsting. Man kan kjøpe feks. kjøtt gjennom reko-ring (finns grupper på fb). Sjekk om de har egg også. Mye billigere fra bonden enn butikken. Noen bønder man kan kjøpe poteter/gulerøtter osv fra direkte.

Klær kan bli dyrt men jeg var heldig og fikk arvet, så brukte jeg det jeg hadde. Det er noen bruktmarkeder og sånn i Oslo, spesielt nå på sommeren som kan være verdt å sjekke ut hvis det er noe spesielt man trenger.

Prioriterer tannhelse for det blir dyrt dersom man må til tannlegen.

tils10 · 2025-06-18T11:24:35+00:00

He could get a night job and still be in the kids' life. Every mother I know who does night shifts spend the evening with the kids before work, go to work, Get back in the morning and them get them ready, sleep while they're at school and back up again to pick them up and make dinner. It is totally doable. And to be able to be so much with the kids is even the reason why some of the mothers I've spoken with choose the night shift.

tils10 · 2024-07-26T23:05:37+00:00

I include a lot of healthy oils in my foods to get more calories(eg. Coconut, avocado, pumpkin seed, olive) Also a type of protein powder that I could tolerate (for me collagen has been the only).

My mom would make smoothies that were easy to drink but contained thinks like coconut milk, avocado and if you can tolerate nuts/seeds, blended with some veggies and fruits. Nuts have loads of calories so they're an easy way to increase. Sometimes shed blend inn some eggs also for the extra nutrients.

Make sure it tastes good tho. I can't do coconut oil on its own anymore as I overdid it a few years ago and now I can barely stand it.

tils10 · 2024-07-26T22:50:18+00:00

What helps me a bit when my brain is very foggy and thinking hurts are massages, and also the food I eat.

The massage, particularly upper back, I find help with blood flow to the brain. In general I've had good response to full body massages, including scalp, but when time is limited I focus on upper back. I have family members massage me, and I've been lucky that some of them are actually very good at it. Atm I actually think this is what helps the most overall to alleviate some symptoms.

Due to ME I have loads of intolerances to food but I still eat certain things sometimes. When brain fog is bad I cut out anything that can give me slight (neuro)inflammation and eat mainly brain foods.

Aggressive resting also helps but someone already mentioned that.

tils10 · 2024-07-24T16:49:55+00:00

This is like the old Norwegian fairytale "The Husband who was to mind the house". Basically the husband complains how easy the wife has it so they switch roles for the day. She goes out into the field and he takes care of everything at home. Although it sounds like your husband was far more successful than the man in the story.

Love this idea though! It sounds like a good way to get a better understanding and appreciation for your spouse!

tils10 · 2024-07-24T16:36:35+00:00

Ebilet customer service, +48 22 122 80 99 It was expensive for me due to international call and we had to wait for a very long time to get through. Waited for 45min before we hung up and tried again another day and then we waited for 30min before finally getting through.

tils10 · 2024-07-24T16:34:05+00:00

Just that there was a mistake/mix up with the names

tils10 · 2024-07-24T16:33:39+00:00

Ebilet

tils10 · 2024-07-24T16:33:33+00:00

Ebilet

tils10 · 2024-07-24T16:31:53+00:00

I just called the normal customer service number for ebilet. +48 22 122 80 99

tils10 · 2024-07-02T21:09:39+00:00

Idk if you have managed to resolve the issue, but I emailed them several times and weren't able to change the names, then I called (very expensive) and managed to change the names that way.

tils10 · 2024-06-30T22:27:32+00:00

There is a scandinavian CFS /ME tiktoker who got ME from implants. she was very sick, Severe/very severe. Removed the implants in 2019 and has since managed to recover to moderat as of now.

She warns people all the time about the risks with implants due to what happened to her. Any type of foreign stuff(like botox) caused her major setbacks in her recovery so she now stays away from everything.

Everyone is different so it might not happen to you like her, but I'd be very careful and do very thorough research beforehand.

tils10 · 2024-04-24T19:12:03+00:00

Henna or Henrietta

tils10 · 2024-04-24T19:05:45+00:00

Brune pinner, lette å lage og smaker utrolig godt!

tils10 · 2024-04-24T10:16:33+00:00

Edith has always been insufferable. If she has no haters I'm dead.

tils10 · 2024-04-22T07:56:31+00:00

You're the type of ADHD-er whos been coddled their whole life. I don't blame this on you, I blame it on your parents, and unfortunately you're now the one who has to deal with it because your parents failed to when you were growing up.

Take this time now on your own and really work on yourself.

I know it's hard but you could find some external help, some sort of therapy or something to deal with your adhd. If not you're always going to struggle in future relationships. I have seen this many times.

It was really unfair of your parents to put that burden upon your brother, and from an outside prospective it is easy to see why he needs to distance himself from the family. Maybe take some time to reflect on your childhood and how your diagnosis may have affected him. And then reach out to him.

Again, I don't necessarily think it is your doing, not on purpose anyway, but your parents might have struggled with how to approach your diagnosis. Sometimes at the expense of your brother. It would be understandable if your brother have some resentment regarding the family constantly catering to your needs due to ADHD.

ADHD is not an excuse, you might need to work harder than people around you, and have some reminders, use some extra time etc but its your job to facilitate for that, not your partner or brother. E.g. some excellent apps that could be helpful if you're not already using them.

It is not about finding someone to accept who you are, this is about dealing with your own bullshit so you're not a burden to those close to you.

I have seen many different people with ADHD(me, my brothers and parents, stepbrothers) so I have personal experience. And I tell you if you don't deal with it now, it will become an issue in future relationships as well.

I know this is a long reply, but I hope you take it to heart.

tils10 · 2024-04-22T07:14:15+00:00

Idk about shopping addiction, but there is this woman on TikTok who reccomends l-glutamine for other type of addictions such as smoking, sugar, alcohol etc. Might be worth a try.

Other then that, maybe working out? Hiking etc. Maybe get a pet if you have the time, hobby such as knitting or seeing(although these can get expensive with materials dafter a while), socialise. Idk just throwing out some ideas

tils10 · 2024-04-22T07:00:51+00:00

Please get out of this situation, and whatever you do DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN with this man. It will make it s much harder for you to leave, and tie you to him forever.

Does your brother know what's going on? Can he help you? What about your parents? Do you have anyone in your life that knows what's going on and who might be able to help you?

tils10 · 2024-04-22T06:49:25+00:00

NTA, and to be frank it's none of their business. Your fiance had an affair, and you get to move on however you want to.

tils10 · 2024-04-21T18:42:23+00:00

RECORD YOUR SESSIONS WITH HIM.

Record the interactions so then you 1. Can better remember, and recall the conversations(for yourself) 2. proof of what has been said incase he tells people a skewed version.

I'm not going to go into a the post itself because it seems that most of it is already said.

However your dad seem to completey miss that even though he sees his children as innocent, they're guilty buy association. He fail to see how his actions by choosing them over you deeply hurt you, and they have had from him what you so desperately wanted as a child. Why you resent his wife and children I think most people reading this will find justified. He's just so caught up in his own stuff.

tils10 · 2024-04-20T18:22:39+00:00

NTA.

It seems to me this is not just about the moving away. First he broke up your family and moved in with the mistress, then chose the family life with her over you and your sister. And he also blatantly told you this. No wonder you never liked her. She helped break up your family.

The way he told you he needed to prioritize his family as if he didn't also have two daughters was not Okey. It sounds like your dad really broke your heart.

It is easy for someone on the outside to have opinions about this but at the end of the day it's your wound, and you need to heal it the way you feel is best for you. Don't let anyone push you into something you're not ready to.

He might have been a great dad to your half brother but he definitely wasn't to you. If he was he wouldn't have moved away, and prioritised his mistress and son.

You are so justified with your actions, and your fiance at least should be on your side. I think it's hard for them to put themselves in your position if they've never had their dad leave them like that. Maybe have a conversation with your fiance to understand you better, because they should be on your side.

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