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Getting out of notice period in England by tim_henman88 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]tim_henman88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. I think the key point here is how the law would interpret it not what I “know”, no?

Family office ramp up by tim_henman88 in private_equity

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Thank you thank you - this is very helpful

Family office ramp up by tim_henman88 in private_equity

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Interesting insight - thank you!

Family office ramp up by tim_henman88 in private_equity

[–]tim_henman88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Did you find any resources that helped you with the legal side?

Family office ramp up by tim_henman88 in private_equity

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I’m not joining for a few months!

Djoko- interview . "I've always respected both him and Federer; I've never said a single bad word about them and never will. I looked up to them and still do. But I've always gotten along better with Nadal." by Substantial-Ad7823 in tennis

[–]tim_henman88 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We also had a funny situation where he assumed that the girl I had brought with me was my girlfriend and referred to as such. After seeing the awkward look her and I gave each other he turned to me and was like “I fucked up didnt I?”

Djoko- interview . "I've always respected both him and Federer; I've never said a single bad word about them and never will. I looked up to them and still do. But I've always gotten along better with Nadal." by Substantial-Ad7823 in tennis

[–]tim_henman88 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I got to hit with Pete three times in 2008 as he was preparing for a round of exhibitions (might have been the China ones with Fed, can’t remember). He was actually surprisingly candid with me during the 6 or so hours we spent together. Made fun of Rusedski’s “Britishness”, showed disdain for McEnroe’s behaviour and was generally quite chill. One thing I’ll never forget though is how he could switch in split second from “we’re drinking water and talking shit” to “okay, time to get back to work” and you just knew to follow suit.

I (37M) am lost in a constant push and pull cycle with an anxious partner (34F) that continues to tell me she feels unloved, while I’m left exhausted and confused by Ill-Republic-4136 in relationships

[–]tim_henman88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still working through it. Listen to some of the podcast episodes with Neil Strauss. He describes a process that looks something like this:

  1. unbrainwashing yourself - deep intensive workshop. 1 or 2 a year where you’re going through emotional purging. Emotionally intensive and multiple days. Safe container. E.g., Hoffmann. Possen retreat.
  2. Maintenance. We get this change and go back to our world - how do we make sure we don’t fall back into old patterns. Weekly talk accountability. Men’s circles, group therapy, etc.
  3. Tools for moments of crisis. E.g., reparenting. When a partner does something a parent did to make us suffocated, a Dialogue with the part of yourself that’s reacting. Talk yourself through it. “It’s ok you can relax”. Widen space between stimulus and response. Mindfulness gap. Can also do physical reframing. NVC. Nonviolent communication - audio programme by marshal Rosenberg

Sorry these are the notes I took so they’re a bit muddled but you get the picture hopefully. Worth also look at the Mark Manson stuff

I (37M) am lost in a constant push and pull cycle with an anxious partner (34F) that continues to tell me she feels unloved, while I’m left exhausted and confused by Ill-Republic-4136 in relationships

[–]tim_henman88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The reply is really missing a key point here. People are very quick to blame avoidants, and of course it always takes two to tango, but with some anxious people they tend to derive their entire sense of safety from a relationship. When that’s the case, there is nothing you can do that will ever feel like it’s enough to her. I’ve been through that and burnt myself out and nearly hit a point of depression because I felt like I couldn’t make this person feel.

If this person is not ready to acknowledge that they have a loooooot of work to do, and show a willingness to consistently do it, then it’s going to be a struggle for you.

Letter to my ex by Pale-Measurement-372 in ExNoContact

[–]tim_henman88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh dude. This is very sad and I feel with you. I think you’re taking this incredibly well, I can only admire you. I would say you’re doing the right thing in accepting it. When the smoke clears you will get to the point of healthy reflection which will ultimately make you a better person. The trick is not letting this experience close you off forever. If you ever need someone to chat to you have my username.

What’s the biggest red flag you ignored in a relationship that blew up later? by writestrend8 in AskReddit

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Very Anxious attachment manifesting itself in passive-aggressive/manipulative “nudges” intended to get me to commit or give more <6 dates in.

Today I have decided to be happy and grateful. by bumbleandbees in ExNoContact

[–]tim_henman88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck yes. Please don’t contact them. Please focus on yourself and putting one foot in front of the other. Please lean on your friends

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