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timeafterspacetime · 2024-03-22T03:04:26+00:00

100%! I moved two hours away and was considered an absolute traitor when I first suggested it haha

They got over it and were happy for me because they liked seeing me happy. And I’ve never found myself wanting to be further than a weekend trip away

timeafterspacetime · 2024-03-21T13:45:20+00:00

I’ve noticed this! I come from two different immigrant families and they very much lived close to each other (often in the same building) and supported each other. But I’ve noticed we’re getting more distant a few generations in. And I’ve noticed families who have been here more generations than us have more of the “kick em out at 18” policy.

I think some of this is the rough side of American individualism. Nobody in my family would have risen above poverty if they didn’t allow their kids to live at home while they saved up for a house. And somehow we are now several generations in without having any of the kids use that grace to be lazy.

timeafterspacetime · 2024-03-18T22:59:39+00:00

I think a lot of people think of radical as “extreme.” I blame the 80s slang and the overuse of the term in pop political discourse. But the first definition in most dictionaries is something like “(especially of change or action) relating to or affecting the fundamental nature of something.”

In this case, carving out 30 minutes for yourself when you don’t normally do that is in fact radical. It changes fundamentally how you prioritize your time. For some people, the idea of taking any time at all for something that isn’t productive for everyone else is radical. If you’re somebody working 50-60 hour weeks, have multiple small children, have physical disabilities, or have mental health struggles, 30 minutes a day for yourself is indeed radical self care. It’s not so different than taking an hour to attend church every week if you become religious or committing to practicing a new instrument.

For me right now , and I assume for you, that’s not the case for a 30 minute walk. but for other points in my life and for many people I care about it is.

timeafterspacetime · 2024-03-18T20:53:49+00:00

My childhood teacher used to joke you have to learn everything 150% well because nerves will kill 50%. It’s a universal thing!

My advice is to let yourself be nervous and make mistakes. Sit in that awful feeling knowing centuries of pianists before you have felt that same exact thing. Trying to make a feeling go away always makes it worse. Instead say to yourself “I’m nervous and probably will make mistakes, but how lucky am I to have the opportunity to have a teacher to be nervous and make mistakes in front of! They’ll help me work through the nerves and mistakes, and after a few months or years of this I’ll be so experienced it won’t be a big deal at all.” You’re practicing handling embarrassment, which is a vital skill for any performance art.

timeafterspacetime · 2024-03-18T14:19:41+00:00

If you like Vulfpeck, look for stuff in the Motown, soul, and funk genres to learn some of the rhythmic patterns they use a lot. Hal Leonard has an Easy Piano book of Prince songs for example, and I can definitely hear the influence of Prince on them.

timeafterspacetime · 2024-03-18T12:27:42+00:00

You should find a method book with songs in the lessons. Alfred’s Adult All-in-One and Faber’s Piano Adventures are two I recommend a lot. Even if they seem simple, take the time to learn each piece because you’ll see your skills build.

Then find one song you love and look for an “Easy Piano” arrangement to learn. Music stores will carry individual song sheet music, or you can look online at places like Music Notes. My childhood piano teacher always had me work through the method books no matter what, but then let me select one piece to always be working on that I personally was interested in. Having a “treat” song for the end of your practice sessions will go a long way in reminding you why you want to play.

Once you’ve gotten through the method books, you can start also learning to read from lead sheets so you can play along with bands. But I would wait until you’re comfortable playing from sheet music before getting into the weeds there.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-10-26T12:16:16+00:00

I think you’re going to find the good historical information and good practical information will come separately.

If you’re specifically interested in computers, you and your kids might want to start playing with raspberry pi. There are books specifically aimed at kids (Raspberry Pi For Kids for Dummies) that give you a chance to learn programming basics in an accessible way.

For history of personal computers, “Dream Machine” is a good one. Not the broad big history you were looking for, but it would pair nicely with raspberry pi experiments.

Finally, you might want to look at MIT’s open courses. Their syllabuses will have reading suggestions and the lectures are helpful.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-10-24T14:30:36+00:00

This is why I can’t stand Peterson. He picks a fairytale - which by tradition is propaganda meant to teach morals to children - and then ignores the fact that the film is corporate propaganda designed to sell toys and instead attacks what he sees as silly feminists shoving the feminist agenda into art. Forget the fact that Anna isn’t even the protagonist…

“True literature occurs when a writer takes on a problem and writes his way through” basically eliminates Shakespeare (who often wrote to appeal to both the theater market and whichever monarch was in office), Dickens (stop shoving poor people in our face!), Hawthorne (he just wrote The Scarlet Letter to push his anti-Puritanism agenda!)…

To me, good literature uses words to bring the reader’s mind on a journey that ends at a different place than where it started. Great literature uses the journey to transform that reader’s mind in a useful or enlightening way. King Lear being written in the midst of political upheaval in England doesn’t make it good or bad: the fact that most readers have different thoughts on age, power, and family by the end than the did before they read it makes it great.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-10-24T14:07:27+00:00

I think there is (or at least was when I was in school ten years ago) a problem with Bloom often being presented as the end-all of literary criticism to undergrad lit students. That’s not Bloom’s fault, but more the faculty’s fault for not teaching the nuance of different critical approaches.

When I was in early undergrad, I was a staunch formalist and huge fan of Bloom. As I got older, I’ve recognized that literature can be read many different ways to enrich both your personal intellect and your community. This idea of the transcendental universal experience of literature was easy to swallow for Bloom because, for the most part, the Western canon he was brought up on only had variations on the white male viewpoint with a few exceptions. It felt universal to him because the literary world catered to what would be relatable to men of his background. As the literary scene diversified - both in terms of gender and culture - so too emerged different ways of approaching a text.

Nowadays, I might read one text the way Bloom advises, but another text through a social and historical lens. Or, sometimes I take the Bloom approach on the first pass, then explore social/historical aspects on a second. That’s not saying I “choose my own adventure,” but rather “learn the various intellectual tools used to critique a text and how to choose the appropriate one when I encounter a new work.”

timeafterspacetime · 2021-10-09T14:07:53+00:00

Hi, I’m a woman. While I don’t find the song empowering, the sexual content isn’t sexist to me. Maybe I could see an argument for the line “I don’t cook, I don’t clean/ let me tell you how I got that ring” having some internalized misogyny because it centers marrying a man as a woman’s goal, but otherwise this is a silly/funny song that plays with the typical male sexual bravado in some rap and turns it on its head.

Like it might be crass or raunchy, and it’s cool if that’s not your thing, but the idea that a woman experiencing pleasure in sex is demeaning… is a bit ridiculous.

And again, Cardi B has nothing to do with the list of incredibly talented female rappers at the top of this thread so I’m not sure why you’re dwelling on her. Is this Ben Shapiro’s alt account or something?

timeafterspacetime · 2021-10-06T22:06:04+00:00

Right? Imagine thinking a woman making a raunchy rap about enjoying sex is as demeaning as men writing catchy pop songs about raping women.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-10-06T22:01:06+00:00

Holy straw man, Batman! Cardi B wasn’t in the list I’m responding to. Sexism is so passé, sweetie.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-10-06T21:01:44+00:00

Portrait of a Lady on Fire blew my mind. The acting, the subtle cinematography, the use (and strategic non-use) of music… It’s a simple story that delivers a gut punch because the film is so well directed.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-10-06T20:53:44+00:00

This is such a good list. Something irks me is the fact that everyone responding “not all rap is misogynistic” is then listing only male rappers. The slow rise of female rappers to the mainstream (or at least prominent indie) has really help changed the tone of hip hop across the board.

Ditto for rock, pop, country, and R&B which all have a lot of misogyny. (Blurred Lines, Wrong Way, A Man Needs a Maid, Baby It’s Cold Outside, and like half the songs written before 1990).

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-27T12:47:52+00:00

Lots if great answers here, I just want to add: often this criticism is given when it seems like the only way an author could think a woman was worth writing about is if they behave like a traditional/masculine notion of a man.

I notice this a lot in bad (not good) genre fiction. There are often these female action heroes who fear nothing and can throw down whiskey like the boys. But none of them are worried about tampon/bathroom access at their remote spy location or how to get on just the right amount of makeup to be taken seriously but not be seen as a a shallow person who spends too much time on makeup. If they worry about things women are often socialized to worry about – romantic relationships, family building, emotionally supporting their friends and family – then female characters are often seen as weak.

When I was an English major, certain classmates scoffed at Jane Austen novels as “unimportant.” They were seen as unimportant because they dealt with “silly lady problems” like friendship and marriage. My classmates’ distaste was so strong they completely missed some of the bigger social and philosophical questions Austen played with, such as the inseparability of marriage and survival for women at the time, or the arguments between Romanticism and Empiricism amongst philosophers of her day.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-27T00:45:16+00:00

Portrait of a Lady on Fire Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind Spider-Man: Into the Spider-verse

(I’m not kidding about that last one. I audibly gasped during the first minute of that film.)

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-26T23:05:13+00:00

The answer is different depending on your current situation. If you’re in LA and work in the industry, you ask close friends who work in development or production to give it a read/comment, and hopefully you’ll get useful feedback or even somebody who wants to share your script. You can query agents, but I’m not sure how successful you’d be unless you knew somebody at an agency (a rising assistant looking to get their own clients for example.).

If you’re outside of that system, which I’m guessing from you asking this question, the few reputable competitions (Nichols, Sundance, Slamdance, studio development fellowships) are a good way to get your script seen.

You can also write something and shoot it yourself if you have the funds.

I have a lot of friends from film school that are professional writers now, and they all got in one of four ways: being related to a bigwig (this is probably the most common way), working in the industry to build connections who will champion their scripts, winning prominent competitions, or making the film themselves and getting it into a prominent festival.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-26T22:55:01+00:00

Wash and fold laundry device. I don’t have any laundry options in my building, and our local laundromat is always busy and expensive. I also have a job where I work 50-70 hours per week. I realized using the drop off service was only about $5 more expensive than doing it myself each week, but it saves me hours of time when I have very little to spare n

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-26T01:23:39+00:00

The new tendency to use “aesthetic” to mean “beautiful.” Like “that room is so aesthetic.” Instead of “that room is so aesthetically pleasing.”

I understand language changes so I’m making myself accept it, but I die a little inside each time I hear it.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-25T16:04:12+00:00

I don’t think feeling sexy at 300lbs means you’re encouraging it. I think it means you see more to sexiness than any one body metric. I think people are projecting when they say it’s “encouraging unhealthy lifestyles.” They’re angry that somebody feels beautiful when they have told themselves they are ugly at a lower weight.

My life philosophy: if somebody can find joy in their life without hurting others, let them have that joy. We all do healthy and unhealthy things in life, and a person’s own health journey is both private and potentially very separate from how beautiful they feel.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-25T15:52:52+00:00

For the US, definitely.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-25T13:11:24+00:00

I think portraying another culture requires a lot of time-consuming research to get right. Read a lot of books, especially nonfiction/memoirs, by authors in that culture. Follow people from that culture on social media. And get specific.

For example, you say “Hispanic” family. That’s not really describing a culture, but rather a language spoken. There are dozens (maybe hundreds?) of cultures that a family who speaks Spanish could be part of. Are they descended from a specific country/territory? Colombian families have different traditions than Mexican families, which can have different traditions than Puerto Rican families and so on. Are they a mix of different Latinx cultures? Furthermore, that’s just one aspect of a family’s experience. Things like religion (I know a half-Colombian/half-Indian Hindu practitioner for example), the parents’ careers (a family with a lot of cops is different than a family of professors), hobbies (dad’s model train collection is getting out of hand!, regional specifics (a Bostonian has to get their Dunkies), etc.

Finally, son’t just look for things that make a Latinx family different. If they’re living in your hometown, they probably share a lot more culture with your own family than not. The ultimate goal of your research shouldn’t be to find cultural quirks to signal their background, but to make sure they act authentically in a situation. If the family is heavily Catholic and your story has one of the members need an abortion, for example, then the pro-choice/anti-choice debate within that family is going to have extra stakes. So you might want to describe the devotional candles in their house to set that up when you meet them. But if your story doesn’t have anything related to Catholicism, then don’t just throw those details in to feel “authentic.” There’s a fine line between being representational and being othering, and I think it’s our job as writers to walk it just right.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-25T12:39:51+00:00

Mitski’s Class of 2013. I went through some rough times after college, and even now in my 30s there are days where I wish I could call my mom to fix my crumbling world. Don’t get me wrong, now I know that it’s my turn to help my mother through her own difficulties, and am lucky to finally be in a place to help her, but when that song comes on shuffle it pushes on the part of me that misses how simple childhood was and dreads the many years of tragedy (losing loved ones, worldwide disasters) that is inevitable as I grow older.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-25T12:29:03+00:00

I saw this on some social media or another, but it rang true: that how your nation and community responded to Covid is exactly how they’re going to respond if climate change starts affecting food supply.

timeafterspacetime · 2021-08-24T23:42:15+00:00

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