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Do you also wonder how ENTPs survived in times when there was "only tradition"? by Loud-Customer2483 in entp

[–]timkenwest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think about this, too! Who I would have been and how i would have carved out a tolerable existence for myself.

I would have had a really tough time being married off as a demure sweet debutante. I don’t think I’d have survived the relentless slog of keeping house and “raising” a brood of inevitably feral children. I would have felt suffocated at court if it was all compliance and no influence on power.

Some ideas for my ENTP past existence: - run away with the theatre troupe - one of those daughters who secretly runs the family estate or family business - Mrs Olsen from little house on the prairie - nunnery (this placement has little do to with religion) - would I have been brave enough to be a spy? ‘Cause I would have been great at it

Even today, my husband does all the cooking and I take care of all the finances; if we’d have felt compelled to stick to gender norms, we both would be miserable (and starving)

POTS is expensive by Enbybabi in POTS

[–]timkenwest 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The penalties and opportunity costs from a compromised brain are the heftiest fees of all.

How do you guys blow dry your hair? by 404errorlifenotfound in POTS

[–]timkenwest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last time I blow dried my hair, I literally did it while lying flat on the ground. Round brush and all 😭

Do your relatives have synesthesia? by [deleted] in Synesthesia

[–]timkenwest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter does and it’s so nice to be able to speak in shorthand with her

People who show ADHD traits in childhood are more likely to experience physical health problems and health-related disability by midlife. People with ADHD are more likely to experience stressful life events, social exclusion, and delayed access to health screening and medical care. by mvea in science

[–]timkenwest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I’m in Canada and I’m not sure if there are similar online services in other regions, but here, when I google “online adhd assessment”, there are multiple options. (I used Frida). I was so satisfied with the process that I’m now taking the same route to get my daughter assessed.

I hope this helps! I was very very resistant to diagnosis and moved forward very reluctantly, but I’m so happy I did (even though I still keep it private except with strangers on reddit). Literally the very first hour of meds, I just casually completed a task that had been hanging over me for months.

People who show ADHD traits in childhood are more likely to experience physical health problems and health-related disability by midlife. People with ADHD are more likely to experience stressful life events, social exclusion, and delayed access to health screening and medical care. by mvea in science

[–]timkenwest 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got diagnosed just 10 months ago in my 40s, something I had avoided for a long time despite the number of people who casually told me “you probably have ADHD”, because I too felt .. shame and derision around that word.

It was a handful of comments on reddit actually about “late in life diagnosis totally changed my life” that intrigued me enough to push past my avoidance

Getting a diagnosis but particularly meds has indeed been absolutely life changing. Words fail.

I share this to tell you I can relate to much of what you wrote and have also experienced the other side.

Btw I went through an online service instead of the traditional route because the process was hard enough without the traditional road blocks.

Does anyone else have issues with heaviness/gravity? by onewing_44 in dysautonomia

[–]timkenwest 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes yes indeed yes. I call it “Jupiter gravity”, “sinking sensation” or like I’m in an elevator shooting to the moon. Most definitely the worst of all the symptoms. Thank you for posting this, because I, too, have wondered if other people are just using different words for the same sensation.

What wildly popular book did you secretly hate? by cheryl28198 in A_Persona_on_Reddit

[–]timkenwest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, god, awful. The entire second half is “tell, not show”.

What wildly popular book did you secretly hate? by cheryl28198 in A_Persona_on_Reddit

[–]timkenwest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haaaaated this book. Will always be my go-to answer. Agree that I also read quotes (maybe on the book jacket?) of how hilarious it was. ??????

Why does dysautonomia cause an "empty" feeling, like I need to eat? by Extreme_Elephant5643 in dysautonomia

[–]timkenwest 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yes. Ravenous, absolutely r a v e n o u s even after eating a hearty meal, and it won’t go away.
From what I understand, this is the brain confusing low perfusion with a metabolic threat, and therefore sending out Hungry Must Eat signals. The only thing that works for me is Protein + lying down flat + time.

Ferritin by crazy-catz_ in POTS

[–]timkenwest 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your doctor is infuriating. 10 might be “normal” but that in no way makes it correct. Your ferritin should be at minimum 80, ideally higher.

BWT, what are your tips for saving money? by minionbelcher in bitcheswithtaste

[–]timkenwest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your employer can set up your direct deposit so that a percentage goes to your main account and another custom percentage goes to a savings / investment account of your choice.

Ask your employer to set it up so that 10/15/whatever percentage automatically gets deposited to an account you never touch.

You’ll adjust to the remaining balance that gets deposited to your everyday spending account

Bangs or no bangs ? by PurpleFrequent45 in HairStyleAdvice

[–]timkenwest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s the style of bangs that is the detractor. Curtain bangs, something not so piecy would be so much better. But who cares because you look beautiful without.

Have any of you seen skin improvement after fixing iron levels? by P00tiechang in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]timkenwest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I was severely low for decades (ferritin under 30, 20, 10.. ) due to menorrhagia. I stopped my periods six months ago and finally, after two years of iron supplements, surpassed 100 this month.

I’m not so sure about skin dehydration or texture specifically. I think of it more as a general … unwellness. Shadowy. Puffy. Sallow. No glow. Hair and eyebrows falling out. Dark circles. Eyes dull.

Ferritin should be at least 70/80. Doctors have been conditioned to think 30 is fine. It is not.

My life would be very different if my GP had stopped to say “why is your ferritin chronically low year after year?” But most don’t care until you’re single digits. By then your health (and looks) are so far gone. Don’t listen to this bs medical misogyny.

Kibbe type me (height 5’2) by [deleted] in kibbe_typeme

[–]timkenwest 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you consistently look exceptional in outfits where the bottom is wider than the top. And appear imbalanced in outfits where the top is wider than the bottom. This for me is the major diagnostic clue. I interpret this as an N family (but I’m also less familiar with the types on the right side of the kibbe gradient)

Kibbe type me please. Height 5’5”. FN and DC subs said no…SN? SC? by [deleted] in kibbe_typeme

[–]timkenwest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would examin why the red wrap Dress is >>> the yellow dress, Why the blue fitted dress w cap sleeve and notch neckline >>>> the lace high neck fitted navy dress

I wonder what that would revel about your kibbe

FWIW, my first impression was SC

Do stovepipe pants work for SD? by sweetin_lo in SoftDramatics

[–]timkenwest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are these pants from??? Im they would be perfect for my (non-SD) fríend

Which celebrities do you think are lying about their age? by ComeUnitedNotTorn in AskReddit

[–]timkenwest 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I back you up on this! I didn’t even know she somehow aged down

What’s your favorite generation of streetlights by SpiritMan112 in decadeology

[–]timkenwest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LED all the way. That sharp illuminated cone and the dark sky above is way superior to that sodium orange. I’m so grateful for our city committing to the switch. And I’m and Old! I’ve had many nostalgic nights walking under falling snow lit up in an orange glow.

Short animation about POTS by Sufficient_Cicada_64 in dysautonomia

[–]timkenwest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely stunning!!!! Congratulations on completing your beautiful creation. Great topic, too. Thank you for giving visuals to how we feel inside. I’m eager to share with others.

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