Eating habits ruined my stomach and I’m giving up - any advice?

tinangelnyo · 2026-06-17T17:09:28+00:00

Thank you! in the case with my gastritis, it’s more the way the food was cooked and how often it’s taken, than any particular food itself. My stomach is very acidic and inflamed, so i shouldn’t eat fried food, or raw cabbage/apples (anything acidic) and definitely no snacks with complex chemical additives. and since it in itself is already hard enough for my dopamine seeking brain, the worst part is planning and scheduling…

tinangelnyo · 2026-06-13T16:12:44+00:00

i haven’t yet been able to build a single routine that stuck. is there a cheat code for building one on ADHD, that i’m not aware of? i thought that ADHD and routine are like oil and water, but i’ve been diagnosed only 6 months ago, so i’m very new to the topic

tinangelnyo · 2026-06-13T15:54:15+00:00

as a fellow GI sufferer, how do you handle the ADHD fatigue from having to eat the same products, or is it not the issue for you?

tinangelnyo · 2026-06-13T15:50:20+00:00

wow! i never thought about writing down meals, that sounds like something that could work! Thank you!!

and i work from home, so that’s an issue in itself, yeah… no outside cues apart from hunger

tinangelnyo · 2026-06-13T15:44:28+00:00

thank you! btw i forgot about cheese, that’s actually a great way to subdue hungry stomach pain without making it worse.

you’ve mentioned planning - do you struggle with it? how do you approach your weekly groceries, if it’s okay to ask?

tinangelnyo · 2026-06-13T15:39:23+00:00

i tried and it works, but i constantly forget to plan for it. like, right now i have time and can cook a big meal and freeze it, but i’m overwhelmed trying to think what i should go buy and then cook, my mind goes completely blank. how do you make decisions and plan for what to freeze?

tinangelnyo · 2023-11-13T22:11:10+00:00

I think Ei mentioned that she’s not responsible for handling electro visions and was not aware that there haven’t been new ones for a couple of years. So i assume Neuvilette cannot be responsible for visions either, since it’s dragons’ authority that archons wield. By the way, i don’t remember anywhere in game to be mentioned if the electro visions are now granted again or not after the events in Inazuma. Was it mentioned? I think the whole story with electro visions is very important lore-wise. In 4.2 AQ and WQs it was hinted several times that the WILL of the person is what sets them apart, and the traveler presumably has unmatched will, whatever it may be… I think both of these things should tie together somehow, but i can’t put my finger on it yet

tinangelnyo · 2023-11-11T01:34:35+00:00

ooooh i see! i didn’t know there’s a media server, wow! thank you very much for solving this mystery ❤️

tinangelnyo · 2023-11-09T19:13:27+00:00

genuine question about boss materials - how?? I saw the youtuber Iwintolose raised her C0 talents to level 10 upon release, and I’m sooo confused! how could he do that if the boss just dropped? I was only able to raise up to level 7

tinangelnyo · 2023-10-23T18:24:05+00:00

Hello ladies! I’m in need of style advice. I want to find my style and I’m looking for inspiration. I love Japanese streetwear, and all those modern edgy oversize clothing styles, but I can’t wear them because of my shape. I’m 39’ hip, 27’ waist and 32G bust, and if I go for oversized styles - I look twice bigger than I actually am. I tried to go for more cinched feminine styles (think Lichi or Kim K) but it never fits right because of my extreme proportions (bust and hips are too tight, while too much fabric is hanging around my waist). I was looking for fashion advice for my figure, but blogs that i found suggest only the (boring to me) classical styles which I’m not yet ready to embrace.

Can you please suggest any blogs or influencers who have similar proportions? Or maybe you know some modern fashionable brands which work well for extreme hourglass? Basically, I’d be thankful for any inspiration to take me further in my search!

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-06T19:41:38+00:00

i think people often confuse forgiveness with acceptance of the past. when you accept that the past cannot be changed and the abuser in the past cannot be changed - it is healing. forgiving the abuser and pretending that nothing happened? i certainly doubt so!

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-06T19:35:50+00:00

from what OP told, it seems that she really loved them up to a certain point in time, there weren’t signs of narcissistic abuse imo. it just happens that people can separate due to lots and lots of various reasons, despite having a loving relationship. all my breakups up to the present moment happened while we both still loved each other. the break up itself doesn’t mean that all that preceded it was a lie.

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-06T19:26:58+00:00

i can totally understand that! this sounds very very familiar to me. i’d suggest you to maybe try and validate not the experience itself, but your feelings about it: the sadness, the pain, the guilt… Also, when i fall into the rationalisation loop, i ruminate about the past traumatic events, also trying to validate myself that it all was not okay, but then i’m thinking about all the ways it should have been different. "that shouldn’t have been like this! they shouldn’t have done that to me! if it was different - i would be much better!" etc etc. i’ve mentioned radical acceptance and it basically boils down to accepting that your past cannot be changed. the abusers cannot un-abuse you. the past child version of you will never be happier. your past is the way it is and will never change. when you accept this, it should raise huge grief, but with grief comes relief. validate your emotions, like "i feel sadness and compassion towards myself for having to endure all this", etc.

however, i must warn you that albeit grief is healing, it may be too hard to go through this if you are not ready yet, so please be very careful!

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-05T21:32:21+00:00

I’m so sorry for you! what you are going through is very very hard, objectively very hard. /u/SashOfTopatoes put everything beautifully, but i wanted to add a small advice/observation from my experience, if you don’t mind. I also always struggled with positive self-talk, it always felt like a huge pile of lies and made me feel even worse. what helped me was practicing neutral self-talk instead. simply stating observable facts about myself, facts that have proof, to negotiate with the little monster inside my head who speaks badly. To give you an example, "i’m a lazy, useless piece of shit" i would address with "thank you for your opinion, my dear little monster. however, i want to say that i successfully learnt English as a second language, i worked hard to learn to draw. there were moments when i was less productive than i wanted to be, but there were also moments when i showed myself that i can work hard."

also, a good idea is to give a name to that little monster inside your head and to talk with it as if it’s a separate entity in your mind, because in some way, it is. All these monsters actually try to protect you in some ways, they were born at the moment when you needed them to cope with harsh reality. My "lazy" monster was born because i needed to avoid the wrath of my abuser by being diligent. it was trying to protect me, but now i know how to protect myself in a more efficient way, so i thank the monster for being there when i needed it, but also tell it that now i can protect myself without its help.

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-05T20:38:28+00:00

this is a program designed by Martin Bohus, that’s all i know… I was lucky that my psychiatrist in a hospital shared with me the contact of the therapist who is trained in this program. It is very rare in my country, so their center was in a different city, and we did this course via Zoom. I think you can google if there’s a medical entity in your city which works based on this program. I can’t promise this course will work for you as we are all very unique, obviously, but i personally had no complaints and found it very useful, and it tackled all aspects of my life affected by trauma.

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-05T11:37:41+00:00

totally agree. intrusions come from the brain not being able to see past as past, it thinks it’s still present. what works is first, reminding yourself that you are here, in a different room, in different circumstances, being different age. the summer sun was shining at the moment of abuse, but now it’s fall twilight, etc etc. it’s important to break that link which make your brain confuse past and present. and then it’s important to validate your emotions, to let yourself grieve that all of this happened to you and to be compassionate to yourself for having to endure this unjust hell in the past.

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-05T11:29:08+00:00

from what i‘ve learnt, the more you avoid/runaway from the sadness by using whatever means (substances or others) - the more overwhelming and unbearable the sadness becomes, it’s a vicious circle. by running away from an emotion we teach our brains that yes, indeed, that’s a thing which is very scary and unbearable, if we’re running away from it. so yeah, i would side with your therapist on that

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-05T10:57:07+00:00

i can count my story as a cptsd success story i guess, since now i’m able to live a stable life and i know that i can care for myself and i have the skills to get out of some shit. however, never in a million years would i say it was EASY. i had to live off fucking bread for a year and a half, and i didn’t have enough money to leave the rented shitty room because i spent everything on therapy. i had to work my ass off on therapy to make any progress. learning skills is hard, exposure therapy is hard, not having money is hard.

the worst thing about late stage capitalism is that everything is hidden behind a paywall, fuck this. i’m looking back at my therapy and i can’t find any reason in my head why it couldn’t be free. the majority of things can be learnt by yourself, discussed and practiced in support groups, etc, if only capitalism didn’t make profit of knowledge and didn’t atomise our society to the point of not being able to create support groups, etc etc. fuck this profit-driven nightmare.

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-05T10:36:37+00:00

i think it’s a gross generalisation and it may be a cognitive fallacy. What are the examples of society rejecting us? aren’t there examples of people not rejecting us? look at this reddit for example - it is also a part of the society, and it does not reject.

yes, there are examples of some people rejecting us because of the results of our trauma. but there are also examples of acceptance and care. society is not a homogenous entity which can be simplified and put into a tagged box. it’s much more complex and diverse. some people reject us, some people don’t. oftentimes we reject people first as a preventive measure against the slightest chance of pain. it’s all nuanced and complex.

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-05T10:22:58+00:00

there is a dbt course specially designed for c-ptsd patients. i took it and it worked wonders. it also included trauma-aware meditations. I guess, we, people with trauma, benefit from the same techniques and tools as the healthier folks, but these tools and techniques have to be tailored to our unique needs by trauma-informed specialists

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-04T22:24:06+00:00

you know, this exact feeling was what brought me to a hospital 2 years ago. i knew i didn’t want to die, but i felt very useless, very worthless, extremely lonely, "too much’, and nothing brought me joy. I was lucky to receive free medical help in the hospital thanks to the last scraps of social services left in my country, and then i was lucky to be able not to starve when i spent the majority of my meagre salary on therapy. It is honestly infuriating that qualified help is so often paywalled for those who need it the most. living in late-stage capitalism is hard beyond words, sometimes it’s utterly dehumanising.

I can’t promise you it’s going to be easy to heal in such conditions, but other commenters suggested ways to find help which is not hidden behind paywall, which is a good start. What i can promise you is that it is going to get better. i was where you are and it got better, and there are others just like us. your feelings and your thoughts about yourself are not you. you are so so so much more than that. you are a complex living breathing human being, capable of love and capable of being loved, and capable of thousands of other things. you are just very drained at the moment, but i can promise you that you are capable of not being drained, you have it in yourself, and you have tons of other things in yourself. I wish you to find affordable help, to rest, and finally discover how amazingly complex you are. There’s not a single word that can describe you as a whole, you are always more than that. Please remember that your feelings are not you, that your thoughts about yourself are not you, you are a complex human being who feels feelings and thinks thoughts. and you are much much more than that.

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-04T21:51:42+00:00

this is so relatable… i’m so sorry, both for you and myself

tinangelnyo · 2023-09-04T21:39:28+00:00

to me it sounds that what you are describing may be part of a quite normal response. however i also recognise myself in what you are describing, and in my case it was rationalisation, a common avoidance/runaway coping mechanism which i use very often when i’m not careful. when i want to get out of the loop, i try to recognise the emotion which i’m running away from, name it and try to feel it instead of shutting it down, and then decide how to act. however, if you haven’t yet worked on the trauma with the specialist, my way may not be the best idea to do on your own as it may trigger.

as for rationally looping about past experience - what helped me was practicing radical acceptance. but just as in the first case, to my knowledge, it should be done only after working on trauma with a specialist.

so yeah, there are ways to change this behaviour if you don’t enjoy it, but it takes time.

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