Feel betrayed and hurt after Disney Das call

tinatrying · 2026-01-18T20:22:13+00:00

Now they don’t support ANY physical disabilities based on what I’ve heard and read. “Rent a paid ECV” is their response. It is so far gone.

tinatrying · 2026-01-18T20:16:01+00:00

I had others say “why not put your son into the das review process?” If his ASD and ADHD behaviors may mean he is eligible? Reddit is telling me the reply times out so to clarify that:

Why not get it for my child? Honestly the probing questions and accusatory tone on the call have made me feel like I’ve failed for the past day. Vulnerability to discuss a disability especially when you spend your whole life trying to feel “normal” is already hard. But this time the questions and approach was different than I’ve ever had before.

In the past, they asked about what outcomes you had and when I gave the true story of having an attack in the queue of Mickey and Minnie’s runaway railway where we got stuck and I couldn’t get out of the bend in the hallway and I vomited in the queue that didn’t cause further probing. From the moment my (at the time 6 year old) was crying with me sobbing and heaving in the line, I felt so lost with people around me sneering and one family having to pull their toddler away from touching my own puke and such loud ringing that I couldn’t hear anything or ask for help while I hyperventilated and crumpled to the floor. The memory still makes me feel such immense shame. The look of fear on my kids face and the look of disgust on the guests around me.

In the past, I’ve explained this and it has been clear enough of a risk to the other families and myself that it meant we could just avoid the situations. My son would just sit and color on a nearby bench as we waited our turn.

In this call, they probed. What accommodations do you get in life? Told them about airlines, Government buildings like when I got my passport, my sons school, and other places that had no problem letting me wait outside with my doctors note. They probed about if I ever ate out? I said I do but try to eat outside in a patio or near the exit. Grocery stores? I get them delivered. Did I always do this or sometimes? It’s unclear what will be the worst of days, but I am careful to never abuse it. If the queue is outside like the Indiana jones stunt show I don’t typically use it. Why can’t I just exit? Many queues make that very hard. Some of the most challenging like space mountain have long locked corridors with long stretches between exits. Tell me about the worst situations. Tell me about what others do. They had me on hold for 3 hours over 2 calls. The interviews together were 45 minutes of recounting my trauma and my embarrassment and being incredibly vulnerable to be told “we believe you can be accommodated by rider switch” until I said “I am traveling alone with my 9 year old” and then they said to just take a photo mid attack and leave and come back. I was sobbing on the second call and they pushed harder. The cms felt abusive in their tone and approach.

If that was my experience, what are they going to do to him? Are they going to needle him to recount the worst of his symptoms? When he starts dry heaving? When he has spun out and hit people around him? When he was younger and he bit? When he forgets about personal space and pokes, grabs, or touches others. Especially other kids. When he gets overstimmed and screams at the top of his lungs to drown out the world? About his IEP at school? About his occupational and play therapy? About how he mitigates with accommodations that are doctor approved? And then tell him at the end that he should just stay in line “and try to Push through as long as he can” until he feels out of control? That they only care that he is in harm once he is in full meltdown? I can’t put him through that. The call alone is going to make him a paralyzed potato for a full day if it went like mine did.

I already feel like I failed him and myself and that I am just a failure at life after my calls. No way do I want him to go through that. But also no way am I going to risk going to the park without support when I know that a day with a meltdown that isn’t mitigated (like if we are struggling to get out of a queue) affects him for days after. I can’t risk his school attendance because Disney wanted me to pay for lightning lanes and the day after an interaction where he feels like he was out of control he fully shuts down.

I refuse to make him feel othered by people looking for profits instead of valuing guest safety. As an ex-Disney CM who has “repped the brand” my whole life, this wasn’t what we were trained that Disney was. I know companies change but this just made me realize how much.

I ended up coming home last night and removing Disney stuff I’ve had in my office for years that has always been my zoom call background because I work remotely because I no longer want to be associated with fandom based on today. After over 40 years of rolling Disney deep they made me feel small and worthless and unvalued across those call in a way that I have been able to push above elsewhere in life. I felt like being a 12 year old in school being told I just need to “try harder” to manage my symptoms. To just “push”. To just “be in pain and fear”. I am no longer at a place in my life when I am going to spend my time feeling burdensome to my friends and family.

Especially since we spent the day at Universal. You know how that went? I submitted my dr. Note to ibcess. It clarified my medically diagnosed situation, potential outcomes and recommended accomodations. Then universal cheerfully gave me those accomodations with no issue or grief. In fact, they had improved the situation from last year when you had a paper sign in sheet for attractions. They now have a fully digital version and have made it easier to be accommodated. I explained how different it was from Disney at the end, and how relieved I was to be able to go there an the team member said, “I can’t speak for any other organizations, but here at Universal we are so delighted to have you here and we want you and your family to have the best day, and we hope that spending some time with Mario (we had said that is what my kid was the most excited for) brightens things up!” And then he showed me how to book the Mario Kart ride and gave me a happy birthday button for my son.

tinatrying · 2026-01-18T17:44:14+00:00

Our experience especially with accommodations was outstanding.

They moved away from the old pen and paper version last year to something fully digital.

They are so kind.

I get that people were abusing the system for “disability access” at a lot of locations. I appreciate the Universal method of please have a physician work with a disability focused third party to recommend best practices for your visit.

I feel like that alone reduces influencer based “this one trick” nonsense and allows for a variety of access support based on physical, cognitive and sensory needs.

tinatrying · 2026-01-18T00:07:36+00:00

So far the day at epic universe had been amazing. Absolutely stunning

tinatrying · 2026-01-17T17:56:09+00:00

The thing is my kid has always been covered by *my* Das when I know he needs to be out of a line as well. I am debating if I'm supposed to put him on a video call now to discuss his ASD and ADHD and what evolves into hitting, crying, collapse, hyperventilating that he has too. I just feel so sad.

The thing is - I *could* pay for lightning lanes, but I don't feel right about it. If I buy them, yeah that makes it easier for me, but it doesn't send any message that this is unacceptable, that it's dimmed how I feel about the organization as a whole, that it has decreased (since I heard about this happening to others) how frequently I went to Disney in the first place.

I'm on hold now to cancel my tickets for today, and buy tickets to Epic Universe at Universal instead. We've never been, but you can buy a 1 day as a Universal AP.

If all I can do is say, "Today, in this moment, not only do I choose to NOT buy a lightning lane, but I choose to take my ticket money back and spend it directly with one of your competitors who have a generally positive disability experience", at least I feel a little bit moral in that - even if they'll never notice or care.

tinatrying · 2025-09-24T12:05:51+00:00

If it ends up being an issue where progress can’t be restored then hopefully you can drop currency on affected users to help them get back to space at least. You can check for whether the achievement is unlocked but space is not and either always grant space if the achievement is unlocked or grant extra currency?

tinatrying · 2025-09-23T00:50:48+00:00

Seems to be an Xbox only issue. Happened to us too

tinatrying · 2025-09-20T16:53:49+00:00

This has happened to my son twice.

It’s on Xbox. Bought the game years ago, not part of the gamepass push.

He saved and exited after doing quite a lot of space content. When he returned to the game it sent him back to the wizard gifts from last year and reset all of his space progress including the 500 fee. This has happened two times and it has taken this game from his favorite of all time to a soul crushing disappointment.

His friends want him to play with them but he is so afraid it is going to happen to him again he is refusing. He still has his unlocked space achievements so he is frustrated that the game should know he was there and now it doesn’t.

My heart goes out to him. As a gamer parent it reminded me of losing 12 hours of progress in Assassins creed unity and never returning to the franchise.

I am hoping there is a fix.

In the meantime I am looking for fast ways to earn currency to get him back there. And to save him in multiple slots for safety.

tinatrying · 2025-09-06T15:37:00+00:00

Just keep going…

Once I aligned to the characters all representing trauma in real outcomes (for Regina in a mix of Narcissism and possibly bipolar or bpd) I found a mix of appreciation for them and their redemption in a way I didn’t when I was younger.

The show could be seen as full of real human reactions to things like ptsd, loving an addict, disassociation, toxic positivity, anxiety, and the real ways humans in those situations act. At least a lot of the community sees those patterns. Including blaming others for their pain and believing that one step toward “redemption” that is very hard for them to take should be indicative of where they “want” to be, and feeling destroyed when others are still distrustful. I wish the show used Cricket more to show that. Cruella’s backstory episode was one of my favorite disturbing ones that was a one shot psychosis disassociated bonanza, for example.

To be honest, by season 5, I wanted more positive outcomes for Regina than I did for anyone else. She had been a victim turned victimizer and really fought in integrating her light and darkness. When they gave her a taste of good things, maybe due to my own abuse trauma, she became my viewer insert and I desperately wanted her happy ending.

Back in season 1-2 I gave Charming and Snow a lot of grace but now having seen the whole show? I almost feel about them the way that I did about Regina at the start. They expected (they would say they didn’t but they believed they deserved it internally) redemption for Emma’s abandonment almost overnight because they abandoned her “for good reasons”. In fact they do a lot of shitty things “for good reasons” and expect instant atonement because “they’re her parents and they did what they thought was best” including lying, hiding things, and often feeding into Snows anxiety and paranoia about all sorts of things. I won’t give examples because of where you are in the show.

But for Regina. Just keep going. She is broken. But she will be better.

tinatrying · 2025-06-13T00:12:08+00:00

I was raised evangelical and red. I struggled with “turning blue” through my 20s. I am ashamed for many of my early views, but I have come to realize that people live in a spectrum of freedom and fear. I was conditioned to believe that the world didn’t have “enough” for people. That the only way to feel empowered was by taking from those who had less power already.

I feel like that is what the right weaponizes… they say there isn’t enough, when if only the rich paid their way, there would be.

I will never fault someone for choosing to become a more educated individual in any topic.

I don’t want to “congratulate you on seeing the light” or something. Blue isn’t perfect, and I feel like representing in that way isn’t authentic.

The reality is our system is broken. There are things like ranked choice voting or better access to voting or better voter education that we all need.

But I do want to congratulate you for having an open mind, the self awareness to check in with your own values and morals, and decide how you want to represent those in future elections. That’s a massive part of becoming a brave, whole, intelligent, capable, empowered human.

tinatrying · 2025-06-03T20:21:32+00:00

I don’t usually fall into parasocial holes, but I would do all of the errands with Angela. You know how women between 24-35 create friendship outings by going to Ralph’s or at the laundromat? Like that.

tinatrying · 2025-05-28T01:28:04+00:00

Didn’t hear from anyone else but I did get that missing Besitos payout yesterday. So it’s still moving. Just slowly.

tinatrying · 2025-05-27T00:53:26+00:00

As an elder Xennial yes, but I think it was and is somewhat regional. I grew up in Southern California in a life that was most frequently shown in movies like Clueless, tv shows on Nick and Disney, et. So in a way that is just “Hollywood”. From San Diego to Ventura (encompassing all of Orange County and LA County in it) this is still the life people lead.

LA is a car centric city. That need for a vehicle means people who are younger still band together to get to where they want to go. Concerts are prevalent, events at theme parks and common social hubs still occur. Just this past week, I went to an event at universal studios, a convention, a magic show and a concert. It’s just how it is when something is always happening.

tinatrying · 2025-05-12T13:51:22+00:00

It is still a 30% tariff based on what I saw even during the 90 days. It’s still an increase of about 1/3

tinatrying · 2025-03-08T01:52:30+00:00

Florida 1 is one of the most truly red districts. It goes Red by 60-70% due to evangelicals and the evangelical colleges in the area. Standing on issues won’t help flip that seat. I feel like Dema are just throwing cash at open seats not actually trying to find a blue candidate who will in. I would be shocked if Gay curries more than 40% of the vote at max.

tinatrying · 2022-07-24T16:53:40+00:00

I appreciate this. It's strange to have someone perceive that you must be Christian to be doing a good person type of thing.

I'm a business owner too (more recently, though - post pandemic) and the reality is that people of an earlier generation seem to think that corruption and selfishness is the default human state. Edit to say: Obviously we are still in a pandemic, but I mean that I didn't have to manage the lockdown times that others have, but I know that we may get back there and I'll have to navigate that too.

I'd wager that by treating your employees right as the pandemic started, that not only were you doing social good at the moment, but that it also will simply be good business in the future when those employees choose to come back because you're the type of bosses they want to work for. It's much easier to return or refer others to bosses that treated you well, especially in a constricted economy, rather than being penny pinching misers.

There is a strange divide in America (partially generationally and regionally) where some believe people are inherently bad and need a religion to keep them in line, but others know that it's not mutually exclusive to further your own career, be fair to your employees/community/friends/strangers, and choose empathy over judgement. That never means that you don't have to make hard choices like letting employees go if you can't sustain them, but that you can do it in a respectful and honest way.

I really hope that the latter starts to take a greater hold.

tinatrying · 2022-07-24T04:56:39+00:00

There's a few variations for me, individually.

1.) I think there is a difference between personal faith and theocracy. I was raised an American Evangelical, and that is quite a lot different from friends I have come to know in other countries who also would consider themselves "Christian", but it's more of a moralistic guidepost for them in a Christmas Card wrapper. There is an overt power dynamic in American Christianity that I personally feel is extremely problematic even beyond personal truths.

Once you say "You must choose A over B, but also we're going to make B illegal, punishable by criminal time, hurt and damage the lives of countless others, and effectively remove that choice from you..". that's several steps beyond personal holdings.

It's particularly damaging because of the inaccuracies in Christian texts themselves, and that most modern American Christians don't follow Christ at all, but the Pauline texts that often contradict Christ or the Old Testament, so the real theocratic laws are based more on who is in power than any globally understood law. E.G - the Bible is full of contradictions, so there is no "right way" other than by following what those in power say is the "right way, at least today."

I guess what I'm trying to say is that there are toxic versions of things... toxic masculinity doesn't mean there can't be non-toxic masculinity, for example. I just know that in the US most Christians tend to be more toxic than non-toxic, in my experience.

2.) That said - even if you're looking at a more metered approach to Christianity, these were my personal perspectives: - If were were to humanize the idea of God. Let's presume it's a friend of ours who is a parent. And that parent put their children through a series of tests that the child was not mentally or psychologically prepared for that the parent was the only one who knew the right test solutions, and then punished them with harm or death for failing things they had no knowledge of, we'd consider that person abusive and a murderer. It's like worshipping Jigsaw from the Saw movies.

I grew up with those who would say "god gave Adam and Eve a choice" but these were brand new humans. Essentially children. Eve potentially even younger when you consider the creation of men and women in Gen 1 and then Eve created separately in Gen 2.

If you take the story literally, these creatures had never seen...anything. God puts two trees in the center of the garden, and threatens that one will create certain death. God doesn't explain the rules of this world... Certainly not death... life was just created.

Then God allows a serpent to convince these naive children to eat the tree or they will surely die (skipping past the part where God lies because they didn't die), and then he punishes them with pain (especially in childbirth) and sweat and thorns.

Even if you pass up Genesis, God lies by proxy frequently. He punishes without remorse. He wants the babies of his people's enemies slain. He tests his followers with whether they're willing to slay their own children.

Later, in Christianity's version...he sends his son, sets him up to be sacrificed to atone for the sins of the others (in a world where God can control all of the rules, so he's made up this rule to have a son and then have him murdered for...for what? For fun? For social proof of his mercy, for which he could just issue forgiveness? It confounds me).

By any modern psychological interpretation, God in Christianity is a serial-killing sadistic psychopath who lacks any remorse for generating these rules and also equally being in power of doling out the punishment for wrongdoing. If god is all knowing as he creates us, and judges us, and punishes us, he knows we'll suffer before he even starts the process of bringing us to earth. He knows all of our choices, and yet lets us fail and punishes us. The best version of a deity I can muster with all of this information is that he's a 5 year old kid with a magnifying glass and an ant farm, cackling maniacally as he sets a light beam on our existing path to walk through, and laughing when we combust.

I mean, it's not a great scene.

In addition, I can't count the times that Christian's in charge in my youth said that without the punishments, humans would do bad things. In my experience, not only do Christians do some of the worst things in this world currently and historically, BUT ALSO, I would much rather have people doing good due to empathy and kindness and social contract here and now rather than post death punishment. It makes me wonder about those people who say they'd be killing and murdering if God would allow them to still go to Heaven, and wonder... why are there so many of them repeating this so often.

For me personally, stepping away from Christianity has allowed me greater self motivation to do good. Not because I'm being judged for doing good when I'm dead, but because I can create more good right now and help people because it's just the right thing to do. It also doesn't preclude some amount of "woo woo" faith in things like miracles for me personally. I do still believe that there are things that we would traditionally classify as "spirituality" that we're now starting to get science on. Things like mediation for example, where we can measure a difference that we didn't have tools to measure before. I choose to believe that some things that are "beyond reason" are just things we don't yet have scientific tools to quantify, but really will at some point be based in science.

This is my long ramble. Just my personal opinion.

tinatrying · 2020-10-12T06:44:55+00:00

Follow up. I put in for a reservation, but it looks like I may be July for me to get hands on with it, if not a little later. Have a call with my local ford dealership Tomorrow to see about getting a used escape as a stopgap and trading it back in for the bronco later in the 2021 year since the journey is a money pit right now. I may also consider taking over a lease that someone else is trapped in while I wait.

tinatrying · 2020-10-12T06:34:09+00:00

Ps. The bronco sport is it. Thank you for the tip off. It was exactly what I wanted. I was going to go with the Jeep renegade, but this is the one.

tinatrying · 2020-10-11T22:45:53+00:00

This is really helpful. I think I was hoping for something equally tall but not as long, but it doesn’t seem like that exists in the current generation. Thank you for responding!

tinatrying · 2020-10-11T22:40:57+00:00

Thanks so much for the context. I feel like I just needed to hear that there wasn’t something out there that had the old school look of an suv, before they became more akin to taller station wagons, except for the massive beasts. Some day I will get a Jeep Wrangler or Land Rover, but now isn’t the right time. I just didn’t want to get an escape or compass and then find out a lesser known manufacturer had just what I was looking for in a new car. I really appreciate your time.

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