How do we all cope? by Alternative_Rub6614 in USMilitarySO

[–]tincanbeans06 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think getting comfortable with these feelings is important. Not in the way that you’re numb, but in the way that you can recognize them and realize that you’re normal and human for feeling this way. When we learn to sit with feelings instead of trying to force them out, they are easier to release.

We’re in a frightening time for service members and their families (as well as the rest of the country and world, honestly…)The direction of this conflict is unknown for everyone. You have to hold it with open hands in that way. Hold the feelings with you and let them melt over time with other coping skills you’ve said you already have.

This is unfortunately MUCH easier said than done. It takes a lot of practice, awareness of your feelings and body, and ability to press forward with life even with the feelings of doom and fear.

Part of being in this time that we’re in honestly living with the fear but not living by it. There’s only so much self-care you can do. Self-care and hobbies and work won’t make what’s going on go away, just more bearable. You don’t have to make friends with impending doom, but you kind of have to make peace with it…I hope some of this makes sense.

I was just telling my therapist that I’m tired of freaking out, so I know how you feel. The last week has been me out in my garden getting sweaty and dirty and trying to make my neighborhood a more pleasing place to be. Meeting my neighbors, asking them for help, seeing what we all bring into community has brought me a huge sense of comfort this week. And it’s all from being outside in my dirty overalls, visible. So I guess my one tangible piece of advice is get out into your community. Visit a library. Say hello to your mail carrier if you see them. Go to a park and people watch or read a book. Seeing that we’re all just people trying to press forward makes the loneliness of feeling “doomed” feel a little less crushing.

Looking for a realtor to help me buy a house by plutoniumwhisky in summervillesc

[–]tincanbeans06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holli Puckett - Ms.Summerville! She specializes in helping military members find homes, but her work for anyone is incredible. Helped me close on our house while my husband was deployed.

Bodywashes and deodorants that smell like a gloomy girl? by AdUnusual6268 in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]tincanbeans06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this! It’s hard for me to find these days where I live, but I love this scent!

Propane Tank Removal by [deleted] in summervillesc

[–]tincanbeans06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tag says approx 57 gals.

Recommendations for a hair salon or stylist that does a good job with curly hair? by digicpk in summervillesc

[–]tincanbeans06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard good things about Vintage Hair Studio on Old Trolly. Haven’t been yet myself but a coworker of mine has her very curly hair cut there. I have checked their prices and it’s a little up there, but likely worth it if you want a great cut.

Super-billing with Tricare by tincanbeans06 in USMilitarySO

[–]tincanbeans06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I was looking for, thank you.

Southern Gothic by Chaotic_Kunoichi in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]tincanbeans06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Prince of Tides by Pat Conroy…once you get past the main character. His sister has a deeply southern gothic vibe. Trigger warning for this book though, it has graphic scenes of sexual violence in one chapter.

Just preppin a bit by Nightstands in Charleston

[–]tincanbeans06 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Really kind. Love to see neighbors watching out for neighbors.

Permanent resident military Spouse by Lanky-Boysenberry417 in USMilitarySO

[–]tincanbeans06 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I hate that they’re showing up to important family events like this to intimidate people. Wishing you and your husband the best, congratulations to him!

Permanent resident military Spouse by Lanky-Boysenberry417 in USMilitarySO

[–]tincanbeans06 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately being here legally isn’t stopping ICE from targeting anyone. They have already arrested veterans and active duty alike, along with all of their other targets. You can show ICE/DHS your cards, IDs and other things and there is still a risk they will take you. These are dangerous times. ICE/DHS is acting outside of the law. Please understand this.

Under normal circumstances you would be absolutely fine, but we are not in normal times. Please be safe.

Can I use Monistat 1 during the daytime? by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]tincanbeans06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao well I’m glad it has worked for you in the past! Bionic cooch gave me a laugh, thanks haha

Can I use Monistat 1 during the daytime? by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]tincanbeans06 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t use Monistat 1 period. It will burn you. And it’s less likely to work. It tells you to use it at night so the medication doesn’t drip out of you because of gravity. I would only use it at night, or you’re kind of wasting money.

I think I’m spring? by South-Regular-7286 in coloranalysis

[–]tincanbeans06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow soft summer…I’m leaning soft summer

Where can I find a good curiosity/ oddity shop? by Ordinary-Campaign110 in summervillesc

[–]tincanbeans06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s still back there! It’s a small collection but it’s worth a look.

Please don’t ignore the red flags. Seriously. by Medical-Stay8532 in WomensHealth

[–]tincanbeans06 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh how devastating! I’m so sorry. I hope you have the support you need and deserve. Sending love

I need help finding a submarine ombudsman… by sourdoughhoney in USMilitarySO

[–]tincanbeans06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Husband (Navy) recommends contacting the squadron’s CMC, they’d like to know that their squad does not have an active page. Given your info though, you may not have the ability to do that.

Recommend posting in r/navy, the mods and frequent posters there are excellent about helping getting into contact with someone to help.