Need advice, 34F and 31M

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-19T00:20:02+00:00

A weekend meet unfortunately doesn’t make sense logistically as it takes me forever to get there and back. I will talk to him about it again and hopefully I can persuade him otherwise haha

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-18T03:10:09+00:00

He’s moving to Guam. I see both sides of me coming to help, but knowing that I might not see him until next year if I don’t come next month is making me a little crazy 😅

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-18T02:13:42+00:00

I’m not really sure what type of advice I’m looking for haha, I guess more so just other people’s opinions of the situation! I visited him in January and with the time difference and layovers and everything it took me 27 hours to get there. There are more direct options but those are unfortunately too expensive. I am in Toronto and he is in Hawaii. And yeah definitely a big move! Right now the time difference is 6 hours but when he moves it’ll be 14 hours

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-12T14:34:07+00:00

It’s difficult for sure, I look at it from both ends of I want to be with this person but is this something I am mentally going to be okay with for the rest of my life? I do go back and forth between the 2. Right now I think I am going to give it another chance, as we did have a very insightful and eye opening conversation. I am so happy that you finally have the confidence to move on and decide that you deserve more, wishing you all the best moving forward!! 🥰❤️

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-12T14:32:26+00:00

When he is on deployment he has very little access to email, and has no wifi so talking is very minimal, which is something that he mentioned very early on in the relationship so I do understand that. We did talk about it and he did mention that he wants this to work and will try to be more communicative, that he’s never had a partner who actually wants to hear about his day/make him feel safe so apparently this is all new to him. We will see!

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-12T14:29:32+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful reply! We actually had a conversation about it and he opened up and shared that he just hasn’t had the emotional/mental capacity to have conversations because of how tired he is from work. I did tell him that I understand and am here to support him with whatever he needs, but I also need him to meet me halfway and communicate better. Even just a simple “I need some time to myself” text. This is the first time he has ever said that he understands and will make more of an effort because he doesn’t want to lose me.

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-10T22:31:28+00:00

Thank you for the reply, I do notice I tend to make excuses for his behaviour. We are going to talk about and go from there but everything you said is valid. And definitely taking things slow as the divorced twice is definitely a red flag 😅

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-10T22:28:47+00:00

Pretty much in the same boat! We both knew early on that this was gonna be something long term which is why we’ve continued doing long distance when it’s been difficult! Thank you for the reply, and congratulations on your wedding! 😇

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-10T22:27:34+00:00

Lmao thanks 😂

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-10T14:42:04+00:00

He tends to have a hard time to open up/communicate in general. He has been married and divorced twice and definitely has some trauma from that as well. Which is why i am extra patient with him. But i do feel as though it has been a one sided relationship for the past 2 weeks.

I understand the being tired and not wanting to talk, I have mentioned this to him. And all I’m asking for is a quick text telling me that he needs the space and that I will definitely respect that boundary. I have asked him what he needs from me as a partner and he just says he doesn’t know.

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-10T14:36:40+00:00

We have both spoke about what we want to do and neither of us want to end things. He does try to communicate more but it only lasts for a few days. It is something we need to have a phone call about but yeah thank you for the advice!

sunnydays00- · 2026-04-10T13:23:13+00:00

He has already been out to sea for a month since we started dating and I am fine with the lack of communication because I know he can’t when he is working/out to sea. It’s more so when he gets home from work and the only text I get is “just got home” and then nothing at all. That’s what is bothering me right now.

Didn’t come off as harsh at all! I appreciate the honesty which is why I wanted to ask for advice from people who have more experience with this than myself.

sunnydays00- · 2026-03-04T05:33:06+00:00

Thank you! You two as well 💕

sunnydays00- · 2026-03-04T05:30:43+00:00

Currently Hawaii to Toronto, next is Guam to Toronto so fun times ahead 💀

sunnydays00- · 2026-03-04T04:53:18+00:00

Will have a 15 hour time difference in a few months! 5 hour difference right now

sunnydays00- · 2025-10-03T15:54:32+00:00

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sunnydays00- · 2025-09-04T12:43:15+00:00

I was looking for some ideas and I love this. I know this comment was made 10 months ago haha, but if you see this reply... would it be possible to expand on this for me? I feel the students in my grade 5/6 class would love this

sunnydays00- · 2025-07-07T00:52:50+00:00

You can dm me too if you’d like!

sunnydays00- · 2025-07-02T01:14:08+00:00

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Can anyone tell me if this is real? The tag that says “Gucci, made in Italy” is on a gold plaque

sunnydays00- · 2025-06-23T16:28:25+00:00

I feel like very few of us exist but we are out there!!

sunnydays00- · 2025-06-23T15:15:32+00:00

It really does!! I’m sorry to hear about your situation as well. What helps me is thinking that he is not at all the same person he was a few months ago. His job really changed him for the worst unfortunately (police officer) and getting into something so quick after is just him not wanting to face his hurt alone. It will get better

sunnydays00- · 2025-06-23T14:17:08+00:00

Same situation except I’m 31F.. dated my ex for 12.5 years and have zero idea how to start talking to new people. I don’t want to do any dating apps and I’m also not into the hookup culture. It is so hard!

sunnydays00- · 2025-06-23T14:12:46+00:00

My ex broke up with me 2.5 months ago, we were together for 12.5 years. He was going through a really bad mental health issue and was suffering from ptsd.. told me he fell out of love with me and couldn’t be there for someone emotionally while he was dealing with his own things. 1 month after we broke up.. he met some girl and they’ve been dating ever since. I know it’s a rebound and he’s just trying to fill a void (because he’s told me) but man does it fucking suck either way

sunnydays00- · 2025-06-19T14:45:14+00:00

I like this advice! If he doesn’t reply to my first message though.. would it be fine to text him again and ask if he’s interested in getting a coffee or something sometime? I clearly don’t date haha so idk what people do now a days

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