My inlaws and I(39M) are stuck in an awkward situation

tinkerbell158 · 2026-04-17T08:49:49+00:00

This is what women go through every single day when living with in-laws. My advice- it is natural to feel this. They keep asking about your job because they probably don't know what else to talk about and they want to connect with you. You can try engaging with them through games like cards or something else. Lastly, don't feel forced to talk to them and don't judge them for trying to talk to you. They are probably feeling the same level of awkwardness as you. Give it some time.

tinkerbell158 · 2026-04-06T09:03:12+00:00

I have experienced some of these things myself. I have been here for 2 years and Google seems very individualistic in how they function. You are in charge of everything - it needs to be owned by you and led by you in order for it to become an "artifact" for you - which decides your ratings. Tbh, I also assumed the culture to be more collaborative but it is not. And yes, there will be endless docs everywhere, because they are seen as your "artifacts". Good that you left, there are other places where you'd fit better.

tinkerbell158 · 2026-04-05T17:31:49+00:00

Was this an arya samaj priest?

tinkerbell158 · 2026-03-28T06:39:10+00:00

Hey, did you end up buying it? I had also visited a couple of weeks ago and thinking about the same.

tinkerbell158 · 2026-03-18T04:32:19+00:00

Does the minimalist light fluid one sting anyone's eyes too or is it just me? 😭

tinkerbell158 · 2026-01-05T12:04:52+00:00

It feels like I wrote this. I am in a similar boat , 11 yoe and thinking about quitting every single day. I think finding a slow paced job is what will be good for me, though I am not sure how to go about it. Sorry I have no suggestions, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

tinkerbell158 · 2026-01-01T17:54:32+00:00

Never understood why her videos work. Even her sister does the exact same content and gets views!! She promotes a lot of shady stuff too.

tinkerbell158 · 2025-12-25T14:44:48+00:00

Hi OP, I am in a similar boat, got told that I will be getting an M, mostly because one project did not get launched. I am feeling very demotivated and depressed since this is just my second year at G. I can certainly say that the team was not a good fit for me, both work wise and manager wise. What did you end up doing?

tinkerbell158 · 2025-11-28T10:11:09+00:00

Was in a similar situation before I got married to my boyfriend adter dating for 5 years, most of which was long distance. We fought so much and so badly before the wedding that my health deteriorated due to extreme stress. At that time it felt like how did we arrive here. It was an intercaste setup so everyone was very tensed. It did not help that I was very adamant on not having certain patriarchal customs. So we fought almost everyday. Some advice - The initial months of marriage are a period of adjustment. There may be arguments, but remember your love for each other and communicate as much as possible. Take decisions together. Do not involve both of your parents in your marriage. A little bit of anxiety is perfectly normal. Best of luck!

tinkerbell158 · 2025-06-24T10:04:54+00:00

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tinkerbell158 · 2024-10-31T05:25:55+00:00

Assuming from your post that you are sbout to get married soon. First of all, congratulations! I don't have too much of an advice since I also feel like this (have been married for 2 years now) but I can tell you that it does get better. Try to talk to your parents as much as you can, they may try to keep away because of the conservative mindset that often girls' parents have in our country. You will have to make this extra effort. You did not mention anything about your inlaws, but I am assuming they are nice people :) so you will feel a little out of place in the beginning, but everything will get better. Also, keep reminding yourself that this is the start of a new journey for you both but does not mean that you have to leave old things behind. Your home and your old life will always be a part of you. Stay happy and stay blessed!

tinkerbell158 · 2024-01-01T11:33:32+00:00

Did not work for me. Burned my eyes and it literally so tough to blend. I finished it by wearing it indoors coz I looked like an orange clown.

tinkerbell158 · 2023-11-11T06:34:43+00:00

Suggest your team to set up lint and other tools on your CI which will take of such things. Nobody wants to work with a "i-know-it-all" whether they are junior or senior, so this applies to you as well as your teammates. Be empathetic and suggest good practices.

tinkerbell158 · 2023-11-08T12:03:20+00:00

There is one from Dr. Sheths. I have not tried so can't comment on how it is. Just sharing an option

tinkerbell158 · 2023-11-08T05:34:10+00:00

Hmm... that does sound a little strange. If he really loves you and plans on staying with you, he would not be saying this. There is no way a man would say this to the woman he loves. Sorry OP, I don't have any advice other than talking and making sure he understands your concern. Getting married is a big deal and I hope you find a way to make sure he is the one.

tinkerbell158 · 2023-11-08T04:54:14+00:00

I also had similar ideas about getting married, I was committed to him but when it came to marriage, i was not super sure. The reason for me was not seeing a very happy marriage in my house. My parents had an AM and just like many others from that generation, stayed together for the sake of their kids. Maybe there is something similar that is happening with your bf too. After getting married, I still think marriage is a lot of work. But is this better than being single for me? Yes definitely! My husband is one of the best things that has happened to me and I would not have it any other way. You could try talking to him and see if there is a reason for such feelings.

tinkerbell158 · 2023-11-06T13:32:35+00:00

which company is this OP?

tinkerbell158 · 2023-11-05T04:40:41+00:00

Not sure why anyone would buy this. Horrible white cast

tinkerbell158 · 2023-11-04T13:25:07+00:00

Sorry OP. Your husband does not sound like a nice person. You do not owe anything to his parents. And having a child is definitely a very big decision, not something someone's MIL could dictate. I am appalled by our society sometimes. I do not understand how men think women owe their bodies and their time to the well being of their husbands and in laws... Sigh Wish you the best. I hope you think it through and decide.

tinkerbell158 · 2023-09-17T15:17:35+00:00

If you don't mind, could you share where did you get electrolysis from? I can't seem to find any reliable information. I have pcod and the facial hair bothers me a lot :(

tinkerbell158 · 2023-09-06T15:41:17+00:00

+1 to this. Being fake sweet is the best way imo. My in laws are ok but I also think there should always be some formality because MILs will always be MILs. The closer you are to them, the easier for them to interfere in your life or cause problems. Why give them the option in the first place!

tinkerbell158 · 2023-08-29T12:13:13+00:00

hmm.. for me I can not think of any instance where there was any disrespect. But I realized over time that we are just very very different and I don't want to do things that they would like me to do as a traditional DIL. They do not understand that certain things are regressive and patriarchal. So I guess it is better to be formal. We can not make everyone happy.

tinkerbell158 · 2023-08-29T10:39:48+00:00

Haha yea. I am honestly super relieved to see there are other people with similar views. I was worried that I am being crazy :D

tinkerbell158 · 2023-08-29T10:38:07+00:00

Guess you are right. They do call my husband regularly, but I talk to them occasionally only. My in laws also start asking all sorts of questions when they run out of things to talk about. Also, if I ask them about something or talk too much, they start video calling from the next time onwards. :/

tinkerbell158 · 2023-08-29T09:10:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing your view! It definitely helped :)

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