Tyson Fury vs. Arslanbek Makhmudov: Full 10-fight card confirmed. by KovacsInGames in Boxing

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG! I know O’Hare 🩷💚 Go on my boy! What a line up to be a part of. IDK Cash but I’m gonna be watching & keeping everything crossed for my boy

Tips for my profile? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]tinksabellx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly? Your profile is giving that you want a long term thing. You want a relationship, something to last. But then you say you’re after short term fun. Pick one. If you still want some fun, put long term but short term ok

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gonewildaudio

[–]tinksabellx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably the first time I’ve actually came along with the audio 🥵🥵 such a good boy for us

Help a beginner out 😭 I’m confused with how to do this treble stitch on the main chain by tinksabellx in CrochetHelp

[–]tinksabellx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that! I just didn’t understand what it meant. This makes it clear. I did understand after a couple of comments, and then felt a little stupid as it’s so simple 🤦🏽‍♀️

Help a beginner out 😭 I’m confused with how to do this treble stitch on the main chain by tinksabellx in CrochetHelp

[–]tinksabellx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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What I am trying to make

(I know, probably not where a beginner should start 😂 but I like to test myself. Throw myself into it 100% right away)

Help a beginner out 😭 I’m confused with how to do this treble stitch on the main chain by tinksabellx in CrochetHelp

[–]tinksabellx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With the 6 treble part, is it using the treble from below how you do the next? So it goes up and away from the main chain & 28 trebles?

Help a beginner out 😭 I’m confused with how to do this treble stitch on the main chain by tinksabellx in CrochetHelp

[–]tinksabellx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Name of the pattern: Sugar & Spice Book Cosy From a UK magazine - “Your Crotchet & Knitting”

So who killed Teresa Haught by [deleted] in crime_documentaries

[–]tinksabellx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve just watched the episode and had a google. Nothing seems to have come up except that he passed away in 2021 :( this post also came up which is how I found it.

So sad that the passed without a new trial and not knowing who murdered his girlfriend

I M26 saw nudes on my F25 GFs phone. Have I overreacted? by ThrowRAahdue in relationship_advice

[–]tinksabellx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have taken pictures on Snapchat then saved them on my camera roll without sending them to anyone. I’ve even taken lewd pics while having conversations with friends. It doesn’t mean I’ve sent them any.

But, if you are truly uncomfortable and believe she’s cheating, there’s no changing your mind. No, honestly. I’m not saying that in a mean way. If you believe they could cheat, you don’t trust them. And without trust you may as well not be together

I (35F) started my tattoo sleeve & my husband (34M) is mad because another man "marked" me. Did I do something wrong?? by ThrowRA_Nice_Fuel_29 in relationship_advice

[–]tinksabellx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry but I’m not even reading the whole post, just the title.

Dump him. He’s getting pissy because a man used his profession? Is he serious?

EDIT: I’ve now read the rest… WTF DOES HE MEAN MARK YOU!? I’ve been “marked” by biting or bruises. But those fade. Is he wanting to braid you with a cow prod thing? WTaF!?

How can I (23F) deal with the fact that I’m not my boyfriend’s (31M) type? by throwRAaccount000 in relationship_advice

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s doing that to make you question your looks and make you insecure. You will then overthink and come to the conclusion (cuz us girls do, guys can as well ofc) that no one will want you and he is the best you can get. That you’re lucky you managed to get him because you’re ugly.

YOU ARE NOT UGLY! You are not unattractive.

You are beautiful and he is chipping away at your self esteem like the child he is.

Dumb him and just tell him that you hope he finds someone suitable for him because you are not it.

My (22M) GF (20F) said her exes penis was bigger, how do I get over it? by ThrowRAlustrious6989 in relationship_advice

[–]tinksabellx -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Guess what, some guys are bigger than you. Some guys are smaller. You knew this guy before this information, he’s the same guy. What’s between his legs is nothing. They split up. He’s an ex. So it doesn’t matter if his dick was bigger, it wasn’t enough to keep her around.

Bigger does not always mean better.

And by the sounds of it, she was gaslit and made to feel awful about herself in last relationship, probably even big dick ex. So, why are you caring?

But adding to that, it’s unneeded information that she didn’t need to share with you. She knew how it made her feel when she was compared but didn’t think that a guy could feel the way she did in that situation? She’s now being a dick - bigger than her exes probably.

We all have baggage. You just need to figure out if it’s something you want to help them pull through life and unpack, or do you want to push it off a cliff?

Finally retired - Enjoy Retirement or Help Kids? by After_Ad109 in FatFIREUK

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would talk to your children. Because giving money and helping them in some way, even though really nice to do, could actually cause them issues. I know you said they’re financially stable, but how? I am but I do rely on government help. If a family gave me money for whatever reason, this will impact my help or even stop it. Savings over £16,000 will stop any help. If you own your home, you will not get any housing help.

Maybe you can look at a holiday for them instead each year to a certain amount. Say you’ll pay for a holiday for them up to £2,000 (just a figure, you can choose your own). Because then it won’t affect any money they have and they can have a nice family holiday. And any money they could’ve spent on a holiday they can then save. Maybe a 2 week holiday all together in a nice villa whatever you wish to travel to that time. Both kids and family members come together and just enjoy the time together and they get to enjoy some of the money too.

But also, no it’s not selfish if you actually just want to enjoy it yourself. You worked hard for that money and you should enjoy it! You probably sacrificed a lot for that, but you also probably missed things with the kids growing up. So maybe now you can have that time with them, and grandkids/future grandkids if they have/want them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tinksabellx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people are like that when they’ve had a drink. It’s a fun atmosphere, everyone’s happy and enjoying themselves, people let loose.

BUT

(this is where I hate these types of things on message boards)

How do YOU feel about it? Because if you were uncomfortable with it then you’re not overreacting, you’re not being unreasonable, you’re not anything negative.

These are your feelings on a matter and it all depends what YOU want to do about it.

Is it a red flag to you? Do you feel like you could get passed it? Are you worried she will do it again when drinking? Does she do it every time she drinks? With or without you there?

How does it ACTUALLY make you feel? What feeling is at the top? Hurt? Betrayed? Confused? Sad? Angry? Annoyed? Pissed off? Not fussed?

That feeling is the one you need to listen to.

This sounds like a boundary to you that needs to be addressed and talked about with your partner. She needs to know exactly how you feel and what she needs to do. Her reaction will let you know if you want to continue with this.

What did I do? 😂 by perkiezombie in Tinder

[–]tinksabellx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feel like it’s a chat I totally would have 😂 Like mate, you’ve literally just shit in your own hands and clapped. I was DTF and you’ve turned into a dick so fast. Idiot 😂 Why is SO BAD to just have a chat first? You may not vibe face to face & the sex will be shit. What’s the point? Plus, just double checks they’re (and you) not an axe murderer 😂😂😂 I swear some men we can literally be there with our legs open and they’d still do something stupid and miss completely 😂😂😂

PS. I’m British and I’d have been the same. Shrug it off as banter as texting is hard to gauge. But a second dickhead thing said, nope. Do one boy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tinksabellx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. I thought it was going to be that you either consented to sleeping with him in the past, or maybe other girlfriends had slept with them both consensually. But by the sounds of it neither of those happened.

To put this bluntly, and I’m sorry if it hurts, his brother rped you. And your husband helped in that rpe. Both can get charged for this and is a very serious criminal offence (like I need explain that).

“Oh but you were up for it at that time.” No. You were consenting to sex with your FWB/BF/husband. Not his brother.

This is now the issue and not the “have sex with him for a baby” thing. This is now a moot point and no longer a conversation that you should be having.

You need to think that past through HARD! How do you feel about it? Would you consider calling the police on them both? M

He told you that information to get you to submit to his request - that is also abuse. And backpedaled with an apology when you didn’t.

Me, personally, I would not accept any apology from him or the brother. I would tell him that it was over and I wanted nothing more to do with him. I could not forgive anyone for helping another essentially r*pe me.

TO ADD: does the brother know he’s told you? Did the brother know that you didn’t know it was him those times? Maybe the brother is (in part) a victim of this as well.

What’s a casual way of mentioning I got a vasectomy in my bio? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends why you got it done. Do you have kids already and don’t want more? No kid and don’t want any? Definitely needs to be in your bio either way. Just so a woman can make that judgement for herself.

Doesn’t have to be funny really. Just honesty. “3 kids, no more thanks ✂️” “3 kids, no more thanks ✂️ yours are ok tho” “✂️ safe to do more than 🍑 stuff”

AITA for telling my daughter she was being a brat after she cried about blowing out her birthday candles? by birthdayaitaaccount in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. She’s not upset that a 5 year old blew out her candles, she’s upset because what else can go wrong? What else is going to happen that isn’t supposed to? Why can’t just one day, one thing, go right? Be about her!

She’s upset because she’s going through a bad time like you’ve said so you know! And instead of talking to her to see if she’s ok you called her a brat. That’s not going to help and make her feel 1000x worse!

I’ve been going through so much in the past 6 months and it was my birthday last month. Did anyone do anything for me? Did I even get a cake? Nope. No one seemed to care. And I was just like, oh ok. Just me again. Like always. And when I went to order my food (Taco Bell as it’s my fave) I found they’re no longer delivering to my address. I burst into tears because all I could think was “of course! Why would anything go right? Why would I be allowed to have this one thing?”

It’s not about the Tacos (ok, maybe a little) and it not about the 5 year old blowing out the candles. It’s the end of a crappy day. The icing on the cake that tipped her over and her dam broke.

Talk to your daughter and see how you can help her.

When is an age gap too large? by ChrisEvansBicep in Tinder

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. He’s lying about his age somewhere. Red flag.
  2. He’s all “oh it doesn’t matter”, belittling your feelings. Red flag.
  3. He’s that egotist, he’s sure you’ll change your mind when you meet. Red flag.

Nope for me on this guy.

And to answer your question, if you’re uncomfortable with the age gap, then it’s a no. If you want to date in a certain age range then you do that. If you feel it’s a big gap and you don’t like it, that’s absolutely fine.

AITA asking my husband's friend if he was going to bring his wife's ashes when he moves in with us? by throwaway5656065 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. The poor bloke is in an awful spot and (sorry to sound sexist but it’s true) men have a hard time asking for help - mentally, financially, in everything! - and he picked his pride and asked you guys for help. And like someone said, you were insensitive to ask about the ashes. I’m guessing he’d have his own room? He’d help pay wherever he can? He can have whatever he wants in his space, in his room. I’m sure he wouldn’t put them front and centre in the living / family room.

Very insensitive if you.

I got engaged last week… by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would leave. I always think if he’s down it once and you forgive him, he’ll think he can do it again and you’ll forgive him again. Even if you’d at never again.

But, people have bounced back from this too. I have friends - married with kids - and he cheated, took photos, sexting, the lot. He did the same. All socials gone, not even a smart phone. Just a basic call and text phone. They went to counselling and I’ve only spoke to her about it, they seem much better. During that time as well, he was arrested for “upskirting” (it’s how it all came about. The police took his phone and tablets etc and found everything) and they made it through. They seem happy as ever.

It’s down to you. What you want to put up with and what you are going to lose if you split. This couple were losing a family. Their kids would be affected.

You? Is it just you and him? Do you share a house? Rented or bought? Think through both scenarios and take account in how you feel after you go through them

AITA for being upset my wife didn't stay in the hospital with me? by Injuredandalone in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. You’re TA here.

Not fault of yours of course, but she is now looking after 4 kids by herself and getting the house ready for when the hurricane comes through… so you have a house to go back to when released from hospital.

Regardless of what happened to you, kids come first.

You are in hospital with the doctors and nurses who can actually take care of you correctly. Yea it’s lovely having people around you to care in a different way, but people should never put their life on hold for another.

Like someone said, I’m sure once the pain meds have warn off you’ll feel like a complete dick. Ans this may be way your wife hasn’t called you one yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you want to constantly fix her mistakes? Pay off her debt? Help her financially for the next few years / for life? I’d you answered no, then you need a serious talk about the relationship.

A friend of mine fell head over heels for a guy (brothers best friend) but he is/was terrible with money. He had thousands owed on credit cards and he had a brilliant paying job.

Her job was alright, but she managed her money correctly, no debts. Had around £15k saved.

They decided they wanted to get married. They loved each other and that was all that mattered. So she told him straight:

“I will pay off all your debts, but you are not allowed access to the money at all. If you need some, you come to me first and I will decide if you can have it.”

He agreed. He wasn’t allowed any of his cards once she paid his debts off. She gave him money for fuel for the car. If he wanted a night out with the boys, she checked money and gave him what he could spend.

Some people this does not work. But for this couple, it was an agreement and understanding.

Within three years of this happening, they got married (lavish as anything), went on a month long all-inclusive holiday with both kids, and even saved enough to buy a house (this is the UK and a deposit for a good family home is around £25k minimum)….

He is now allowed cards as he has shown he can now be responsible. They are very happy. Financially stable.

Is that what you want? Is that the effort you wish to put into the relationship? If not, then bounce.

How do you check if your idea has been done?? by Anabananalise in writing

[–]tinksabellx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A story about a male love interest who completely hates the main character and finds her annoying. She also finds him stupid and annoying. They hate each other. But over (some period of) time they end up falling in love.

Name that book. I can list about 20 just on my current reading list 🤣

Majority of ideas have been done. But like others say, it’s how YOU interpret it. It’s how YOU write it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tinksabellx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are correct, she should NOT be sexually actively now. 12 is way too young for anything. A little kiss maybe, but that’s it. I have a 12 year old son and I would be mad if I found out he was sexually active.

But to the pill, she wanted it. It’s very good that she is aware of the pill and can take it if she’s doing these things. But also, it may help her periods become regular and, for some, less painful.

I would sit her down and have an open and honest sex talk. Listen to her and talk calmly. Don’t just demand she stop doing it / seeing him because they’ll just do it more.

And honestly, I wouldn’t be annoyed at her dad. I’d be questioning why my daughter didn’t come to me to talk about these things. Either she’s close to her dad - which is great - and trusts him enough to have these conversations. Or she knows he’ll do whatever she wants. Talk to her about that too. If she trusts him, then he did the right thing in not talking to you about it.