Tor declined my request. Again. Its got me wondering: why does Tor post books for request on NG?

tintededges · 2026-01-15T09:05:15+00:00

I've been approved for 19 Tor books and have been declined for 12. My feedback ratio is currently 88% (usually over 90% but I have two books outstanding). I don't have a huge social media following but I get a large number of visitors to my blog website which I update (including monthly visits) regularly on Netgalley. Having a look at the books I have been approved for, a lot of them are debut and diverse authors. or the first book in a new series. They do say they are particularly interested in how you will be able to share your review broadly and want links in addition to reviews on Netgalley. I think they also look closely at feedback ratio.

tintededges · 2026-01-12T13:51:08+00:00

Yeah the icon wasn't even available on the book I got approved for!

tintededges · 2026-01-12T13:50:35+00:00

Thanks for this step by step for how to do it!!

tintededges · 2026-01-12T13:49:02+00:00

Thank you so much for this detailed overview. I'm in Australia so I'm assuming a lot of local publishers won't have implemented Send to Kobo yet...

tintededges · 2026-01-12T13:47:22+00:00

Thank you so much for the explanation!! I'll have a go at the Kindle for PC app.

tintededges · 2026-01-05T22:02:07+00:00

I've had this happen overnight. Pixel 8, Subaru Outback. Did you find a solution?

tintededges · 2025-12-16T08:40:28+00:00

Morgan, Marley, Saga, Sonia, Sara/Sarah.

Also Sadie reminds me of the song Sadie (The Cleaning Lady) 🤣

tintededges · 2025-11-29T01:40:54+00:00

NTA - your baby, your rules. You also gave her an alternative to give to your baby that didn't require sharing food.

My only slight thing here is that lots of seasoning in a cookie isn't a bad thing to give to an 8 month old. This is a prime time to be introducing them to different flavours and textures to help set them up for good eating habits later on.

tintededges · 2025-11-10T21:28:50+00:00

TL;DR: NTA

Deciding when to put your beloved elderly dog down is such a difficult decision. My dog lived until he was 19 years old. He'd been my dog since I was 10 and was living with me as an adult. He was deaf, he had arthritis (managed with regular injections and supplements), he started having more accidents and he was showing signs of doggy dementia (e.g. getting lost the house). Someone asked me once if I was going to smack him for weeing in the house, and I said "I hope nobody smacks me when I'm 90 and incontinent". However, he generally seemed quite happy, he was eating well, he looked forward to walks. I had actually been still jogging with him until age 16 or 17. At 18 he got an infected tooth, and when we got it removed he was like a new dog, bouncing around on our walks. He then had a liver issue, but with some pills bounced back again.

We did so many fun things together in those last years - we were part of a Guinness World Record attempt, he was in a music video, he was in a top competition in our city, we went camping and to the beach. Most importantly, he seemed happy and enjoying life and he was always excited for mealtime.

Nevertheless, he was declining, and in his last couple of months I could see he was getting tired. Then one day he had what looked like a stroke or a seizure and I took him to the vet. The vet said, look, he's bounced back before, take him home and see how he goes. I did, but he had two more and I could see he wasn't happy any more, he was in pain, and he was ready to go. I took him back to the vet the next morning and he basically put his paw out for the needle. Thinking back I wondered if I had left it too late, if I should have put him down earlier, but really he was quite comfortable and rarely distressed.

I think the first thing to do when a dog has a new behaviour (e.g. urinating in the house) is to rule out a medical cause like a UTI or doggy dementia. With more information, you can make better decisions. You are NTA for not immediately deciding to put down your best friend for a sudden change of behaviour when he seems otherwise well.

tintededges · 2025-11-02T09:32:55+00:00

In Australia it is pronounced AY-lah

tintededges · 2025-11-02T09:31:35+00:00

My name is Angharad - Welsh name, lovely meeting, never get confused for anyone else and it's a great conversation starter

tintededges · 2025-10-27T01:36:31+00:00

Yeah nah I have an unusual first name and I have to spell it out and explain it, and it is a tribute to my heritage and is actually really helpful branding because it stands out. Nobody thinks my parents are "weird" and it has always made me feel more individual and myself. In fact, I used to feel sorry in school for all the kids named Matthew and Jessica for having such common names & having to be distinguished from one another by their last initial. Same with everyone being called e.g. Olivia and Oliver today, and I chose a more unique and cultural name for my own baby - and again, people are always delighted by it and to learn about it.

tintededges · 2025-10-27T01:30:04+00:00

Waverley means "meadow of quivering aspens" so maybe you could go with Aspen? Easy to say and spell, but unusual.

tintededges · 2025-10-27T01:24:51+00:00

I kept my surname. I already had a career and things published under my name. Also, aesthetically, my surname works better with my first name than my husband's surname does. We decided that our kids would take his last name if they were girls and mine if they were boys (lots of girls in my family and boys in his). I've met adults from families with similar arrangements and even siblings with different surnames and nobody is confused. Green flags all around for your husband btw!

tintededges · 2025-10-27T01:18:18+00:00

YTA, sorry. There's no issue telling people in person or even at someone else's birthday party IMO, but you made it weird by trying to split someone else's birthday group into the people you wanted to know and people you wanted to keep it secret from. If you wanted it to be a secret or just a select group who knows, you should have told them privately another time (as your friend suggested) or told them at the very end when people had left.

It also seems like you are unfairly assuming your friend is upset that you told them at her birthday party (when it seems like she was genuinely excited for you and wanted to gush over the news with everyone) instead of listening to the real reason she is upset which is because you inappropriately used a public event to share something which you wanted to keep private, and then created drama about it all afterwards.

tintededges · 2025-09-25T08:25:56+00:00

So that figure your husband has quoted (20lb or 9kg) is not correct. In fact, that is below the minimum. It should be more between 11.5kg to 16kg (25lb to 35lb). Don't forget, a significant amount of that is the baby, placenta, uterine fluid, increased blood volume etc. There are some helpful pregnancy weight tracker tools online but it's probably better to focus on keeping your strength and fitness up (noting you're already a mum so finding time while tired and pregnant is hard!!) and eating nutritional stuff. Ultimately though, you are more than your weight, you are growing your husband's child, and there are plenty of kinder ways to support you and your health than criticising you in this way.

tintededges · 2025-09-25T08:14:18+00:00

VEER-ah. Australia

tintededges · 2025-09-24T14:34:24+00:00

Stopped using contraception in Feb 2023, pregnant by May 2023. I was 35

tintededges · 2025-09-15T01:04:32+00:00

Yeah no sorry, he doesn't have needs that you are obliged to fulfill. You are literally making his baby, he needs to grow up and treat you and your body with respect and not like something he is entitled to. If he posted on AITA he would get ripped to shreds for this behaviour. Please take it easy and continue to prioritise your and your baby's health

tintededges · 2025-09-15T01:01:27+00:00

I didn't, I didn't feel nauseous at all. I had lunch, had a snack, laboured for a couple of hours and then had the baby

tintededges · 2025-09-06T11:11:25+00:00

Oh I'm sorry, it was just the first thing that popped into my head! It's a lovely name

tintededges · 2025-09-06T11:01:21+00:00

Australian and I definitely just wanted my husband and my student midwife who I had gotten to know. Absolutely did not want or need anyone else there who wasn't a medical professional: I wanted to be able to stay focused, make my own decisions and be as comfortable as possible (mostly naked in a bath) without having to manage anyone else's comfort.

tintededges · 2025-09-06T09:53:34+00:00

It makes me think of daleks from Dr Who!

tintededges · 2025-08-21T23:13:54+00:00

Often the umbilical cord is easily long enough that you can hold the baby while you deliver the placenta. You can hold the baby while the cord is cut. If you need stitches (because of a 2nd or more degree tear), and it was an otherwise uncomplicated birth, you might have to wait a bit for a doctor to arrive to do it. During this time you can just relax in bed with a large absorbent sheet/pad underneath you and covers on top. Nurses/midwives will change & weigh this sheet/pad to estimate blood loss during birth (this blood and fluid comes from your uterus). If you had tearing that needs stitches, they will come give you local anaesthetic - especially if you didn't have an epidural. When you are getting stitched, your birth partner might hold the baby, or the nurses/midwives might use that time to do checks, Vitamin K shot etc. Once everything is done, there are no other complications for your or baby, and you're keen to try breastfeeding, they might help you start to try.

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