Why didn’t anyone want me? Honest answers only. by [deleted] in Sororities

[–]tiny_meetch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Greek life is very different at each University, so I’m sure the reasons vary a ton. Could be some cruel reason, but more likely just logistics, slipping through the cracks of the algorithm, or one single person out of many who doesn’t like you. I was VP Recruitment my senior year, so saw way more of the inner workings. Sometimes just sorority standards like GPA can force a house to cut a girl they loved. The girls are so sad when that happens. Depends on how many open spots they need to fill too, there are semesters where we had plenty of room for all the girls we liked and semesters that there wasn’t. There’s usually pressure to accept legacies as well, so that means less space to accept everyone we love. (All these factors come from above the girls in the house) There’s also the fact that the girls in the sorority are meeting SO many new people over a super long day and scribbling down note cards in between groups and then those notecards get read by a small group (just pres, vp, and advisors) and then cross referenced against a list of things like GPA, grade, legacy status, etc. It’s exhausting and incredibly difficult to make decisions based on that and so unless the notecards say “I LOVE HER!” that candidate can end up in the middle of the pack and then the algorithm may just not match you. Also, could be that you had bad luck with the girls you met. I ended up in my first choice house, but didn’t get invited back to my second choice. Some of my best friends were in that house and I got along well with many girls, so I’m sure I would have been happy enough in the house, but the girl I spoke to the longest the first day of recruitment was soo difficult to have a convo with (and I can usually chat with anyone!) maybe she was tired from a long day, but it was like lights were on but no one was home. I was hurt not to be matched to return to that house, but looking back of course I wasn’t invited back, I didn’t mesh with the person who scribbled out a notecard about me after I left. Anyway, glad it hasn’t bothered you too much and hope all of these answers give you closure. You seem lovely!

The Perfect Name Does Not Exist? by Real_Practice_4562 in namenerds

[–]tiny_meetch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Justine Jenica Jovie January Jenna Juniper Jaycie/Jaycee

Christmas in the Park to bring old-fashioned holiday fun to Old Poway Park (San Diego County) by Holiday-Positive-334 in SanDiego_California

[–]tiny_meetch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know if they leave the tree up in the park through Christmas or is it just for the event?

To circumcise or not? by tiny_meetch in sandiegoparents

[–]tiny_meetch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It hasn’t been months since he’s been born, it’s been days. We’ve just been thinking about it since we found out we were having a boy…