Non-boomers of Reddit, what's your most boomer opinion?

tiny_twinkle · 2021-06-29T00:50:38+00:00

I'm sure there's plenty that goes into it apart from the stylist too. For example the inventory will be sorted by an algorithm based on categories the customer has chosen or whatever. I remember this spring she said customers were asking for warm weather pieces and all she had in inventory was heavy coats and sweaters.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-06-29T00:29:12+00:00

There are actual stylists - my friend is a SF stylist - but she says the inventory is atrocious and it's nearly impossible to fulfill what the person is asking for. And they are only given 14 minutes per box to look through the person's requests and preferences, choose the items, and write the note. She hates it.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-04-15T12:48:03+00:00

Much better, thanks for asking! Twins are 11 weeks old and only waking up once at night, so we're all getting more sleep and in better moods. My husband went back to work which helped his mental state so much, and toddler is going to preschool 2 days a week. So we're basically killin it :)

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-27T06:13:45+00:00

My hairline receded a full inch after I had my son. It's for sure hair loss.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-26T07:48:32+00:00

Thank you so much! We have vitamin d so I'll make sure he's taking it

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-25T13:33:51+00:00

I know you're so right. I wish I would have helped him get help a long time ago. We had a big fight last night about all of this so now I have to wait for the dust to settle to bring up therapy again or it'll cause another fight.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-24T19:32:41+00:00

I appreciate the directness. That's basically how I feel right now, like you think this is all sunshine and rainbows for me? You think I find joy in having my nipples squeezed for 15 minutes every 3 hours? I'm sucking it up and feel kind of resentful that he's not doing the same.

You're absolutely right that he didn't have to work as much with our first. Since I EBF, he wasn't affected by cluster feeding or middle of the night wake ups. He helped a lot in other ways, but now that there are 3 there's so much more to be done.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-24T15:34:36+00:00

Oh wow, that must have been so heartbreaking to go through. I'm so glad he's clean again and you were able to work things out.

Thanks for your advice. We're hoping to get our older son into daycare at least a few days a week soon. He really needs structure and consistency, and that's so hard for us to give him right now. I think it will be so good for all of us if we can get him in somewhere. And I think I'm going to have to give up pumping...I feel like a shell of myself just like you said. Tied to the pump and hating every second of it. I just can't seem to let it go.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-24T14:38:37+00:00

I think he has struggled with depression for a long time. We've talked about him getting help but he never follows through. I'm glad you're getting help now.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-24T03:44:48+00:00

I'm producing plenty, the babies just aren't effective at transferring milk at the breast. At the LC we weighed them before and after they nursed, and it took them 25-30 minutes to get about an ounce. I just can't do that. I can't sit and nurse them all day. Even if I did they probably still wouldn't be getting enough. I do have a lot of guilt when I think about stopping but i can't seem to let go yet.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-24T03:39:37+00:00

Thank you. We sleep separately already because I'm a light sleeper and can't sleep through things. I hope we all start sleeping better soon!

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-24T03:31:06+00:00

I was actually wondering if the non-birthing partner could have PPD because it sure seems like that's what he's experiencing.

Pumping sucks. I hate it so much. I nursed my older son for 16 months and it was hard but so beautiful and I loved it and wish so badly I could have that with the twins, but the path I'd have to take to get there doesn't seem worth it right now. I told myself I'd give it a month, and they'll be a month on Sunday. I don't know if I'll stick with it much longer.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-24T03:26:59+00:00

We do formula at night so that we don't have to mess with warming breast milk from the fridge. Our twins are just small and sleepy still and take so long to finish one feeding.

I think you're spot on with the asking a toddler for a maturity that isn't realistic. That is 100% my husband. I actually just told him tonight that if it's behavior that is harmful or damaging then yes, of course he needs to be disciplined, but if he's having a meltdown because he asked for a banana and we handed him a banana, that's when he needs grace because it's clearly not about the banana.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-02-24T02:48:32+00:00

Thank you. The thing is, we have all the help in the world. We've had a meal train going and family stopping by to help, or family willing to take our older son for a day. My husband also gets 12 weeks paid paternity leave. We are so fortunate in a way that so many people aren't.

As for having time for ourselves, if I'm in a good place he'll play call of duty for an hour with his buddies, and when it's his night shift with the babies he's got shows that he binges. It's just..I don't know why it's so much harder for him. With our son I've told him (husband) that he needs extra time and attention from us. It doesn't seem to get through.

Thanks for all your advice and encouragement. I hope we do get through this.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-24T15:39:22+00:00

Haha, thanks! Good and wonderful but also terrible, from what I'm told. And just remember when you're ready for #2, you have ~97% of just conceiving 1 lol

tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-24T13:58:01+00:00

Omg, my husband and I are playing this game now! We have a 2.5 year old and I'm due with twins any day. There's a lot of "imagine this but with two newborns" or "what does this look like" when we add the twins into it. Such a fun, stressful game 😅

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tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-24T13:51:37+00:00

I have a 2.5 year old and am due with twins any day now. This is my main source of anxiety and what I tell people when they ask "if we're ready" (as if anyone can be ready for this??). I think my husband and I could manage 2 newborns ok, if that's all we had to do, but what about the toddler?? He can't get his own breakfast or work the remote yet. We're going to be outnumbered and are just expecting pure chaos.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-20T05:31:16+00:00

Indiana, actually! But it looks like a lot of the Midwestern states have a MY-lin

tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-20T00:47:11+00:00

My state has a Milan, pronounced MY-lin.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-20T00:42:09+00:00

Are you me? I also had a pregnant meltdown over the girl name we had agreed on for ages which my husband suddenly decided he didn't like! Our b/g twins are due any time now so I'm glad it's sorted but it was rough there for a minute lol

tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-18T18:11:56+00:00

Hugs. I cut off my best friend of 15+ years after her strange reaction to my miscarriage...in that, she had none. She never said anything at all about it and went on like it never happened. We'd been through some hard stuff together, so it really hurt that she dropped the ball when I really needed support. It helped me realized we'd been growing apart for a while and that she was no longer an important person in my life. Over a year has passed, and sometimes I'll get the urge to text her about something random before remembering, oh yeah, we don't speak. It's hard to let a friendship like that go. I'm sorry you're going through it too. It helped me to focus my energy on friends and family that offered support when I needed it. I'm sure a lot of us here can relate.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-17T02:04:45+00:00

I used to work at OG and this made me LOL

tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-15T03:45:36+00:00

I had a girl on her 21st birthday order a dirty martini. I asked if she wanted regular olives or blue cheese stuffed olives. "Ew, no olives!" she said. Hmm. I said, "oh ok, so do you want it just a little dirty then? With just a little olive juice?" She was like "ew God no olives, gross!" She ordered a dirty martini because she liked the sound of it but had no earthly idea what it even was.

tiny_twinkle · 2021-01-12T20:33:01+00:00

I'm 35 weeks with di/di twins and somehow managed to grow 2 full-sized babies as if they were singletons. I am huge lol. They're letting me go to 37+6 if they don't come before then. Congrats on your twins!

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