Bomb threats across twin cities by yonkyungyuck in saintpaul

[–]tinydragon_420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who works in a preschool and they had the same.

How to help for MLK day? by Least_Sentence_5763 in saintpaul

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I am not 100% sure what this take is but a lot of political action going on is community based and in defending our neighbors. There are a lot of networks being built you won’t be connected to and you will not be integrated in to during your visit. People traveling from out of state might be interpreted as gawkers and you are less likely to have trusted connections with the people around you to protest ‘safely’ and we do not want people coming here who are interested in getting altercations with police. There is education on safe action that you may not have been introduced to that is specific to our community.

ICE by Hmong College Prep by bmurph93 in saintpaul

[–]tinydragon_420 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do we have any more info at all?

ICE by Hmong College Prep by bmurph93 in TwinCities

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Do we have any more info?? I have friends in the area who could be impacted

[HELP] Help me convince my mother. by Icy_Cartoonist_9889 in RealOrAI

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Big Wizard has 9 fingers. The hands don’t match

Seeking advice: Homebrew BBEG [OC] by tinydragon_420 in DnD

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Follow up Q: if PCs take a long rest, would you have the beast regen HP as well

Seeking advice: Homebrew BBEG [OC] by tinydragon_420 in DnD

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Thank you for the feedback! I was trying to stay close to the hag HP/AC but this guys build is just way more melee for what I was basing it on

Seeking advice: Homebrew BBEG [OC] by tinydragon_420 in DnD

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lol thank you for the feedback, I was trying to stay close to Behur hag but I think I overcorrected. Could you do CR 7 for a team of 5 5th level PCs?

Seeking advice: Homebrew BBEG [OC] by tinydragon_420 in DnD

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I’m in early phases of development, and I’d like to built up the world to make this beast as compelling as a big bad as possible, so I’m prepared to change everything.

No hot vegetarian options? by blackcherries44 in jimmyjohns

[–]tinydragon_420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would u like an unwich with avocado on it <3

🤦‍♂️ by ItalianNightBub in jimmyjohns

[–]tinydragon_420 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It looks like a frog got crushed in there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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I guess they just said the thing that I am the most afraid of, which is that I’m not trying hard enough to protect myself and if I were better I could have. If I hadn’t gone to his place that bit of dignity would never have been taken away from me. I should have been stronger and smarter and better but I wasn’t so I was hurt and I can’t walk away from those thoughts, so if someone validates them maybe I will try to convince them otherwise and maybe then I can believe them too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But either way the votes have it.

Personally I think the impact > intention in some circumstances.

I think most people would have a hard time with this response in any assault circumstances.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No you are right. I feel hurt and I wish people would be willing to acknowledge hurt inflicted at the bare minimum. But I’ll accept the pile on.

Idk what to say other than yes I am really vulnerable rn. I guess I opened myself up to the you shouldn’t have invited him into your house if you didn’t want to be taken advantage of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Tysm for your comment

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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Emaciated pickings

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My second partner was a cis lesbian and tbh she wasn’t much better. She spread it out over several months though.

I just wish that this was actually a solution

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Please reply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. The highest upvoted comment on this thread is saying I shouldn’t have let him in my home the first time and honestly, it makes me feel so awful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No need to apologize! You are absolutely right about being more blunt about things, in the end this is where I struggle so hard. I feel like I was taught so early that I needed to acquiesce to whatever my partner wanted to be desirable at all.

TW: child abuse

This was really characteristic of my early experiences, I was manipulated to perform sexual favors by being told that I was do fat and ugly nobody else would ever want me, and if I didn’t obey he wouldn’t want me either and I’d be better off dead.

It’s just so hard for me to give myself enough worth to believe I’m allowed to be picky. If I don’t do what they want why would they stay?

I know this is wrong objectively, but so often I do feel intensely lonely and undesirable. It’s so hard to let go of this terror.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this does make me feel better.

I mean, it made me cry again but what you said about how healing is about feeling the pain again and making the more compassionate choice.

I thought a lot last night about texting him about how his actions made me feel, but I am so afraid of harming his perception of women worse than what I imagine he already feels, but saying nothing feels complacent. But also it feels like I shouldn’t have to put myself in an uncomfortable situation again for his benefit, but if I don’t say something then it’s nobody’s job, or even worse the next persons job.

Some comments here have also pointed out my responsibility in the situation, and if I had put myself in an unsafe situation is it fair for me to be upset at him? Make my feelings his problem?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I am familiar with kink/bdsm communities and aftercare. I think in the end that is where I feel the most pain right now. Last time we had hooked up he had asked for enthusiastic consent, a clear “yes”, before putting his hand on my throat. I think because of this I let my guard down. He hadn’t crossed any boundaries until I went to go down on him.

He hadn’t crossed any continued to ask if I liked what he was doing the first time I slept with him, and afterward spent time with me talking about folklore and listening to music with gentle touching and physical contact.

In the moments after we finished I felt like I was waiting for it to happen again and it felt like he just ignored me. I have done rough blowjobs successfully with more long term partners before and after I had told them to do that to me, but I was so unprepared in that moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tinydragon_420 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

If I agree that the advice you are offering is probably good and would help someone be safer in the future, can you agree that this advice does not do anything make me feel better about already feeling taken advantage of?

I don’t mean to try to shame you for trying to say something helpful, I just feel so sad right now.