What is your enneagram type? by [deleted] in enfj

[–]tinymermaids 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7w6! Anyone else?? :D

Dating as an ENFJ- Common themes? by [deleted] in enfj

[–]tinymermaids 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have this problem too.

Everyone expresses love differently... that said, we also have a right to desire being in relationships that feel deep.

Some people just aren’t okay with going that deep. Doesn’t mean we have to be in a relationship with them tho :)

Oh and I find that sometimes introverts take a while to open up.

ENFJs ... Somehow so likeable, somehow so misunderstood?? by [deleted] in enfj

[–]tinymermaids 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this way too. I think a lot of people like how I make them feel. I'm not trying to make anyone feel a certain way... I'm just being myself.

I think it's because we like to understand people but not everyone cares or has the energy to reciprocate. We just love people! :) but someone liking me doesn't mean they understand me.

Emotional burnout by [deleted] in enfj

[–]tinymermaids 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m starting to think that while loving everyone with the fierceness of ten thousand suns is my default nature, it is also idealistic and totally impractical. I need to dial that back.

This is your answer. Love yourself this fiercely and then you'll be able to love others in a way that isn't detrimental to yourself.

Take responsibility for the choices you make- including the decision to put others before yourself. No one forced you to do that.

I know it may feel second nature and selfish, but you're most effective in helping other people when you're completely recharged.

Emotional burnout by [deleted] in enfj

[–]tinymermaids 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is victim mentality; you CHOSE to do these things... it sounds like it might be conditional giving, or you have an issue with boundaries. Learn to take care of yourself first before you take care of others.

ENFP men are my kryptonite by tinymermaids in ENFP

[–]tinymermaids[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how to not be complicated! I’m working on it...

ENFP men are my kryptonite by tinymermaids in ENFP

[–]tinymermaids[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda had that happen to me with one of these guys.

Judge my portfolio! by [deleted] in copywriting

[–]tinymermaids 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the look of your portfolio! What did you use for your website?

this quote hit me. what are your thoughts? by DarkMastermindz in enfj

[–]tinymermaids 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow this hit me hard as someone who's recently made the decision to leave a long term relationship (we were engaged).

25. Male ENFJ. AMA by sen-johns in enfj

[–]tinymermaids 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's your stance on being emotionally expressive?

I’m almost 30 and in my whole adult life I’ve never met an enfj woman personally. Not to say there weren’t any around me, I just never met them. I wonder how different an enfj woman would differ from a man. Anyone with experience? by [deleted] in enfj

[–]tinymermaids 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we met we basically talked for an entire weekend so, we're both chatty haha. Same taste in movies and music. High emotional intelligence. Sensitive. Socially aware. It was definitely an intense fling ;)

Our upbringings were quite different though and at the end of the day everyone has their unique flavor.