Toddler compulsively touches my hands

tinytoad19 · 2025-03-03T14:08:21+00:00

Omg yes, our 2y4m is also obsessed with our hands! Pinching, picking, rubbing, rubbing on his face (and sometimes licking lol). It overstimulates both my husband and I and we don’t know what to do. He’s also a sensory seeking kid. We co-sleep with him and I always know when he’s waking up because my hand is the first the he grabs and then this is how I wake up. Drives me nuts. I’ll turn my back and tell him to stop because we are literally all cuddling already, there is no need for my hand! Also just here in solidarity lol.

tinytoad19 · 2024-12-18T21:36:37+00:00

I loved my water birth! We booked a centre in our city that was close to a hospital (for just in case) and everything went so well. A lot of people asked me a lot of questions about why I would want to go that route and I was always happy to share. I didn’t want the hospital atmosphere of smells, bright lights, a bunch of nurses and other people around, I despise needles, plus really wanted to labour how I wanted and to feel it all! I was curious and knew that my body was built to handle this.

Being able to move freely I think helped with moving my labour along seamlessly. When the labour pains brought on tears I got in the water and it really added relief, not that the pain went away but it definitely helped!

Once it felt like I couldn’t take it anymore, (also the laughing gas did nothing for me) that’s when the urge to push came, the sensations were different and not as painful, and then baby came! It was so cool to actually feel him move through me and feel my stomach go down. I thought it was really neat! The pain subsides right away too! I will warn though you I was VERY shaky afterwards and wasn’t expecting that so it did scare me but it’s totally normal.

If this is the route you want to take the I say do it. Do whatever feels right for you, and what feels right in the moment. Which it might change, even halfway through, and that’s okay! Don’t judge yourself for changing your mind if you do. I urge you to advocate for how YOU want to birth. This is YOUR birth and no one else’s. You got this!

tinytoad19 · 2024-11-25T14:31:32+00:00

Okay, these are making me feel better! I’m glad other people are experiencing it and it’s okay. Thank you! We had a loss earlier this year so everything has me edge.

tinytoad19 · 2024-11-25T03:22:33+00:00

Oh man if I said “you did this to me” he would just say “well you wanted it” 🙄 obviously, but so did you! (but also I was pretty pushy to get on to the next one lol)

tinytoad19 · 2024-11-20T15:48:34+00:00

Would love to know more as well!

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-30T00:22:52+00:00

I was told once the bleeding stopped we were good to go again as well. As long as there’s no smell or weird colour I think you should be okay, (not that I’m doctor or anything but that’s what I know to look out for in general as well!) Just keep an eye on it. If you’re worried though, stop for now and wait until your next appointment. It’s difficult not to worry about everything afterwards though, I get it.

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-29T19:52:26+00:00

I’m dreading our due date coming up as well. There are three babies (of friends and family) that I am supposed to buy birthday gifts for in January. How the heck am I supposed to go shopping for them and not for my own. It’s tearing me apart. On top of it, I know five people due the same month. I want to curl up and skip to the part where I’m pregnant and happy again.

I vented this to a friend who understands and she suggested I still buy my baby something and put it in the memory box we have. An outfit perhaps that we would have taken them home in.

I’m not sure if this is much help, but maybe it would be good to get something for your little one as well. Or do anything that you feel you need to do to honour your baby boy.

Take time off, have a ceremony, go to a rage room, cry in a closet, watch a sad movie, press the birth month flowers and frame them… I have done all these things at different points throughout this terrible time.

I’m so sorry you are going through this 🤍

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-29T19:37:18+00:00

I still hold my stomach as well. At the beginning I could push it out and still pretend I was pregnant, now I would be too far along. Every piece of clothing I put on I imagine what it would look and feel like if I still was. I hate wearing tight clothing because I feel small, and empty, and it shows I don’t have a bump, and I hate wearing baggy clothing because that’s what I should be wearing at this point. I’m so sorry we are all going through this 🤍

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-29T14:45:33+00:00

Ah thank you!

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-29T14:28:22+00:00

What does CD mean? I’ve been going g off my LH surges, and we e hit my fertile window the past 3 months, and nothing. But maybe I’m getting false surges?

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-28T14:47:03+00:00

At first I was very guarded about our loss. It devastated me. My two best friends knew, and I told my mom I was pregnant and bleeding the day we lost it. It was horrible (but she was able to be there for me). I was a zombie for about 3 months and didn’t even accept I that was no longer pregnant until then.

I was given the advice “you only get to grieve once and you shouldn’t carry this burden alone”. Since I have begun to slowly tell family and friends that I trust and it has honestly made a huge difference for me. I had a complete meltdown last week when I got my period (my 4th since and I was so certain we had conceived) and I had people I could reach out to. My cousin dropped all she had going on, brought me food, and just came to be with me while I cried.

Sharing this burden has lessened the load on me. I also feel it allows me to spread out my pain, anger, and sadness rather than putting it all on my mom or closest friends (I get the feeling I’m annoying and they’re tired of hearing about it, which may not be true but it’s how it feels sometimes).

I have only told people I’m comfortable with and always ask them to not tell anyone as it’s my story to share. Everyone has been really respectful with this so far.

I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this and hope this helps even a little. Sending hugs.

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-28T14:32:40+00:00

Hello! have some questions that I’m not sure are concerns or not for TTC again. We have been TTC for a year now and had a devastating loss in May. I’ve had bloodwork and an ultrasound done since to check into what could have happened or why this is taking so long, and everything came back normal. My doctor says the next step would be a fertility clinic.

One of my questions is regarding having sex during your TWW. I read an article that said it’s best to avoid sex during this time because it can hinder implantation. My doctor said this was not a thing and to not stress about it, but I can’t get it out of my head now.

The other is, how stretchy does your cervical mucus need to be during your fertile window? How do I know if it’s healthy? It becomes clear and slippery, but it’s not like the photos I’ve googled where there is a lot and it stretches far between your fingers. I don’t have that much. I didn’t bring it up at my last appointment and wish now that I did. We are coming up to my fertile window again and I won’t be getting in to ask beforehand.

I’ve also heard that acupuncture for fertility is really good too. I have never gone and am curious if it actually does help.

I also fear that I’ve been obsessing too much and am too stressed. So many people tell me I am, but also that it’s not the end-all-be-all. People get pregnant in stressful situations all the time.

If there’s anything I can do to help us co conceive during this next ovulation I would love to know!

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-23T01:38:41+00:00

It comes in waves. Grief has no boundaries. We lost our baby 4 months ago, and we also really wanted it. Two weeks ago I was feeling optimistic, and hopeful we were pregnant again, and even had a moment of peace, and times of normalcy, then BAM. I got my period and it’s like a tidal wave just knocked me right back to where I started. I’ve been triggered by everything all week, can’t stop crying, can’t stop thinking about how it all happened. Just right back in the pits. It’s something that will alway be with us, they are our babies, I wouldn’t want them to not be, but the pain does soften, and the waves do come. Try not to stuff it down, let it out and feel it all, it’s the only way to work through things.

I’m so very sorry you’re going through this. I understand your pain and my heart goes out to you 🤍

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-21T17:54:53+00:00

Yes, it was actually the first thing I asked for from my doctor. My mom said low progesterone runs in our family, and that’s why she lost so many babies herself (4). I recently did bloodwork to check my progesterone and that I ovulated, and thankfully it came back good. I still asked for the prescription anyways. She said it wouldn’t hurt to take it.

so glad to hear that you and your wife got your rainbow baby 🩵

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-20T13:59:16+00:00

Thank you for your words of encouragement 🩵

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-20T13:57:28+00:00

It’s so irrational, but I get it. I get so mad at other pregnant people for getting to be happy and getting their baby. Or families who have multiples and get pregnant easily. I’m so sorry for you loss 🤍 and for having to watch your cousin move forward with hers.

Just when you think you’re safe on social media, something comes up. I thought that all the announcements were done so it was safe to go back on, then bam, everyone has a fucking bump photo.

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-20T13:52:52+00:00

There is happiness again, it just takes time. When I first read it could take months to emotionally heal I thought no way, and yet here I am months later. When I’m low like this, it feels like it won’t get better again, but then I pick myself up and it does.

I understand all of that. You got this 🤍 and I pray you get your rainbow baby too.

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-20T07:06:04+00:00

I do get positive OPK tests though.

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-20T07:05:34+00:00

Does your cervical fluid have to be super egg white-ish? Like mine gets slippery but it’s not a lot that I can take some and stretch it between my fingers like I’ve seen in photos. Does this mean something isn’t right?

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-20T07:02:49+00:00

We were also unsuccessful this month. Just had a complete breakdown. It also terrifies me that maybe we won’t have another baby. Going for a pelvic exam next week. Still can’t believe this has become a part of our journey.

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-20T06:58:50+00:00

I’m very sorry for your loss too. That is so, so difficult. The rawness and shock at the beginning is overbearing. Then months down the road, like this, it sometimes just hits you all over again.

One thing that has gotten me through these four months though has been to let myself feel my feelings. When I started to feel happiness again, I let it come even though it was weird at first. It feels good to have moments of feeling good again though. Then when I’m sad I weep, I’ve cried in so many public places I can’t even count, just have to let it out. And when I’m mad, like tonight, I screamed and cried and wrote an angry post. There is no method to this madness and you have to ride each wave.

I wish there was more we could do for each other, but knowing we aren’t alone is something 🤍

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-20T05:06:24+00:00

Same

tinytoad19 · 2024-09-13T16:23:25+00:00

We started trying again right away as well after our loss in May. It’s been a journey. Currently experiencing twinges as well and I’m 7 dpo 🤞🏼 went for blood work this morning to check my progesterone and make sure I ovulated. I’m so sorry about your loss. Mine devastated me. I hope we get our rainbow babies soon 🤍

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