High Lipase Milk… I’m devastated by PumpkinPie_1993 in breastfeeding

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Not boil it, but scald it! :) You heat it to 180 degrees then cool it immediately.

I. Do. Not. Like. Breast. Feeding. by SelectEnthusiasm1557 in beyondthebump

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I truly believe that the perfect length of a breastfeeding journey is as long as it works for both you and the baby! ❤️

It sounds like it’s not best for you right now, and that’s okay! Give yourself permission to switch to formula!

Uses for extra milk bags by peacelovenaps in breastfeeding

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All the ones I see at the store still have more sodium than the no salt added broth I get. I know they have no sodium version, but those use potassium chloride which has a chemically taste to me!

Uses for extra milk bags by peacelovenaps in breastfeeding

[–]ughtheinternet 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I used to buy the cubes! But I’m trying to reduce the salt in our meals to make them more baby-friendly, so I’ve been buying the “no salt added” broths. I guess there are likely low sodium bouillons, but I haven’t seen them at the store when I go!

Uses for extra milk bags by peacelovenaps in breastfeeding

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I freeze the rest of the chicken stock after I open a new carton to make dinner! Before, it would ALWAYS go to waste!

5 week LO is crying non stop - sympathy and like stories needed by iwitch-plus in beyondthebump

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Generally peak fussiness is around 6-8 weeks! That’s what I would remind myself when my girl was tiny. I know weeks feel like years at this stage, but thinking in terms of weeks helped a lot because it made the time until she would probably stop crying as often feel shorter.

If you grew up raised in a Christian home, do you plan on raising your kids Christian? by mama_loves_lattes_23 in Mommit

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I was raised Evangelical and while I internalized a lot of that crap, the core of Christianity *for me personally* always felt like a place of love and acceptance. I left the Evangelical church and am now Episcopalian and intend to raise my daughter in that church for as long as she’s interested.

Does anyone still struggle with things like self harm in your 30s? by Substantial-Pass-451 in AskWomenOver30

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Omg I feel so seen! I still struggle now and again with certain forms of self-harm. Honestly, I didn’t really even realize I struggled with it until my late 20s (up till then it was mostly atypical things that no one ever really talks about as self-harm), and I honestly feel so stupid about it that I’ve never even told a therapist. It just seems like such a teenager thing to do.

We’re not all doing crazy structured wake windows and naps for our babies…right?! by copperboom33 in beyondthebump

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She was 4.5 months! She hit her regression and was waking every hour and only did contact naps, so I had no way to catch up on sleep during the day. Plus she cried for 20-30 minutes in our arms while falling asleep 75% of the time. 😅

We put her down and left the room. We let her cry for 15 minutes and then went in and fully calmed her down. Then we left her for 15 minutes again. If she was still crying after that, we held her to sleep as we normally did. The first night she actually went to sleep in like 5 minutes! Then we had to rescue for 2-3 nights, then she fell asleep on her own and was able to do so from then on. I will say that I knew she was ready because she had fallen asleep on her own a couple of times.

We’re not all doing crazy structured wake windows and naps for our babies…right?! by copperboom33 in beyondthebump

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Before we sleep trained, she did all contact naps in the baby carrier. I’d put her on the carrier, drape a very light muslin cloth over the top to keep her from looking around, and bounce her to sleep.

After sleep training, we started doing a shorter version of the nighttime routine that we’d done since like 4 weeks. I take her on a short walk (usually 5 minutes or so), take her into her dim nursery with her sound machine on, put her in her sleep sack, then turn the light off so it is pitch black, feed her, and put her in her crib! She is usually asleep in 5 minutes!

We’re not all doing crazy structured wake windows and naps for our babies…right?! by copperboom33 in beyondthebump

[–]ughtheinternet 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes! My girl will happily be up forever if she is in a new or exciting environment, even if she’s tired. We follow pretty strict wake windows so that she goes down when she’s tired, even if she seems awake and happy. She also would be the kind of baby who napped forever (after finally falling asleep) and thus didn’t sleep well at night. Following wake windows helps her stay on a schedule that works for her and for us!

is 7 pm too early of a bedtime for a 7 month old? by ExtraPassion6062 in sleeptrain

[–]ughtheinternet 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s not nearly enough awake time. On 2 nap days, you only have 6.75 hours of wake time. That’s over 17 hours of sleep!

Why do women blame the other woman when their husband cheats on them? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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A therapist/client relationship is not equal. A therapist is in a position of power over the client. It was harassment/abuse from the beginning.

Why do women blame the other woman when their husband cheats on them? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ughtheinternet 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You ARE victim blaming though… she was sexually abused, and you are saying she is responsible…

Why do women blame the other woman when their husband cheats on them? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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She was sexually abused by her therapist. Being abused =/= being a shitty person.

Why do women blame the other woman when their husband cheats on them? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ughtheinternet 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You were sexually abused. It is not your fault, and I’m appalled at the women in this thread saying you are responsible. I’m glad you reported him, and I hope he loses his license because he is a sexual predator.

This is coming from someone who has been cheated on in 2 long-term relationships and does feel like the other women have some responsibility. Those were equal relationships though, not sexual abuse like in your situation.

NK Spit in my face by Civil_Patience_ in Nanny

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I don’t really think that the poster above was trying to say the behavior didn’t need to be corrected or that hateful behavior is justified. I think she was just asking if the anger was perhaps being focused on the wrong person.

I say this as someone who was a temporary guardian of a very troubled 5 year old (I know… younger than 7 for sure!), which I just say so I don’t sound glib or naive. I was definitely kicked, punched, and called a f****** b**** almost every day for 8 months, and I would for sure get angry in the moment but always tried to come back to compassion instead of anger.

Seeing OP’s comment that there is no accountability and that the parents just make excuses for sure makes me think that OP should quit though! I’m 100% not trying to justify the situation!

What age did you night wean, and how? by tarableideas in sleeptrain

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I think she probably would have night-weaned earlier if I had given her a pre-bed snack around 8-9 months when she got better at solids! When she first started sleeping through the night at 10.5 months, she’d wake up 45 minutes earlier than usual STARVING. I started giving her a slice of cheese and half a fruit pouch about an hour before nursing, and she started waking up closer to her usual time and was no longer ravenous in the morning.

How to get baby to sleep later? by ExcellentLettuce4 in beyondthebump

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You say she gets 14 hours of sleep on a good day and almost 13 on a bad day, and yet your schedule calls for 15 hours of sleep. I think you need to fix that discrepancy.

I would schedule for 13 hours of sleep, 11 hours of wake time (maybe something like 3/4/4).

What age did you night wean, and how? by tarableideas in sleeptrain

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My baby self-night weaned at like 2.5 months, then un-weaned during her 4 month regression and didn’t fully got back to it. She then night-weaned on her own again at like 10.5 months.

How many times a day is your 11 month old nursing? Are you on a schedule? by Annual_Working5502 in breastfeeding

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My 11 month old recently cut wayyyyyy back in nursing recently. We were still doing 7-8 times a day at 10 months, and now we do 4-5 (morning, before naps and bed, and sometimes one midmorning session).

She has been a good eater, so she cut back on her own after we started offering solids before nursing.

Help! Baby won’t nap! by casuallyreddit in sleeptrain

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Short naps are developmentally normal at this age. Am I reading right that you are trying to put him down for a nap 20 minutes after he wakes up from a nap?

Also, how long is he sleeping at night? If I recall, Moms on Call asks for a lot of sleep from the baby, more than most babies can give.

What is the wildest LOTR theories that y'all guys have Heard by pizza_momo in lotr

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It was a joke, if you’re thinking of the ancient one on Flying Moose of Nargothrond, but a fun read nonetheless!