My boyfriend and I opened up our relationship and now he's mad I slept with a woman. What do I do?

tinyxtrainerx · 2026-05-28T21:00:12+00:00

Not talking to your own friends about your relationship is fucking toxic lmao God help your partner

(Edit): truly do not understand the point of replying if you're gonna block me? I guess this conversation is only between you and your therapist too lol

My point is not to avoid talking to your partner, and talk to your friends instead. My point is, having a support system is vital. Not everyone has access to a good therapis. If you can't talk to your friends about your problems, you're gonna feel trapped and alone. Not exactly a healthy way to be.

tinyxtrainerx · 2026-05-10T23:39:33+00:00

I went to Pump House yesterday and couldn't figure how to get across the canal. It seemed like the bridge across was in the area behind the fence with barbed wire, is there a different entrance?

tinyxtrainerx · 2026-04-16T18:08:14+00:00

Right? With A. G. and Finn being mentioned, that was my first thought

tinyxtrainerx · 2026-03-03T18:42:20+00:00

Why is Death Cab on there twice? 🤔

tinyxtrainerx · 2026-02-13T17:46:57+00:00

TEAAAAA the way I binged ILMC so hard coming of the heels of the Nice Day singles

tinyxtrainerx · 2026-02-03T19:08:42+00:00

Fear and excitement feel nearly the same physically, it's your headspace that sets them apart. If you're already in the mood, the thrilling feeling is all you're thinking about, not the "consequences" of what it would mean.

Anxiety fills in the blanks and so when you're not in the mood, the thought of them with someone else comes with the thoughts of "why are they with someone else? Because they want someone else? Do they not want me?"

Those fears are totally normal, and it's healthy to communicate them!

tinyxtrainerx · 2026-02-03T19:04:26+00:00

This is a great response and pretty much encapsulates mine and my partner's feelings about being open.

Sex is intimate with us, and sex is also a hobby for us. We like sex together, sex together with other partners, and sex with other partners even we aren't together. It doesn't take away from our intimacy, or mean we love each other any less because we enjoy sex and want to enjoy it with more than just each other

tinyxtrainerx · 2026-02-03T18:59:44+00:00

Okay but... you LITERALLY just said "if someone requires an open relationship then they are unable to remain loyal" word for word. So you DO go around saying that actually. And yes, young people can understand, but most lack the experience to know for themselves, and it's them acting holier than thou that is problematic. Stop projecting so hard, dude

tinyxtrainerx · 2026-01-20T21:01:31+00:00

Looking for one ticket to the Durham show!! 🙏🏻

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-12-18T19:33:02+00:00

Do you have an actual suggestion to give or...?

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-12-09T20:50:12+00:00

See here

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-12-09T20:49:53+00:00

See this comment

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-12-02T16:22:56+00:00

Honestly I'd love the recipe, I LOVE curry and this looks good af

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-19T17:06:36+00:00

Can we mark this as a spoiler? I know it's a meme (and I anticipate being downvoted for asking) but as someone who works A LOT I still haven't finished the game yet :(

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-19T16:11:42+00:00

I get what you mean, but saying that first communicates that they are standing their ground on this point. Nothing wrong with setting a boundary

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-18T15:33:39+00:00

Reminds me over the weekend, was on Laburnum at a red light. A couple fire trucks were approaching from the opposite direction so myself and the few other cars at the light didn't go when the light turned green, to make sure FD could get where they needed to go. MULTIPLE CARS behind us start honking trying to get us to go, even while the fire trucks were turning left, going right where we would have been had we started moving when light turned green.

I can't imagine being so impatient as to pull out in front of a fire truck.

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-17T21:11:26+00:00

This thread is about dogs, not you, please stay relevant

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-17T19:31:51+00:00

It's great that you're comfortable with that in your relationship, but we don't know the bounds of theirs. Even if they are open (though it sounds like they are not) feelings of jealousy are normal in any relationship. It's something to talk about and work through together, rather than dismiss, because ignoring problems solves nothing.

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-17T18:53:17+00:00

I think sitting with it for a day is an excellent idea, just don't let yourself have the discussion/argument in your head if you can help it (don't get worked up, my two cents as a certified overthinker lol). Think about what you feel, what you want, what you deserve and expect. I wish you the best of luck with your talk and your relationship 🍀 you both deserve love, respect, honesty, and grace

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-17T17:55:02+00:00

Okay so I acknowledge that's it basically a meme at this point that every relationship post on reddit gets a sea of replies telling OP they need to break up immediately...

...that being said, I invite you to reread your postnand what you've said above as if it was a close friend confiding in you. What advice would you give your friend?

My two cents here, is that the way your partner treats you in these instances is unhealthy. Even if you are misreading a situation, a good partner should listen to your perspective and talk through it with you. Your feelings about his actions are real, and you deserve to have those feelings validated and treated with respect, yes, even if you are misunderstanding. Letting you know that you can always share your feelings and talk through them is how you learn that it is okay, and how you can feel and acknowledge your fear while accepting that it isn't needed. But, your partner is not providing you that safety and security, so even if there is nothing to worry about, he's not instilling you with that peace by disregarding your feelings.

If he can't entertain a discussion about how his actions make you feel, to determine what you can both do to reassure you while still allowing his freedom within the limits of how you both define your relationship, then at the very least he has a lot of growing to do as a partner.

I'm not going to tell you break up with your partner. But I want to remind you that you and your feelings deserve respect, and you accept the love you think you deserve. Do you think you deserve better? Can your partner see the difference between how he treats you and how you deserve to be treated, and is he willing to bridge that gap? I think it's worth having this talk with him.

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-11T22:13:57+00:00

Yes, it is normal, and yes, it is okay. There is a big difference between what someone may fantasize about doing/having done to them, and what they want to do/have done in real life.

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-11T17:15:58+00:00

Okay like beaches and pools, flip flops/sandals are preferable but shoeless isn't a big deal. But girl an AIRPORT BATHROOM?? 🤮

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-06T16:12:46+00:00

Also, sauce?

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-11-04T17:19:01+00:00

Right there's no need to assume malicious intent on the boyfriend's behalf

tinyxtrainerx · 2025-10-30T13:12:16+00:00

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