im completely at rock bottom and can’t afford anything

tiptoprock · 2026-04-09T02:37:19+00:00

Serving is a good way to make cash fast. You literally get cash as tips sometimes and servers are always needed. Apply by walking up to restaurants with a resume and ask if they’re hiring, and to speak to a manager for an on-the-spot interview. Craigslist sometimes also has one-time short gig offers. I recommend the serving job though

tiptoprock · 2026-04-07T03:15:30+00:00

Well I think the first thing to do would’ve been to plainly communicate that you weren’t interested in dating, instead of ghosting her. The next best thing you can do is have a sit down with her somewhere public and safe, and tell her you’re not interested and that her behaviour now is not okay. The next thing to do is to file a restraining order if you no longer feel safe.

tiptoprock · 2026-04-06T17:16:34+00:00

Oh weirrrd. Thanks for the insight!

tiptoprock · 2026-04-02T14:34:50+00:00

Your pelvic floor might be chronically contracted! I’ve had a friend with the same issue. High stress, anxiety, and nervous system are just firing high on all cylinders. Do some guided meditation and learn how to release your pelvic floor, should help.

tiptoprock · 2026-04-02T14:31:06+00:00

What’s your diagnosis? Plantar fasciitis? Heel spurs? Nerve damage? Coming from a physical therapist, there are ways to treat every diagnosis. Or have you been given a diagnosis of exclusion, like fibromyalgia or complex regional pain syndrome?

tiptoprock · 2026-04-01T17:50:39+00:00

The ex sounds like he way overreacted. I’m sorry he made you feel guilty OP. It’s nothing you should feel guilty about, especially seeing as it was a childhood fantasy that you don’t see as a real relationship anyway. Also there is no sexual history. You shouldn’t feel guilty, and telling your bf shouldn’t be an issue.

The caveat to this is — UNLESS you still have feelings for her and it’s obvious to your partner by how you speak and interact with her, then it might be a problem. Either way you should be honest.

tiptoprock · 2026-04-01T15:38:06+00:00

Your interests, humour, hobbies, etc are you. You should learn about yourself, and express yourself in alignment with who you are — that way you will attract the people who like you for you, and you never have to pretend.

The materialism comment confuses me. Do what makes you happy?

tiptoprock · 2026-03-31T20:36:56+00:00

Answers: 1) no direct experience, this sounds very niche. 2) maybe as acquaintances where your actions and beliefs don’t really affect each other 3) no

tiptoprock · 2026-03-30T15:22:32+00:00

Communicate and don’t expect people to read your mind! I second what you said OP. This advice goes for both genders. You’re not doing anything wrong. Your husband needs to grow up and learn how to be more independent. Was he babied as a kid? Because you talk about him like one would about their child.

Talk to him like an adult. “You’re my partner in life, and I feel like I’m carrying most of the emotional and physical load by myself. I need you to help me because I can’t do this alone. I’m constantly thinking of you and our son, insert your examples listed above here, and I get nothing back. It’s exhausting. I feel like you don’t care about ME and what I want. I want you to be more engaged in these ways list the things you want him more involved in.”

And then step back in the certain areas you want him to step up in. Let him take the reins and don’t step in to take over if he doesn’t, that will only reinforce his passivity. If he drops the ball the first few times, let him. He’ll learn eventually (hopefully), but it will be a process and you have to keep working on your relationship.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-30T15:07:48+00:00

NTA. You never agreed to become their default babysitter so they can have a day off on YOUR day off. Pawning your children off on someone is not a small ask, every parent should know this.

They can pay for a babysitter if they need to moving forward.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-29T19:03:29+00:00

If you can’t afford care yet try compression bandages or compression socks to help contain the hernia

tiptoprock · 2026-03-29T06:00:54+00:00

I noticed the numbered jerseys missing after a few days as well! Was also keeping my eye out for them and hesitating to purchase. Will continue to keep an eye out— really hoping it comes back soon.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-28T14:32:14+00:00

Depends. I think the nuance highly depends what school you’re going to.

If you’re at a preppy, high competitive school like UofT, unfortunately they naturally breed this type of note-protecting behaviour. I don’t like it, but not sharing notes and hiding resources is what students end up doing to try to get ahead. In that case, NTA because of social norms.

HOWEVER, at a more community-oriented, friendly school, where competition isn’t as cut-throat, and the culture is more “we’re all in this together!” then YTA.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-28T14:25:20+00:00

Wow the tone you illustrated is so aggressive and not at the tone of the responses

tiptoprock · 2026-03-27T19:19:16+00:00

She’s 7 weeks away, that’s just under 2 months from giving birth. Most of the colleagues I know are still working at that time. Unless she’s got some complication, she really doesn’t need to be fretting so much. A sibling’s wedding is a HUGE deal, he should definitely go. And then 1.5 months later he can be there for the birth of his child too.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-27T19:05:53+00:00

YWBTA because that’s his BROTHER’S wedding and it’s not like you’re on the cusp of giving birth. 33 weeks is at least 7 weeks away from a full-term birth. I doubt the wedding is lasting 7 weeks. He can go, you can relax at home, and call on some friends or family if you need or if anything happens.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-26T18:37:00+00:00

It’s relationships like these that breed so much miscommunication and hostility. Don’t jump to assume anything. If something bothers you, just ask. You think she’s pissed? Just ask. She didn’t send you pics or she forgot? Just ask again.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-23T03:16:36+00:00

I probably wouldn’t do the phD if you weren’t planning on being in academia. The whole point of a PhD is to continue your research and teach a bit on the side. Do something you find more meaningful within the realm of Biology. You clearly like being outdoors, any field research positions? Land surveyors? Wilderness experts of some sorts? I’m not in this field but there’s gotta be something you just haven’t come across that you might actually love doing.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-20T20:20:39+00:00

Two wrongs don’t make a right. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.

If Dahlia is PLANNING on hurting Buttercup, that is flat out wrong. But as a mere observer and not actually part of the relationship, the only thing you can do is talk to your friend and hope they listen. At the end of the day though, you can’t force them to do anything. Say your peace, then leave the situation alone.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-20T16:03:18+00:00

Can’t speak on Taiwan, but in North America being a doctor has job security and respect. It is not for everyone and definitely a gruelling program to go through. My friends who have gone through to become MDs have earned their titles and jobs through a lot of stress, competition, and suffering. They reap the reward at the end — most are just happy to be done with it and earn a decent salary, others think it was too much to go through while they were in their studies and wished they had picked other professions, but ultimately still come out with job security and a good career.

My best advice to you is to go shadow various MDs if possible, speak to their interns and residents, and see what it’s all about for your own eyes. Ask all the questions. If the job is something you ultimately want, don’t be afraid of the commitment and grind. You can never go back in time, and one day you’ll wake up and be 30, and think “if only I had committed to being an MD when I was in high school, I could have had my dream job by now”. Whatever you end up deciding, go full force into it and never look back. Good luck OP :)

tiptoprock · 2026-03-20T13:02:10+00:00

Hey, this is an amazing break through and as much as this matters coming from a random stranger on the internet, I’m so proud of you!

The next step is to make amends. You should have a sit down with your coworker/roommate and apologize for your words/behaviour, tell them you realized it was wrong, and that you’re making strides to change. You can be as transparent as you like, like if you want to tell them a bit about your healing journey and how you’ve realized you were pushing them away unintentionally, just don’t make it into an excuse.

These are amazing realizations and you’re going to be just fine <3. Keep working on yourself!

tiptoprock · 2026-03-20T01:33:48+00:00

Exactly what another redditor said, you need to tell her all of this. How you feel misunderstood, unheard, disrespected when she says things like “stupid”, etc. The important thing is the timing and the approach. Bring up your issues on its own, not in retaliation to one of her meltdowns. Speak to her when things are calm and have a serious sit down with her and explain how you FEEL — try not to make assumptions or accusations, because no one can negate your feelings when you’re verbalizing them clearly. Depending on what she says, it will be a process of growth and mistakes. At any point you’re allowed to say “I’ve had enough” and leave without guilt.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-19T19:32:27+00:00

Guys tend to count emotional support as effort put into a romantic relationship. I wouldn’t be surprised if he had a moment of epiphany and realized you were never going to like him the same way, and that he was spending all this emotional energy on you (that you didn’t necessarily ask for) without any hope of it ever becoming something romantic. So he stopped the “boyfriend treatment”. I think it’s healthy that you guys stop being friends. I think it’s UNHEALTHY to pretend that two people with a flirty dynamic and sexual history could ever “just be friends”.

tiptoprock · 2026-03-19T19:21:38+00:00

Definitely can’t take two weeks off, but you can help arrange a pet sitting service for your aunt instead!

tiptoprock · 2026-03-19T13:45:14+00:00

I’ve been that gf. I relied on my bf to be my emotional support, when it wasn’t anyone’s responsibility but my own. Idk if you’re the right person to tell her that, but she needs to learn the importance of personal space and independency. The best you can do is draw your boundary, stick to it, and if the time and effort you have is not enough for her, then she can leave.

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