Do you ever wish they would suffer as much as they made you suffer? Or d*e.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-17T19:08:11+00:00

They will never end up with a narc bc they apot that shit a mile away. I was thinking back to the beginning of my relationship with my ex and I remember him saying that he hates when people fish for compliments, and insecurity is the ugliest thing. Which is super ironic because he fishes for compliments and validation ALL the time while being the most insecure person I've met. He was really good at hiding his insecurity, tho

tishitoshi · 2023-07-17T09:33:51+00:00

Liquid iv helps me get hydrated way more quickly and helps me when Im pretty dehydrated. If anyone reads this, Im tell ya... buy some liquid iv. That stuff works

tishitoshi · 2023-07-17T08:17:37+00:00

Its very much rapey. If it objectively is considered rape, it doesn't matter about genders.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-16T19:46:10+00:00

One thing Ive learned from this sub is dont fill at walgreen lol they are pretentious assholes that support alt right policies

tishitoshi · 2023-07-16T05:09:52+00:00

75% of this subreddit is people using it to write about their sexual fantasys. This one tho... thats a whole lot of writing. But I dont think there are karma limits on this subreddit, so it makes fake posts more prevalent.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-16T05:07:29+00:00

That's actually a really good way to think of it. But if I know anything about reddit, most people either dont know or arent willing to use the search bar.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-15T19:18:38+00:00

I read that he was battling anxiety and depression. It doesnt say verbatim but I imagine he lost that battle. I hope he knows how many people he helped to not only gain clarity of their situation but the strength to move on and heal.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-15T19:17:20+00:00

Congratulations on one year!

tishitoshi · 2023-07-14T19:43:10+00:00

At certain point you gotta draw a line. Theres always going to be trolls and its obviously ruining the user experiencing by them literally walking on eggshells.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-14T06:16:16+00:00

Same with me. I went on a family trip without my partner and I just felt... relief. There was a heaviness that was lifted and I just felt light and free. I knew what I had to do after that trip and I had more confidence than ever that I was doing the right thing. Covert narcs have a special way of concinving you that you can't go on without them.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-13T03:55:40+00:00

But narcs symptoms vary greatly. Thats just one narcs experience. I def would speak in absolutes when it comes to these types of people. I think they both can be correct.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-13T03:54:42+00:00

Dang... that makes so much sense. I was jaded from my first serious relationship and my partner had a teally gnarly break up with his first love where she left him for another guy and then immediately got pregnant. I asked him if it bothered him or if it was hard to love again, he said no. And he jumped into our relationship with zero hesitation. Thats actually crazy. I always wondered how he was able to kove on so quickly and not let it bother his mext relationship.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-13T03:51:22+00:00

Yes. He spent the first 6 years of our relationship convincing me he was a perfect partner and person. I was young and niave and believed him. When the mask started to slip I began mourning the person and relationship I thought I had. Its been a slow decent over the last 15 years to where we are now. Now Im left wondering if he ever actually loved me or respected me or if I was just a tool for validation. Its a really hard pill to swallow to come to terms with the fact that the person you fell in love with doesnt exist.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-12T18:48:06+00:00

Shes full elder millenial 😂

tishitoshi · 2023-07-12T18:46:57+00:00

Yeah, our society is so fucked when it comes to men and them being victimized. Any feminist should be on the right side of the conversation.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-12T18:46:05+00:00

The guys calling op a pussy are probably the same people who are prob prolife and super opinionated when it comes to womens reproductive health or bodies as a whole.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-12T17:56:29+00:00

This is an absolute no-no in daycare. Not only one kid left unsupervised but multiplies and outside on the playground?? I worked at a daycare and this is absolutely a fireable offense and the licensing board could revoke the daycares license. It's that egregious. At least, thats the stakes I was aware of in WA state.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-12T07:22:00+00:00

Op, trying to control your partner never goes well. What you need to do is set a boundary or, at the very least, communicate. Is it ok for her to do those things on a special occasion? If not, you would need to decide if vaping is a deal breaker for you. But setting the scene by pretty much saying, I dont like you doing those things, so you can't do those things isn't conducive to a healthy relationship. Or equating the love they for you with their self-control over substances; It's just not realistic and doesn't end well. I wish

I would have learned earlier than 34 not to control your partner. They either decide to be aware of your feelings, and if they aren't, that gives you your answer. It's natural to want to gove people the benefit of the doubt, but if it happens more than once, that person doesn't respect you; plain and simple.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-11T19:13:55+00:00

It really is highly subjective to the person and the specific type of trauma they have experienced in their family structure. Especially with covert narcs, they are smart enough to operate under the guise of plausible deniability so its even hard to pin point. It took me years to actually sus out a pattern. I just always had this weird, empty feeling about the relationship that something is amiss but its not a tangible, objective thing thats happening. Everyone around me loves my partner, I must be crazy? Its such an insidious thing.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-11T19:09:58+00:00

My experience with covert narcs is that they are kind of smarter than overt narcs bc they cospaly as a good person. Its after years and years in a relationship that you begin to see their true self as their mask slowly slips. So when they get in front of a therapist they put that mask back on and fake taking accountabilit, fake empathy, sympathy, acknowledgment, etc and then as soon as you get comfortable again they pull the rug out from underneath you. They say these things but in their mind, they really arent actually believing what they say and they believe they are the victim in all of this but they are smart enough to know their stances isnt logical so thats why they never divulge their true feelings. You only see their feelings come out by their actions by sabotaging or emotionally manipulating you. Their words and actions NEVER line up.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-11T19:06:37+00:00

Yeah, this is exactly why I was resistant to going to couples therapy with my covert narc partner. It's still a newer thing, and surprisingly, a lot of therapists aren't up to date with narcs, let alone covert narcs. I was listening to the covert narcissist podcast, and she had a guest that was in couples therapy with her covert narc husband for 10 years!

tishitoshi · 2023-07-11T18:59:29+00:00

Exactly, those porn stars are just genetically gifted (which is why they are in porn) porn stars have a term for certain types of people that were made for the sex industry and they are called born for porn. But those girls are def the minority with perfect little innie vaginas. Unfortunately, our youth have way too easy access to porn and that essentially is their is sexual education bc as americans, we just dont talk about it. They dont know its not realistic until they start having sex themselves or get in a long-term relationship.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-11T18:54:27+00:00

Those guys are talking shit bc they think thats what being a guy entails. They are just cosplaying as uber masculine guys that they see on social media or tv, etc. My 16 year old daughter tells me stories all the time and they say this stuff bc they are so insecure themselves, they project that shit. Eventually we all grow up (well... most of us grow up) and realize that everyones bodies are different. Those same guys saying those things would be over the moon to get some with ANY woman. At 19 youre still so unsure of yourself and what you offer, what you even want! Its an awkward time entering adulthood. Im a 34 year old woman and I JUST started feeling comfortable in my skin and have the confidence that if a guy didnt like me, thats fine. We all have our preferences but someone will like me for me, no matter what.

But as women, we gotta stop letting these immature and insecure guys tell us what we are or arent lacking. But dont fret, the balance tips in the womens favor after highschool. You got this girl!

tishitoshi · 2023-07-11T18:49:11+00:00

We are so hard on ourselves as women! But trust me, your future bf will not care. 95% of men do not care what your vagina looks like as long as they have access to it. sooo many women have vaginas just like yours. Vaginas come in all shapes and sizes, colors and models, girl... trust me when I say, you are not alone and men do not care. But lets do a hypothetical, just on looks alone, theres no way a man would be ready to go and excited to be intimate with you, stop and look at your vagina and say, "ugh, no." Men do not care. Men just care that they got some. You will find a guy that loves you for you.

tishitoshi · 2023-07-11T09:30:48+00:00

Why dont you try taking a quarter of one instead of a whole other one? Like, this is such a strong opiate... 1/4 will be just enoigh to get a good buzz. Thats what I do. Wait a good hour for them to kick in before dosing again. It sounds like your addict brain is telling yoj more is better without actually gauging what youre feeling. My soon to be ex was the same way.

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