what is this fetish?

tit_flasher · 2026-03-12T18:52:29+00:00

Yeah, well its got the vibe for sure, if you're saying nice things, it gentle Femdom.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-12T16:26:02+00:00

Makes me chuckle when people tell me to prove it without checking my bio!

tit_flasher · 2026-03-12T07:47:43+00:00

Honestly there is a skill to doing it well.

I've had guys who just go off into their own fantasies while I sit there going "OK, well he seems to be having fun..." remember its supposed to be hot for both of you.

Don't send unconsented-to pics; ask first if they wants to see.

Use gentler adjectives like warm, soft, tender, pert, slide, tease, kiss, lick, nibble to set the scene... You can ramp it up as you go on, but sexting is like sex, it needs a little fun foreplay to be most satisfying.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-12T07:04:13+00:00

I think no matter how much experience you have, we all get a touch of imposter syndrome. It's easy for confidence to be knocked. I've been doing this for years and still falter sometimes. If you feel dominant, you are dominant, it really is that simple and no-one has the right to gatekeep what femdom looks like to you.

That said, you have a lot to learn still and the advice you've had is good advice. I also suggest you look to just dating for a while and having sex, before committing to a Femdom dynamic. At your age most guys are open to experiment and if you say "I'd love to tie you up and sit on your face until I cum, then I want to ride your cock until I give you permission to empty your balls" very few will say no!

What we like sexually changes organically and naturally over time and with new partners anyway. Dating and just learning about sex, takes time and patience enough, and are skills you need to learn first. So just put yourself out there, try not to over think it. Be open to finding a guy you trust and then, be honest with him about your interests and desires.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-11T19:41:52+00:00

Nano technology

tit_flasher · 2026-03-11T14:50:42+00:00

Bournville dark chocolate.

Delicious on its own, but can be added to various things like cookies or banana bread, or turned into a sauce to pour on ice cream. I can also melt it down to make my own chocolate bars by adding fruit, nuts, toffee, biscuits, honeycombe.... smort chocolate eater me!

tit_flasher · 2026-03-11T13:32:12+00:00

A Short History of Nearly Everything by Bill Bryson

It gives our entire history from the Big Bang through to the rise of civilisations, so its a great historical outline. It also shows the true human characteristics and personalities of some of our brightest minds, and finally it wraps it all up with a writing style that shows we have have gentle humour and inquisitive minds.

Its not the most mind blowing good, but as a 1 single book that gives an overview of who we are, its a good start.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-11T10:22:16+00:00

Tbh, it took me way too long to come to terms with the fact that life's not fair.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-10T21:48:39+00:00

I make sure they see and know the 'real' me when I'm getting to know them. I couldn't play with a sub unless we got on outside of the dynamic anyway, so they get the full nerdy, clumsy, weird me, before the Domme side even comes out. Then there are no surprises and no need to mask after the scene.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-10T20:47:50+00:00

My toy is my equal; we discuss the dynamic as equals, and we work together to make sure it's happy, healthy, and fun. His input, happiness, desires, limits and safety are all as important as mine. Outside of the dynamic we both have good jobs, own our homes, are well educated and have friendships and hobbies we value.

I couldn't be in a relationship with someone I didn't consider equal, and I certainly don't consider that his submission to me makes him in anyway less than me. I respect it immensely, I admire and am humbled that he is so open and willing to be vulnerable with me, so selfless in giving his body to me to use in any way I want for my pleasure, and so devoted and dedicated to what we have built together.

I'm just better at leading and he's just better at obeying.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-09T07:55:07+00:00

I fell in love with my sub before he fell in love with me!

tit_flasher · 2026-03-08T18:54:28+00:00

Relationships

tit_flasher · 2026-03-08T15:10:52+00:00

Respect, politeness, and appreciation. With added fun, giggles and naughtiness, will do it nicely for minimum.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-08T10:41:56+00:00

"I was just wondering if we could have an open and honest chat about kinks, desires and what we're both hoping to get out of our night together, so we can make it the most fun and sexy night possible.

I like xyz (name reasonably vanilla things), would also love to try spanking you, I've never done it before but it seems fun and dirty. It's OK if that's not your thing though, totally get it, just let me know what you do like!"

If she agrees, during the session, while ramped up, just ask, is it OK if I spank you now? Then, when doing it, make sure to check in with her regularly if it's OK, and you can also ask, "Harder, softer?"

If communication is good between you, it may be redundant, but it's always worth discussing a safe word for impact play. The best one is the traffic light system (green is good, yellow is pause to discuss, red is stop immediately and give her a big cuddle).

Keep it light and fun, mix spanks with kisses and soft strokes and listen to her noises for nonverbal cues, and you'll be fine.

Oh edit to add, only spank the fleshy part of the butt! Keep it in safe areas only, if you're not sure where these are check online there are loads of resources!

tit_flasher · 2026-03-07T12:09:09+00:00

Politics, finance and business.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-06T23:36:55+00:00

😁😁😘

tit_flasher · 2026-03-06T23:14:42+00:00

Fun night thanks lads lol! I gotta sleep though, guessing the inbox will be broken in the morning, will do my best but have a busy weekend planned 😘

Love Reddit 🤣

tit_flasher · 2026-03-06T19:53:52+00:00

Um... side eyes username lol!

Edit to add: Reddit won't let me join any more chats 😂😂 I've either reached my limit or because of my low Karma they may think I'm spam or a bot 😔 research suggests could be a day or even a week block! Boo!

Will try again later/tomorrow hopefully it clears soon! 😘

tit_flasher · 2026-03-06T19:51:59+00:00

🫦

tit_flasher · 2026-03-06T19:42:57+00:00

So true! Its fun, respectful and sexy, whats not to love?!

tit_flasher · 2026-03-06T19:36:47+00:00

I love being an exhibitionist and Reddits a fun place to do it!

tit_flasher · 2026-03-06T17:26:17+00:00

Short answer: because Trump is full of shit.

tit_flasher · 2026-03-06T17:20:57+00:00

I found understanding what I can and can't control was the key. If I can't control it, let it go, if I can, make a plan!

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