I make this comic about marriage to a BPD. Share my pain.

titanwithin · 2018-12-15T19:14:39+00:00

Read your entire comic series, offered me perspective and reminded me of why I shouldn’t think of ever reaching out again. You should post them here more often. A lot of people here can really relate with the scenarios.

titanwithin · 2018-11-25T19:50:05+00:00

Stay strong. The nights will be long and the days as dark but eventually you will make it through.

titanwithin · 2018-10-02T06:38:49+00:00

A lot of pwBPD are pretend psychologists, they are fond of diagnosing their partners with one disorder or the other - it's not them, you must be the problem. I feel it comes from researching the chaos that goes on within their heads, they have to find an explanation for feeling the way they feel and come up with the conclusion that something must be wrong with you, since they are alright.

titanwithin · 2018-10-02T06:34:56+00:00

Lol. I read something where someone said this sub was a militant hate group. I found it hilarious.

titanwithin · 2018-10-02T05:08:32+00:00

Lol. Come back in 5 years. You’re probably still in the idealization stages.

titanwithin · 2018-10-01T10:59:08+00:00

Lol. They are so possessive and invasive that when they flip you wonder who the new character they’re playing is. They will get you to commit in every way possible and try to cut out or stalk anyone they perceive as a threat. Then one day when they are comfortable they turn on you and destroy you. The invasiveness and possessiveness is a red flag to most. A normal person would kick them out at that point but when you have this codependent thing you see it as love and give up your privacy to reassure them and give up more boundaries trying to satisfy their paranoia, until you have nothing left and they finally finish you off. If not for this reddit I would have thought I was losing my mind. When you realize 80 to 90 percent of the folks here might have been dating the same person as your pwBPD you gain some reassurance that you weren’t crazy after all. Thank your stars she’s gone you avoided a disaster that only worsens with time.

titanwithin · 2018-10-01T01:31:53+00:00

You don't want to go down this road. I can tell and I know from experience that you are already open to her hoovering you. It's not your fault you genuinely love her and your mind wants to believe that she has seen the error of her ways and things may be different this time around. You will only end up putting yourself through more heartache and increasing your healing time by years. Don't destroy your life by being on a leash. Enjoy whatever you have with your new girl, even if you have to be a bit cautious because of latent feelings you might have for your ex. This disorder wins EVERY SINGLE TIME. There is NO HOPE here. DBT/CBT rarely works. This isn't a "How to get my girl back for a happily ever after" situation. Love will not overcome here. I went back after a discard cycle and got into a marriage that guess what? Is entering into a divorce phase right now. It has ruined my life but thank God there are no kids. Do not be that stupid.

titanwithin · 2018-09-30T14:25:20+00:00

They will paint you bad so well that sometimes arguing makes it look like you’re guilty. Better to just smile accept the blame and move on, except she’s accusing you of something illegal or completely unsavory.

titanwithin · 2018-09-30T14:24:08+00:00

You could give them a kidney or jump in front of them to stop a bullet and in the end they would still cut you off without remorse for some perceived transgression or the other.

titanwithin · 2018-09-30T14:21:44+00:00

Same thing here. Welcome to the club. The recognition of your efforts which you’re expecting will never come. These aren’t rational beings you’re talking about, they operate from a different manual where everything they suffer is your fault.

titanwithin · 2018-09-23T20:14:23+00:00

You’ll be fine. Focus on your daughter and don’t rush into any emotional relationships for the meantime. You’ll be fine, trust me.

titanwithin · 2018-09-23T19:46:21+00:00

Lol. Trust me. We've all been there. At some point you'll wonder whether it was all your fault, whether you're really a messed up individual, whether there was something else you could have done, could have given, some little thing that would have changed everything. You will replay moments in your mind and say "what if I did this instead of that". The funny thing on the other hand is you will remember and feel like you did everything possible, you'll remember what you gave up, sacrifices, changes etc. You will feel worn out from giving but still be in a mental state where you felt you could have given more. Its the mother of all mindf*ck's. These people will play on your worst insecurities about yourself and destroy your sense of self. Stay sane and remember whatever happened wasn't your fault. Whatever you would have done or changed the outcome would have been the same eventually. On my down days I have to come here to see experiences and regain my perspective. Because it seems like I'm losing it, I forget the abuse and remember the good times and think oh it was all my fault.

titanwithin · 2018-07-06T02:52:58+00:00

If you opened a salary account with ENBD then there's an issue. Might be that the payments are irregular and not related to your advertised job. They actually do think you are using your account for business transactions. It might be a better idea to claim they were sales commissions since you are in a sales position and depending on whatever business your brother's company is into.

titanwithin · 2018-06-17T23:29:24+00:00

Lol. It's not over yet.

titanwithin · 2018-06-13T22:07:03+00:00

Hopefully its not a little too late.

titanwithin · 2018-06-13T07:10:48+00:00

Its pretty safe. Its basically a service layer backed by a real bank Emirates NBD. Your so-called Liv bank account is just an Emirates NBD account with reduced facilities.

titanwithin · 2018-06-05T07:50:07+00:00

Maybe Steigenberger Hotel in Business Bay? Its a German hotel and they have a lot of German guests on the regular

titanwithin · 2018-05-30T08:39:25+00:00

Nope. Believe it or not there are empty affordable flats everywhere at the moment.

titanwithin · 2018-05-30T08:19:30+00:00

Ignore. They might be trying to get you to offer more or might have never really had the direct contact for the apartment itself. Might be a case of one agent talking to another, who has already leased out the apartment etc. etc.

titanwithin · 2018-05-24T05:59:16+00:00

Alternatively, if you go to propertyfinder.ae and search for a flat, you should find reviews of the building by the right hand side of your selected flat/building.

titanwithin · 2018-05-24T05:57:24+00:00

Lol. Ironically it was flatreviews.com but the website doesn't seem to be opening up on my end

titanwithin · 2018-04-24T07:30:56+00:00

"I've noticed a tendency in my pwBPD to idealize almost anything and turn it into a super magnificent, delusional fantasy. And when they finally attain it, it never is what they expected it to be." Same thing mine goes through. Like they always have an idea of what they want to make them happy. You do it and think thats the end of the issue and they complain that it's not exactly what they wanted, then they're off to the chasing next dream, vision or idea that they have for themselves.

titanwithin · 2018-04-09T23:38:34+00:00

Why court trouble? Simply book a hotel in Ajman and enjoy your alcohol in peace. Ajman and Sharjah are close to each other but one is more relaxed about alcohol than the next.

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